And she was Secretly doing it on the side, What would You Do?

Gotta be honest here; I (obviously) have no issues with p4p or casual sex, but when it comes to actual relationships, I am much more of the jealous type.  No offense to the married hobbyists, but I have never cheated on anyone and will never stay with a girl who sleeps with others behind my back.  Just the way I'm wired.  Now, that only applies to the specific scenario you just described. Would I knowingly enter into an open relationship with a provider?  I've met some fantastic ladies recently who have made me wonder just that question.  Even so, the transition from paying client to real-life boyfriend seems like a tricky one to pull off, and I just don't know how I would handle the knowledge of how spent her time away from me.

...so long as we are honest with each other.  Of course I understand the jealously thing, however if she really wants to continue working, than I can play as well.  Otherwise, clear communication in the end makes sure we as a couple will make an effort to each other.

Now if I found out I was involved with someone who had been lying to me about it for an extended period of time, that would be quite a different matter, but of course it would all depend HOW I found out. There would be a huge difference if we had a "honey we have to talk" moment, or if I stumbled across her web site. lol

That is, I wouldn't do anything after I dropped dead from shock.

Hugs

I'd like to think that I would react the same way I did when I got the 2am phone call from a drunk, jilted ex-wife of some guy. She asks me if I want to know  that my wife was fucking her husband (actually ex).
My response was that I wasn't interested. She asked why not. I said that it was obviously none of my business.
If it was my business my wife would have told me.

...but it wasn't last night. It's extremely unlikely that I'd be fooled for long. Now, if she's up front about it, I have no issues with it. If I'm fooling around, I can hardly expect her not to.

That's a good one

MY GF is a provider. Sometimes its ok, I have even joined her on some of her dates, but the thing that bothers me is she does things with her clients that she wont do or even admit to doing with me. She says its for money and I say if you can do something for money, why cant you do it for love ? If you can do it with a total stranger, why cant you do it with the person you profess to love more than any man you have ever met. I'm very open and kinky sexually and when I see she has done something with a client I want to try it but I get road blocked. Sad thing is some of the things I have already done with my ex wife and last GF, and even my provider GF, but then she will turn around and say she doesn't like doing it WTF?. That is all that bothers me about it. If she was more honest about it it wouldn't bother me as much. Don't deny you do something when its written right in a review for all to see

That my S/O was a hooker, I'd have to be honest and tell her that I've been seeing hookers  myself. What could I say? Either we support  another or split up.  

Wow purrfect answer, Fair and  Square !!  Xoxo

In those situations there was no hidding of what they did, because I saw other girls as well.  

Haha , yeah, I guess if you are a married guy who seek hookers, there's no stand for you to complain when you find out your wife is hooker XD

5 days a week. She would have to suck my dick the length of my commute.

Ummm yummy ..and  then take her shopping and a Big Allowance... Xoxo

We're always nice to pay fine it's our job. It's not a guy starts believing it in his personal life becomes a problem. Sounds like you're starting to stumble in little bit remember we are providers are always nice to fine please don't cross that line  and get Mix up everybody ends up hurt . 🙂Thruth.  Why don't you try dating.  I noticed the clients that are single don't know how to date or something missing in their life that they end up going to a provider. Maybe fear. Of rejection. I don't know but with the provider if you don't get rejection you only get words of kindness and acceptance. But in a real relationship  they're not always going to be with you and I could hurt the feelings you have to learn to deal with hurt feelings and some rejection at times most people's ego can handle it if the John that's why their John's I need acceptance of kindness  from someone without problems .  That's our job to help their life this week and comfortable and we love doing it as providers .  Relationships are great and natural but there's a thing called dating you really should try it really really try it read up on it stops in providers and start dating it requires discipline and kindness and acceptance of rejection at times . Try it  be happy to go just to help you out love you

That's why you won't have sex with me.

I'd call Dr Phil

...what if your wife found out you were paying sex workers???? How the heck wouldn't you notice your wife missing for hours banging other dudes????  Secretly ???? Seems more like a secret cuck to me.

"Most" hookers have a husband or BF, I don't know what the percentage of them don't know they are involved with a hooker, but the number is not an unsubstantial one.

I would be disappointed she hadn't told me. I would hope she was being safe, wonder what she was doing with the money; hope it wasn't being used for something illegal or put our family at risk.  
     We would have to talk about why she was doing it, did she enjoy it? Want to continue? Have a goal?  
     I'd be hurt to learn that she hated it but thought she had to for our family or if she had issues like drugs, gambling etc.  
       
     If I married her I love her I would hope. I wouldn't see her being a provider as the death sentence of our marriage but I would need to understand why she wanted to do it, enjoyed it at least for the most part and that she would be honest going forward.  
      It's hypocritical of me to want or enjoy sex with more than one person and not give my partner the same option if she wants it.

Wow you said it !   You Go Girl Xoxo

You've got it all down GaGambler xo

That's the bigger question for me. Not because of jealousy, but I'd like to know if staying together is worthwhile.
I guess it's more about emotional infidelity, rather than sexual. I know some people don't know how to separate the two. That's a shame.

Well if you can get the milk for free ,why buy the cow ?   But for me why give it away, if you can  make money too...in both cases you must really like Sexxxx..  I do.... XOXO

Can't really answer because I have neither a wife or girlfriend. But personally, I'd be bothered more by her keeping it secret than doing it with my knowledge.

... if she'd mind if I retired on her income.

Why do it - what need does it fulfill?  

Depends on how much you earn. If you're earning a good wage, why would your old lady want to provide, why not some other type of work...unless it was only about the sex.

Was a provider from day one. That's how we met.  After she took my money for sex the first time, it would have been difficult for her to convince me she was not a provider.

