I can't be nice to a jerk,
Can't pretend to like something I dislike,
am very influenced by first impressions, and
am a bit too vain to have sex with someone I find unattractive.
I very much respect you wonderful ladies out there who are able to make a man feel like man (by satisfying his own individual needs).
would be a male escort? How many of you even wish you could? I think it was Cynicalman who alluded to that wish?
Are there any male escorts 'out there' in TER Land? I'd love to see their websites and reviews!
I had always fantasized about being a Courtesan, though I had no idea of even how sex (intercourse) worked until I was 18! Sounds old these days, doesn't it? But I decided to finally make it a reality.
What about you guys?
One admirable trait common to most quality providers, I have found, is that they have the ability to temporarily transcend whatever negative qualities a client may bring to the "date", whether it's an overload of cologne, smoker's breath, a poor attitude, or any of many other traits that make this a YMMV hobby. A good provider will always endeavor to make the date a good one, and I admire this ability. That doesn't mean that if something is over-the-top wrong with a guy (horrible hygiene, open sores, etc) that they won't protect themselves and tactfully refuse service. It just means that under normal circumstances they put up with alot of quirky stuff that a non-provider person would just not do.
As a former salesman I note a similarity in that I at times had to suck up to someone that wasn't particularly wonderful. But it's different with your clothing on and a desk separating you from that individual. An escort is completely unshielded (aside from a small latex device! LOL).
I'm sure that I couldn't be that way. Especially laid (NO PUN!) bare, as you gals are. And I thank the stars that you're as forgiving as you are.
...from the lack of business, especially here in Los Angeles. ![]()
All kidding aside, though I preferred to be the king, imagining my providers as part of my court, I doubt that I can accept being on call, risking my life on the occasional stalker, and looking in the mirror at myself after an encounter with someone that I would not date personally. Also, knowing that my looks and body will fade in time, I would have to find an alternative to make money anyway...or set up a financial plan where a combination of mutual funds, treasury indices and insurance would provide a return for me to live comfortably on. After all, my income earned through this profession would not count towards Social Security, since there is no W-4.
Anyhow...those who can do. Those who don't...attain a marketable degree, earn a great living, and become customers. I respect those ladies who have a goal and do what they must to accomplish it. Just be careful...Happy hunting!
DP
I'm supposed to be getting ready to leave - having car problems at a time when I least need or can afford them! Grrr! Anyway, couldn't resist peeking in on the board one more time before shutdown, and I laugh (smile) to see your post. Are you in Finance? I, being the Financial person, have thought the very same things, particularly about ladies who've been in the business full time and for a number of years - how it affects their SS!? Have thought about having a Financial Planning meeting with a few of my favorite Provider friends..but that's the Bean Counter in me, I guess! LOL
Good post..
...because too many providers fail to plan in this profession and lack the options to some day leave. One such agenda should teach them resume writing, the basics behind investing, income planning and education options to gain skills in marketable careers.
Yeah, the smarter ones will do this and we "clients" will lose the availability of their services, but life is to be enjoyed by all and providers should have the reward of financial independence for the sacrifice of their bodies and mentality.
DP
Actually, I have been told many times that my DATY abilities (and stamina) are very good. I have even had one individual (a girl friend, not a girlfriend) request an arrangement where I would be available for satisfaction purposes as needed. We had a nice arrangement for about a year and then she had to move (husband relocated). Yes, yes, I was a bad body then.
To be quite candid, I would probably starve if I had to make a living in this manner. My problem would be giving away what I should be charging for. Truly, I love to pleasure a woman for hours, so money is really not an issue. Of late, I have also learned how to give tantric massage to a woman; also too enjoyable for me to consider ever charging.
Oh well, I guess money is always the matter.
BTW, does the fact that I am willing to do these things for free make me a "man whore"? (smirk)
Is this a trick question? Nothing would make me happier.....I always said if I could be anything I want I would be a pornstar or a gigolo (barring that I'd like to be Demi Moore's bike seat)....Will you be my agent Sedona? References available upon request......Pics as well..
I can't be nice to a jerk,
Can't pretend to like something I dislike,
am very influenced by first impressions, and
am a bit too vain to have sex with someone I find unattractive.
I very much respect you wonderful ladies out there who are able to make a man feel like man (by satisfying his own individual needs).
Nah ... not the same thing at all.
Men like to have sex with different women because a part of us feels compelled to look, want, track and hunt even that which we don't want to take home with us.
Women mostly want sex for different reasons. The one's that JUST want sex ... well, they can get that just about anyplace ... so the ones willing to pay usually want more.
They want to be made to feel wanted. Desirable. Special. Loved. yanno ... all that touchy-feely CARING stuff.
Do geez ... if I have to pretend that I care about you and love you..... I might as well have stayed married to you!
...I've often opined that many/most men don't have what it takes (mentally). Then of course there's that physical requirement and it might at times be difficult to rise to the occasion.
(see link for some male escorts--from a quick google search)
Are you looking?
