when she decides to quit the hobby. Then she moves on with one special guy most likely another client. Previously "personal phone numbers" and emails won't work anymore. You ask another provider what happened and they just scold you and say you should be happy for her. Her other "regulars" say the same thing out of groupthink. If one is ready for that, it's survivable, if not, well.. it couldn't go on indefinitely.
So I've been a ''regular'' of a certain girl for a few months now. Recently there have been some dramatic developments which I don't really want to talk about here. These developments are all good, but also very private.
But it leads me to wonder about the experiences of others. So I am asking anyone who cares to answer, what have your experiences been as a regular? Or to the escorts, what have been your experiences seeing regulars?
I am especially curious how the ''regular'' business relationship progresses, and how/why it might ever veer off into a non-business direction.
No doubt some of you may not want to answer out of concerns for privacy. But maybe some of you are a bit more open about it than I am.
but looking back on the many times where P4P has led to something more, as in "real" dating, i have to admit that on virtually every occasion the "line was crossed" very shortly after meeting.
I can't honestly think of a single time that a long term "regular" client/provider relationship has ever blossomed into something more, except for friendship of course. I am racking my brain to recall the couple of dozen real relationships I have had with providers, and how they started and I can't think of a single one where I didn't at least have an inkling that there was something more after the first couple of visits.
Funny, I have a few ladies where I am a "regular" of sorts, and although I would be open to dating a couple of them, because they really "do it" for me, which is the reason that I continue to see them, to be perfectly honest with you and myself, I know it's not in the cards for us to be more than friends and/or provider/client. If there was a spark with any of them, it would have manifested itself by now. My loss
but looking back on the many times where P4P has led to something more, as in "real" dating, i have to admit that on virtually every occasion the "line was crossed" very shortly after meeting.
I can't honestly think of a single time that a long term "regular" client/provider relationship has ever blossomed into something more, except for friendship of course. I am racking my brain to recall the couple of dozen real relationships I have had with providers, and how they started and I can't think of a single one where I didn't at least have an inkling that there was something more after the first couple of visits.
Funny, I have a few ladies where I am a "regular" of sorts, and although I would be open to dating a couple of them, because they really "do it" for me, which is the reason that I continue to see them, to be perfectly honest with you and myself, I know it's not in the cards for us to be more than friends and/or provider/client. If there was a spark with any of them, it would have manifested itself by now. My loss
So there isn't a specific reason why, it is just based on the Chemistry between the particular parties in question. However would you say that you tend to get along better with woman who are active in the hobby than those who are not? Would you also say that they would be more compatible to your personality?
I date a lot of hookers because I meet a lot of hookers, If I met only school teachers, most likely those would be the women that I would date the most.
I don't seek out hookers to date, nor do I have a prerequisite that the women I date are "hobby friendly" but I will admit that I do seem to get along quite well with hookers. It might be because they are much more open minded where it comes to sex, or it could be for a thousand other reasons. Either way, it is what it is.
I became friends with a former Provider that used to live in my city. Sure it started out as the usual Client / Provider Relationship. But over time we became Good Friends. She eventually moved out of state. I still keep in contact with her and drive over to see her every now and then. Even after 20 years she is still Fantastic to see.
The Girl I'm seeing in my city is Awesome. I read her Reviews on TER and decided to call her. I've been seeing her since March of this year. I'd say were Friends at this point. We're Friendly enough that if I'm short on Cash she'll still see me. Will it turn out to be a 20 year Friendship like my former Provider? Can't say for sure. But it looks like it's going in that direction.
If you want to know how a ''regular'' business relationship progresses, and how/why it might ever veer off into a non-business direction"? The answer is the same as to the question: how does any relationship develop? It just does. Or doesn't.
But having an 'expectation' that a professional relationship will veer off in a non-business direction seems one good way of guaranteeing that it never will.
I don't have clue how it happens. And, I'd say that anyone who tells you they do is full of shit. Sometimes people 'click'. And, when that happens, be awake enough to recognize it and enjoy it; for as long as it lasts.
Dominance, and Confidence are key. You both display these traits. Money, and Power don't hurt either. Unfortunately.. True love is so rare these days. People don't even know what it is. Don't get me wrong. I'm a whoremongerring piece of shit like the rest of us. But I miss the High School Crush. Sappy as it is.. It's true.
Eat a high fiber low fat diet, get moderate exercise and stay hydrated. That may not make you a regular client, but at least you’ll be a client who’s regular.
Eat a high fiber low fat diet, get moderate exercise and stay hydrated. That may not make you a regular client, but at least you’ll be a client who’s regular.
