do you think this hobby is an addictive game we all are playing?

and after all these years of not having to answer to anyone, the thought of only one woman "for the rest of my life" is just not a concept I can really wrap my arms around.

If you leave...you will be back.

I once had a fave who was based in Dallas. Not a city I much cared for. But met her when I had to drift down there for some biz. It was instant bsc time for me. For the next 10 years I made up excuses to visit Dallas. If I was in town 5 nights I'd see her at least 3 of them and always multi hours. Our social OTC clock time was almost as enjoyable as the in room boom boom. As time rolled by we developed a level of trust that led to sharing a lot of personal info. I knew she was divorced with two boys. I knew her marriage had sucked. And though we really were rather close she knew I was happily married.

I see more than 90% of the people who claim to seek retirement, back within 5 years of being gone. I just learned from them to never use the word "never". Besides if Ure good at what u do and u get ur bills paid; why would u run towards retirement? This like every other profession, has competitiveness and cattiness. It's something unavoidable. Just try to stay positive,and always play safe. I would only quit the industry if I wasn't happy with what I did, or if doing this is seriously harming me emotionally. If u love pleasing guys and Ure good at it. Keep at it 😘

I mean I'm so addictive just reading this post makes me want to meet u lol  

i get her. thank you for writing this.  

Spread the love!  

"LMFAO....good luck babe wish you well you're going to need it..Wanna bet your still sucking cock in the fall?"

that a lot of people do not possess you know who you are...respect...  

and they can't stand that because of their own shortcomings they are reduced to patronizing you "lowly hookers" They claim to hate you, but it's really themselves they hate.

This was a very sweet message

lol, this what i wrote to him "i always be sucking dick, i love it...you should put a dick in your mouth...you talk too much..."

want to know who the hell you are and what did you do with GaGambler?

nteresting and well written. Your friend makes a lot of sense and I feel the same in some respects.  

But I am an asshole who actually likes most of the hookers I know. I mean honestly, with the exception of a few BSC and a few "old and bitter" hookers, what's not to like?

I think "addiction" is an over-used term.  We want to repeat enjoyable experiences.  But I think the word "addiction" should be reserved for rather more drastic impulses.  The reason I say this is because once we assign something as an addiction we can mentally abdicate responsibility for our actions and blame the addiction.

What's not to love about it? I get to meet the most fascinating men and then I get to have them in my mouth. They buy me presents, take me out to dinner, treat me like a queen, and then spoil me rotten with their tongues later. They sweep me off my feet regularly. I feel withdrawals during slow times. It's a helluva roller coaster!  

i guess that will be my formula)thanks gal

Am I addicted? I would say so. This hobby as we call it is way too much fun. Especially if the girls are super nice to you. My two ATF's are such sweethearts and so darn adorable. How can I not be addicted to them?

But I do think it's way too much fun. An addiction implies a compulsion that interferes with your regular life. For me it doesn't interfere with regular life, rather it enhances it. It gets me through the boring parts. Like when I'm doing yard work, and thinking about that upcoming atf session. It's also a lot of fun having an outlet to share ones experiences like these forums, and or reviews. But I only check in from time to time. It doesn't rule my life.

(Warning, this is longer than the ballsack on Methusaleh . . . )  

In civvie life, it would be impossible to have a circle of friends that I've enjoyed for the past decade.  All of them are or were special to me in their own way, and I have intention of leaving anytime soon.

GaGambler,  
  You are a joke!!

You make this whore fest seem like a fairy tale. Most woman are not in this profession to meet their future husbands. They are in it for the money & possibly the pleasure.

I am sorry about your situation,  as I have previously posted, for a business relationship to flourish into a personal one, it should work both ways......No more hobbying for him and No more providing for her!  No ifs ands or buts!  This is an excellent bond to sustain a relationship that most would agree started in a different type of setting.
 

But I also heard that majority of providers won't provide for life.  Majority only provided temporarily and then left.  Not sure which to believe.  