Some of us might be willing to discuss reasonable rates, y'know.
No, I'm not looking for one..Would just love to check them out! Why not? How fun! See their reviews...
No, just that Cynicalman, and my FB a few times, have both mentioned, 'well, sh*t, wish I could do that'..
well, you can..right? But, would you?
I mean, I remember the day I decided I would!
...about the day you decided you would. What were the determining factors? How has your experience compared to your initial perception?
No, I don't believe most men have the mindset required to be a successful provider.
[overgeneralization]
Men are takers, not givers.
Men generally are short on the empathy inventory
There's the pysical aspect
There's the "acting" aspect
And there might be more of a pride/ego aspect for some
[/overgeneralization]
I have, on several occasions, marvelled when mentally imagining all that must be required to be a succesful provider. You've really gotta have your act together. And that's one of the reasons I have a great deal of respect for independents.
I knew I always wanted to; felt I naturally have always been anyway, in a way; and then went to dinner with my SO/FB whatever and we had some wine, and I think he brought up that he thought I'd be good at it, and I told him I wanted to, and he said why don't you? If you were dying right now and had not ever fulfilled that dream, would it be one you'd really regret? And I said yes - it was definitely something I wanted to make happen at least some time in my life and he said then let's do it.
Initial perception, shaky, but surely due to being new and going through the learning curve; starting with the person I started with and then experiencing the ups and downs. How is it now? Greaaaaaaat...I love my guys; they're sweet, kind, interesting and SOOoooo much better at DATY than I ever knew you all could be - thank you- thank you - and just fun to be with - and so damn sexy! I mean does it get any better than this? Also, when I dreamed of this my dreams didn't have internet, reviews, message boards, a oommunity of cool people, great friends, fun times - and so having the pleasure of all that has been such a delightful surprise! Talk about a bonus and great benefit package! I like..
I enjoyed your last paragraph, as that's a fun discovery isn't it? I enjoy the things I discover in being a Provider; and am in such awe of my friends' talents and abilities. It's great fun.
At first when I really made that decision I thought oh man - is this some midlife crisis thing? I hope not! But, I decided it could be a midlife awakening..I kinda liked that..
In my cynical way, I imagine the world of a male escort more akin to that depicted in "Midnight Cowboy" than "American Gigolo." Why? The market, for one. For every woman willing to pay to have sex with a man, there are probably a hundred men also willing to pay to have sex with a man.
Why aren't women as willing to pay for sex as men are? They don't need to! One major difference between men and women is that if a guy approaches a woman, whether he knows her or not, and tells her he wants to fuck her, chances are he'll get his face slapped or worse. On the other hand, unless the woman is very unattractive, she can approach almost any man, say the same thing, and score every time. Hell, she could probably ask for money afterwards and sometimes get it!
Another factor is stamina. A woman can have sex several times a day with little effect on performance, whether they cum or not. Few men can say the same, and I'm certainly not one of them.
So, no, I wouldn't be a male escort. However, if I had been born a woman, I'd be the best damn provider who ever hit the earth! ![]()
For women, gladly, but I don't think I could handle more than one client a day.
For men, been there, did that. Helped me pay part of my way through college.
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I would love to, if I could, but I doubt that I would be able to get "up for it" when needed.
I have to tell you a story -- a true story.
I got an upgrade into first class, seat 1A. I ended up next to a woman in 1B who appeared to be in her 70's, was all decked out in a ton of jewelry and makeup.
I tried ignoring her, doing work for a presentation that I was going to give at a conference. But she wouldn't let me ignore her and she asked me where I was going. She told me to skip that and that I should go along with her to her destination.
When she was convinced I was not going to agree, she told me that I could make a lot of money if I would come to Miami and spend some time with her and her friends. I thanked her but told her I didn't think so.
Turns out, she was a celbrity from the days of radio and early television who I completely did not recognize. Anyway, having been asked to be her boy toy, I found that there was no way I could have said yes and also been sure that I could have delivered.
While you ladies don't have the same delivery issues that we guys have, I am always astounded at the intestinal fortitude, courage, and sheer will power that you must have in order to do good work in your profession. My hat is off to all you ladies!
I certainly would be yours! And, if they all were as attractive as you I'd think about it. With my luck some 300 pound woman with hairy nipples! What an image.
well, then, let's practice!
hot hot...
oh i'd love to be a male escort... i tried it for a while with no luck....
it wasn't about the money, i was young thinkin i could get some ass and get paid... i got a nice package for these ladies but nope... not much work
its hard being a male...just like adult films... i dunno, i wish it was as easy for men as women.
(see link below)
I'd do it in a heart beat if I could sustain my current standard of living. I would have to do minimum three appointments a day and since I am a guy I just don't think that is possible. We men just can't "fake" it like women can. But I can still dream on.
-R
I am not GQ enough to survive doing this. To answer your question....I don't think I would if I could. It takes a special person, and I don't mean the yellow bus kinda special, to be able to do this on a daily basis....I don't think I am that kinda person.