There's nothing wrong with that, I know their real name and have their personal telephone number. We catch up at each session and we hold each other and talk about whatever. But when it's over it's over. My motto is derived from a Santana song "you be you, and let me be me". I realize it's an arranged friendship, but it would be very difficult for any woman to fake the feelings we share. But there is a fine line that can't be crossed. We can enjoy those feelings of friendship and liking each other until the hours are up and then we go our separate ways. In this way we are always happy to see each other, we never fight and the only expectations are for the few hours we spend together. This is a wondrous relationship.
There's nothing wrong with that, I know their real name and have their personal telephone number. We catch up at each session and we hold each other and talk about whatever. But when it's over it's over. My motto is derived from a Santana song "you be you, and let me be me". I realize it's an arranged friendship, but it would be very difficult for any woman to fake the feelings we share. But there is a fine line that can't be crossed. We can enjoy those feelings of friendship and liking each other until the hours are up and then we go our separate ways. In this way we are always happy to see each other, we never fight and the only expectations are for the few hours we spend together. This is a wondrous relationship.
My problem is that when they're so Sweet and Adorable it's tough not to fall for these Girls. The Girl I'm seeing is so Nice and I have to remind myself of what she does for a living.
A former ATF I still see is also so Sweet and Adorable. She's out of the Business now. But she is always a lot of Fun to be with. I recently drove to her for a visit. Spent 1 week with her. Had an Awesome Time. The 2 days of driving it took was well worth it.
I do two days of travel to the major metro area nearest me. It's not two days of driving, but the entire trip takes the better part of two days.
A round trip flight from the airport nearest me to the major metro area airport costs $700. With schedules being what they are (flights as well as provider schedules), I'd still have to overnight at a hotel
I guess I could say I have an arranged friendship or two.
The part I'm wondering about is all this stuff about "never fighting". My ATF and I often do multi-day engagements, and the GFEness becomes very real very quickly, for both of us.
We've had some really rough moments on a few occasions that felt an awful lot like the kinds of arguments that any "real couple" might have from time to time. I don't think it has anything to do with (lack of) professionalism on the part of the provider or my being a slob or something. I just don't think anybody can be on their best behavior every waking moment of a multi-day date.
Don't get me wrong, mine is also a "wondrous relationship", and I'll be seeing this marvelous provider until doomsday, and the feelings in this "wondrous relationship" are likewise not-fake. I'm just not so sure that an "arranged friendship" must = "we never fight".
Or who knows, maybe our arranged friendship is more real than either of us would like to admit? I'll break the news to my SO if she breaks the news to hers first!
when she decides to quit the hobby. Then she moves on with one special guy most likely another client. Previously "personal phone numbers" and emails won't work anymore. You ask another provider what happened and they just scold you and say you should be happy for her. Her other "regulars" say the same thing out of groupthink. If one is ready for that, it's survivable, if not, well.. it couldn't go on indefinitely.
but I wonder how many ladies in this business actually "retire" with a former client and live happily ever after? I would guess it's a rather small number. I know it happens, and if I weren't such a shallow, rutting pig, who couldn't settle for just one woman, no matter how great that woman was, that guy could have been me on more than one occasion, but really, how many women leave this business to be with a guy they met through being a provider?
Like mister gambler said it just does. 99.9% of the time it's just a buisness deal, ya may even get extra time or grab dinner as friends. No diffrent than a salesman taking a client out. You're comfortable with eachother so it's kind of a friendship of sorts but similar to how you trust you're doctor or accountant. It goes both ways she's comfortable enough where she can share something's with ya and she knows you're not a creep or LE so it's beneficial for her to keep you as a client versus meeting new people.
Then there is the times like gambler spoke, it just happens, you'll know it just roll with it. From the moment you touch you'll feel something diffrent. Is it some kind of fairy tale happily ever after shit? Or maybe just a natural sexual chemistry that let's everthing come easily? I'm not smart enough to figure it out, but it does happen you can't look for it it just is. If its the real deal she'll feel it too and after doing the deed you'll be laying there asking eachother what the hell was that? Strange how our relationships here start in reverse meeting for sex and then the get to know eachother comes. Never dated a provider I'm married but I've had 2 occasions where a really kickass mutual friendship that went way beyond the physical developed. Really blew my mind its possible to have a special connection without the possibility of it turning into a marriage type thing. Probally didn't say that right but ya get the point neither person was expecting the other to change lifestyle just enjoy the hell out of eachother on and off the clock. I think that's what makes it so good for both people is you can enjoy it without pressure and real life bullshit. Kind of a fun fantasy for both. It's rare but if it happens it will do it on its own, you can't look for it or try and cultivate it. So to answer you're question you will know, and she will too. Just don't get ordinary lust and infatuation confuse you, that's typically what ya feel. But when that actual spark is there, both of you will know. Don't confuse it with love at first sight or some storybook crap that only happens in movies but whatever "it" is its pretty bad ass
In most cases, things just stay friendly and benign. You get to know more and more about each others' personal situations, but for the most part we honor each others' boundaries and good time ensue for years, and in some cases decades.