Kisses.. your a good guy, non judge mental, that's what loves all about..

and knowing him, I doubt love had anything to do with it.

two dozen provider outside GF's,  love only entered the picture twice.  For me, it takes 5-6 months to get to that point.  Most, but not all,  provider "relationships" don't last that long, as you probably already know.  

Shallow pig that I am, no matter how hot, no matter how skilled, after I have fucked the same woman a couple of hundred times it's really hard for me to stay that interested. I guess it must be a character flaw of mine. lol

While I, like you, might BE a pig, I don't date pigs, so they are all pretty hot and very skilled, so for me, the longevity is determined by how much fun they are to hang out with, not how hot or skilled they are.  I can only fuck a few hours a day, so if the rest of the time isn't fun doing other things together, I'm going to lose interest pretty quick.  

I have dated a few guys since I have been a provider.  

Yes and I too, have been in a relationship more then once ,  working as a provider,  &  I have my kitty cat children, to snuggle with Meowwww

I may be in this conundrum as I recently came across several escort postings (Eros, City-Source, & an escorting web site) that feature photos (face blurred) of my GF.  I am well aware that the use of false photos is rife, as all it takes is a screen capture + cut & paste, but there are some disturbing clues.
1) Several charges to the parent company of Eros on our joint account.
2) The 'About Me' FAQ details coincide with hers: work, heritage, cuisine preferences, etc.
3) I was able to match up images from the photography team that took the 'New Photos' in her CS ad from their social media feeds.
4) Quite a few charges on the joint account str in the same part of town the P411 profile advertises her Incall locale.
5) Her TER reviews describe her sexual behavior to a tea.
6) She made her Instagram private and has not granted me access to it despite my asking more than once.  Quite a few of the older photos (gotta love the Internet archive) were on her Instagram when it was public, which I saw.
7) CS tweeted her 'touring' availability the same weekend her & I went to Vegas for a seminar for her work.
I even prepared a Power Point presentation detailing the points above + more, and am waiting for the proper moment to ask her the difficult question.  I may email the PPP to the escorting email to start, or hand her a portable drive with it.  I am also considering hiring a private detective to conduct a sting of sorts.
It is at this juncture I should mention that her & I began as a Sugar Daddy / Baby thing.  After 9 months, she gave me an exclusivity ultimatum & I agreed to it.  I should point out that if it was true that I would be disappointed but not surprised.  My main objection would be the sheer hypocrisy of her escorting whilst demanding exclusivity (which I have lived up to, btw) from me.
If true, her & I will have to have a very awkward conversation.

I would look at this as an "opportunity" to renegotiate your deal with her.

I mean it would be nice to have a sugar baby, but I could never trust someone I am paying to be with exclusively. Money is something that you cannot depend on as a foundation of an exclusive relationship, because if that person wants to be with you they will be with you without the influence of money.

That's funny, pretend your someone else, make a apt. When door opens, What a Surprise Xoxo

And to be honest things between us was really bad for a long while. It wasn't the sex that was hard to take, it was the lies. I felt betrayed.  It nearly ended our marriage.  

After I blow up in a fit of rage, I might either break up with her, or become her pimp and help her manage her business, it depends on the kind of day I'm having. Incidentally, I just encountered an escort who told me that she reserves full service for her boyfriend who has not one iota of her being an escort, and it got me thinking, well what if I was the boyfriend? How would that make me feel if I found out? Women are complicated, and that's just another reason why I'm a MGTOW. The best movie to watch to see such a situation unravel would be "Confessions of a call girl (2007)" starring Tamala Jones. On the flip side, I never thought it would be such a major ego boost to fuck another man's bitch, especially one as smoking hot as she is. Does that make me a bad person?

if she's not willing to do it for love it measn she really hates those actitivies. and if you love her so much why would you want her to endure something she does not enjoy?

I have dated a lot of providers and just because she does certain things "at work" doesn't mean she enjoys doing them, one thing that jumps into my memory is being "gay for pay" I had one hooker GF who absolutely hated doing threesomes, and she would interact as little as possible with the other girl when she had to do one. Now if you were to read her reviews, a lot of the clueless johns would go on and on about how much the girls were "into each other" but a lot of johns are kind of stupid, (something else we probably agree on. lol)

Sex is best when everyone is having fun. If she doesn't enjoy something I can't see wanting her to do it, especially if I care for the woman.  

I know you know this already, but just to get it on here in this thread; just because some random reviewer claims a hooker "loves" some activity, that doesn't "prove" she actually even did it, let alone that she loved it.

You're in a session, and you ask the provider for something that was in her last review, and she says, "Oh, I don't do that with anybody."   (Usually in regards to FIV or CIM).    It makes you want to send a bill for reimbursement to the reviewer.  

They're all saying that in your case that's more of a YMMV issue than a not with anybody thing. A couple suggested a manicure and some pineapple juice, and you'll be good to go. LoL! Sorry, that was just too easy to pass up.

I DO get a manicure, but I don't drink pineapple juice.  Too much sugar.  I will suggest raw celery (or juice) for those that don't want to consume all that extra sugar.  Similar results in taste, according to the ladies.  

My guess is, she is self-conscious about behaving a certain way with you and Less so with clients.  Sometimes it's easier to "act out" with a stranger.  

We all do things for money we don't like. Is it that hard to believe that perhaps a hooker doesn't really like a dick up her ass, but that for money  she will tolerate it?

Hmmmm. That's interesting about the celery. Negative calories. I've eaten some watermelon almost every day for several weeks. No particular reason other than I just like it. Recently I've gotten a couple unsolicited "you taste good" comments. Obviously, ya never know if that can be believed, but if there's any truth to it I wonder if it's the melons. Would bring new meaning to the phrase melon head.