I wish I could walk away for good. So it isn't the sex itself that bothers me. It's the preoccupation with the whole thing. Who will I see next? Is so-and-so-and-so going to be all that her profile and pics seem to present her as? Should I see the blonde or the redhead? Who's new in town?

I do not see it as addictive, something to "beat", or long for "new beginnings".
I do not see it as something to retire from.
I started fucking at 13 and never looked back.
Whether I'm here, working in a hospital, office, or restaurant,
I am going to be a magnet for the genitals of men
and jealousy of insecure women.

It fills a void when something's missing.  And that something is different for all of us, thus the vast array of approaches to being here.   As I've said many times around here, I am not sure there is a better feeling than knowing there's someone to share the good times with.. and the bad.  As long as it's a two way street, more or less lol, it's a great feeling to know that there's an arm you can reach for when you're falling.    

I never understood sex addiction until I started doing this.. so why quit..I understand it now..

The love and trust of a like minded partner,
and to be fucked so hard we can't go to work tomorrow.
😉

I want great orgasms.  
I do not want a girlfriend or wife.  
I want good memorable experiences which provide escape for a couple hours from a busy life. Kinda of like going to the movies that have great endings.
After it is all said and done, I want to go back to my life because I enjoy it.

I figured out long before I joined the hobby (or whatever you prefer to call it) that a traditional monogamous relationship just wasn't for me. Because of this, I spent much of my adult life single, until I was introduced to the idea of polyamory. I have had one really beautiful non monogamous relationship, where we considered ourselves emotionally monogamous, but were physically free to do as we wish as long as protection was used

It's WOMEN that are addictive.

that my only regret is not starting earlier. I know I'm still relatively new to all of this, but feel strangely at ease here. I have ran my own business since my early twenties, I love sex, I love meeting new people, and I truly love entertaining and creating a memorable experience for someone.  

I was thinking the same thing. To for this to be an addiction for someone (and it can be), there would have to be a loss of impulse control. The following activities to me would be more of an indication that someone is addicted.  

...due to opportunities elsewhere to get the services I crave.
But I suspect that I will continue to dabble from time to time.

I eat, I get hungry again.  I sleep, I get tired again.  I shower, I get dirty again.  I have sex, I get horny again.  I must feed my needs, however I can, or my life will not be worthwhile.

... it's what we enjoy from intimacy with women that's addictive.  It's well known that there's mood-altering chemicals rekeased when people are touched, held, kissed, and have sex.  If "hobbying" is the only practical way to have this kind of intimacy, then it will be addictive because of the high it gives.  

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Was so depressed after my stroke when I was unable to work for like 3 years....Being a lover is so much A Part of who I am, I JUst felt a real void.....MY first session back left me feeling euphoric, like I finally got my "fix" So yes, I guess I am addicted to it!

Anyway , joking aside  
I feel that I am also hooked on this hobby  
I try to control it best I can I usually have my limit  
on how much I am willing to spend weekly and I am pretty good  
but it seems like I am thinking about the hobby more than I should,  
and I think this is my bigger issue.  

but quite frankly I have my own fucked up moral code that prevents me from having a polyamorous relationship that could last forever.  

a gentleman emailed me the following:

Not quite sure which part of it you're referring to as a fairy tale. I'm certainly not here to meet my future husband. Lol!! I'm here to have some fun. And I am only speaking from my own experience and from those of people I know.  

It's just a decision about what you want in life.
I had a fun 3 year run in the hobby.
Met some amazing women and really got me out of my shell.
But... this "most incredibly intimate yet completely non-intimate" hobby made me realize what I really wanted - which is a committed relationship with someone I care about and who cares about me (yeah, sappy but true).
At least this is my plan/hope for now.  Have met a great lady, so will see where that ends.
I really did have some fun times though, and while I started as a just a complete horn dog, it was some of the openness from wonderful ladies where guards were let down a bit that surprised me the most and helped enrich the experiences.  But, those little echoes of true intimacy just made me yearn for the real thing.  It did get me out of my shell and off my butt, on to regular dating sites etc.  Gave me confidence to just go after what I want out of life.  Guess I'm a bit of late bloomer in that regard.