But there have been a handful of cases where things got out of hand leading to some pretty frayed nerves and collateral damage. It's part of the life we lead if you let things go too far.
Then there is the case of Bev Fisher and myself: we are getting hitched next year. I guess I'd call that the most extreme result of getting close.
I have seen girls in the cities I have lived in(VCR/SEW/SFO/LA/SD/LV) and some I do see regularly, not so much for the sex but for the time spent. I believe being naked with a sexy girl on a bed and just caressing and chat is sexy in its own way. The seduction and teasing leads to better experiences for me.
On the subject of being a regular, I usually see a girl once or twice if I like her, I usually get asked for my number or IM information and that usually starts the IMing or texting. Sometimes it is business to get me to comeback quickly other times it is to just chat especially when the girl is touring. I will not see a roommate of a girl or girl in same agency til the girl I am seeing leaves the city; just my attempt to be respectful.
Sometimes, with the girls, when they are on vacation especially since I live in LV, they contact me to go out party, I cover the bill and sometimes it can lead to sex but who wants to really have sex with a drunk girl. I recall a few times I had to stay up all night just making sure she and her friend don't choke on vomit or something like that; even worst sometimes I had cockblocked a guy at a club from taking her friend away cause I was concerned.
But if you click with the girl, it can lead to other relationships, I still am in contact with girls who went back to their home country and/or do not work anymore. Also sometimes it can end badly and feelings get hurt when things are not clearly understood.
I hope your developments lead to what you are looking for
So I've been a ''regular'' of a certain girl for a few months now. Recently there have been some dramatic developments which I don't really want to talk about here. These developments are all good, but also very private.
But it leads me to wonder about the experiences of others. So I am asking anyone who cares to answer, what have your experiences been as a regular? Or to the escorts, what have been your experiences seeing regulars?
I am especially curious how the ''regular'' business relationship progresses, and how/why it might ever veer off into a non-business direction.
No doubt some of you may not want to answer out of concerns for privacy. But maybe some of you are a bit more open about it than I am.
I'm not sure, but it probably is a combination of there being relatively few escorts on this board (that is, compared to the number of clients), and also a general disinterest in talking to us clients for purposes other than advertisement.
It may also have something to do with the price point of most of the girls on this forum. The experiences I want to know about seem more likely to occur with girls who charge considerably less. But maybe that's just my imagination. It's hard to say.
I considered asking this question on the 'other' forum where the sub-$100 market thrives, but I'd probably just get a bunch of misogynistic drivel and otherwise incoherent nonsense in response. I'll pass. :/ Too bad there isn't a middle ground, a place for people who can't afford to spend hundreds of dollars on a single appointment, but who still don't feel the need to treat escorts like circus animals. Hmm, that was a bit of a rant.
The first and only lady I met have recently become friends also. I have been seeing her for a few times a year for 2 or 3 years. I never expected anything to come from our paid time even though I liked her and had good chemistry with her. It started with her asking me to meet her for lunch the next day. Then we had lunch several more times and eventually started hanging out more and more. we talk or text nearly every day and hang out 2 or 3 times a week as friends. I still pay for our time in bed together sometimes,especially when she needs cash but sometimes its on the house, but she does usually give me money back or we end up being in bed 2 or 3 hours for a one hour date. Anyway I realize that our relationship is still about money for her to some degree. We just have personalities that match and enjoy hanging out with each other in our spare time. Just be careful of letting emotions get the best of you. And enjoy it for what it is and as for long as you can. Have fun and good luck.
More as friends or old lovers. The sexy time is great, as we are already accustomed to eachothers' bodies, and the overall quality of our time spent together is just better.
With regs I will go out for breakfast or lunch, they'll take me lingerie shopoing etc, and then I can show off to them in private .
I never rush any of my dates, but I am definitely more lax when it comes to time with my regulars. If I am having a good time I am not obsessing over the "money lost" if I want to spend an extra 15-30 minutes with an established friend.
Being a regular definitely has its benefits. We truly engage in a "mutually beneficial" relationship. As far as lines blurring, in order to keep it a business, money for my time is always exchanged. It is never essential to any of my dates but it is just the thing that keeps us grounded to reality because I am certainly guilty of getting lost in the fantasy..
Even just as a girl's business regular, it's very different from other kinds of relationships. I've been the regular of several girls in my admittedly short run of seeing escorts, and it's always quite fascinating to me. But this time something very special is happening. Obviously, I can't be the only one to find a magical pairing. It's nice to hear about others finding their own special experiences.
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