Hi.  Unfortunately, 2 weeks ago I had to have prostate surgery.  I know that if I am ever to have an orgasm again, it will be dry since the prostate is gone.  Question is, are there any other hobbyists out there who were able to resume hobbying and if so, how long after your surgery.  Any tips for bringing the little guy back to life would be much appreciated.  The doc says he spared the nerves, so in enough time I should be OK.

Told my ATF before, saw her after.  She became my physical therapist, medically reimbursable expense. Six months after? Forget anymore, as its been 5 years.

For me, it was a question of the half-life of the radiation.  Physically, I was ready and interested in 2-3 weeks.

Best wishes for being cancer-free and having minimal side-effects.  My volume is typically only a few drops, which I usually explain beforehand.  Experienced providers are familiar with our situation.  I joke about it being an easy clean-up.

I am a little over one year out from the same procedure you had. My advice is that is takes time, and least 4-6 months or more in many cases. It is important for blood flow to be reestablished, so begin by whacking off to some porn and as time goes on you will have a better reaction. ED drugs help and a cock ring keeps the blood where you need it.

I have no problem with getting hard and having sex, although the sensation is not the same as before and it takes a long time to orgasm, albeit a dry one. Just be patient and do not get discouraged, it is a process.

I make my views on the whole Prostate thing known to my Drs. I flat out refuse the finger in the ass because I've seen too many guys have their prostates cut out and suffer post surgery issues. The chance of dying from prostate cancer is very low (for white males with no family history) and many medical pros have stated that "over treatment" of prostate "cancer" is an issue. No thanks.

If it's discovered in late life. But for middle age or younger it could be a real problem not to get it checked IMO. But you just keep on keeping on...

Steph

I had radiation treatment 10 years ago...it was then the newest procedure. I can't ejaculate, but still have great orgasms.
The providers don't care. It seems they are happy  that they don't have to get a "mouthful."

Thanks for your response.

Thank you for your encouraging advice.

Thank you Steph. Yes, I agree, due to it's slow, relatively non aggressive approach, for someone whose age is north of 70 a radical prostatectomy may not be best. I, however am 58 years old with a young teenage daughter for whom I wish to be around a long, long time.  

So you have it right Ms. Mature GFE!

HP

I'm not a medical doctor but I'd love to play one on TV, southern accent included!-LMAO

 

Steph xoxo

and here's why I say that.  My prostate cancer was diagnosed about 20 years ago, and evaluations by two eminent doctors, one a urologist/surgeon, the other a radiation oncologist, were identical: "the cancers are near the prostate wall and relatively faster growing.  Watchful waiting is not an option because in about 2 years you'll start to go down hill."  I chose radiation and seeds. Afterwards, I had partial ED but was already beginning to experience that before the cancer was discovered.  Tried all pills plus muse, which helped but full erections apparently gone for good.  Cialis is best for me.  Providers are totally unfazed by this and combinations of BBBJ, HJ, and partial penetration get the job done very nicely, with almost normal orgasms and cum.  I feel fortunate to be alive and am otherwise in very good health for an old guy.  An ATF in her 40s says I'm lucky, most of the guys she knew at my age are already gone.  This very day I had a wonderful time with her -- she treats me as though I'm a wonderfuck although we both know that it's not quite that way.  So please do the needful and enjoy what you can as long as you can.

Thus she thinks you are still fun in the sack! I'm so glad you are still here and able to enjoy being with the ladies you like. Sounds like you are a "glass is half full, rather than half empty kinda guy!

Stephxoxo

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Thanks for that poem.  I've loved it ever since I first read it in college a long time ago.  My SO, who believe it or not, is a wonderful person, disagrees, saying old folks should recognize who and what they are, and not try to relive youthful pleasures when their bodies and capacities have moved on.  Her mantra, and she's quite a bit younger than I, is "accept what you are today, make the most of it, do good works, and accept that nature is taking its course."  I'm summarizing, of course, but that's the gist of it.  I've tried to say that I'm not trying to be something I'm not, but just enjoy whatever I still have."  She doesn't quite understand how wonderful many providers are and what they do for us and actually enjoy what they do.

Many thanks.  My experience this afternoon is still with me, so I will amplify.  My friend said, in the middle of a playful and interactive session, "Fuck me."  I wanted to badly and she was saying, "keep on it feels good" and so forth and I penetrated partially, but that was it and after a bit I said, "that's the best I can do."  She gave me a wonderful smile and asked, "Are you happy?"  I said, "yes you were wonderful and I feel great."  She says, "If you're happy, I'm happy too."  Of course it's playacting, but what's the matter with that?  A part of that was certainly heartfelt.  We had a fine time.

Actually ...

Over-treatment is indeed an issue, because the side effects--possible impotence and/or incontinence--are nasty.  I also think that radical removal is overdone.  It is also an appropriate choice only if the cancer has not spread beyond the prostate capsule.  Seeding or some other form of radiation that can treat the seminal vesicles and just outside the prostate is more thorough.  The side effects may also be less than with radical surgery.

It is important to know the PSA level, Gleason score, and size of the tumor.  Based on those, a treatment or non-treatment decision can be made.  For example, if the PSA is only 3, the Gleason is 5, and only a couple of samples show cancer, waiting is a viable option.  I have a friend whose PSA was 80 and Gleason was 8 (the max is 10).  He had the full kitchen sink treatment as part of a clinical trial.  I was is a much lower risk group, but my father had died of prostate cancer at 68 after surgery at 66.  So I decided on brachytherapy.  My doc has a nearly 100% survival rate after 15 years--and a survival rate of 100% for guys with my numbers.  It's been nearly 9 years and things are fine so far.

My ejaculation is not "dry," but the volume has been reduced by over 90%, because my prostate, which normally would manufacture the bulk of the semen, is scar tissue, not normal prostate cells.  The other side effect relates to urgency of urination.  Previously, when I felt a strong urge to pee, I could defer it by up to an hour.  Now, it's about 15-20 minutes.  My erectile quality is good to very good, though there has been a slow, gradual long-term decline over 50 years, irrespective of the cancer.  Sometimes, I think that getting old is a bitch, but it sure beats dying young