Geeze guys You sound like a bunch of emotional needy wimps that have watched too many soaps or read too many romance novels. I was told by many upon my entrance into this hobby that “it’s all about the money” and
“ we pay them to go away”. That any relationship other than cash for services will end badly. If you have the “white knight” syndrome you will be sadly disappointed. Like in DC, if you are looking for a friend buy a dog. If you are looking for a BBBJ call a provider. What part of this is bad advice? I have my fire suit on so flame away.
The  Cynical One

We are human and subject to strange emotions.

(Where's Mr. Spock when you need him?)

that life is one big fucking grey area. There are no absolutes, in anything. Except maybe death. I'd say taxes, but...

has not troubled mankind.  Some believe that he became incapacitated when his logic circuits were overloaded by the constant refusal by XiaomingLover1, NOSCTRADAMEUS and other inhabitants of that far off world to accept Mr. Spock's pronoucements as in fact logical.  Others believe that he was the tired figment of BizzaroSuperdudes overactive immagination and his need for a worthy villian with whom to do battle.  The most likely explanation is that he was reduced to an osmotic fog when he finally did actually see a provider.  Whichever, his demise and disappearance is one of the great mysteries confronting our society today.

even though every now and then I go "ouch"!  but hey!  I also say that when I stub my toe!  lol

All human endeavors are governed by two things...

1) Physical laws of the know universe and
2) Politics... and

I am not sure I have them in the correct order!

sweet sex is the thing that makes the world go round.

so grey it is....

Much love

"fucking grey area"? the area is only grey in later years and no problemo if the lady shaves....

Aside from death another absolute is that "there are no absolutes"....

And you sound like you see providers as objects to use and discard. I have had the pleasure of dating a number of the providers I have met over the years - relationships lasting months and years - that always ended with one of us moving away. But then long distances tend to do that to most relationships, especially romantic ones.

Nothing wimpy about enjoying a ladies company no matter how you happen to meet.

Of course money is part of it; I've no illusions about that  -- but, as they say, shit happens.   As Avalon Rose says, nothing is black and white.

I have  wondered to where he has beamed himself a number of times in the last several weeks.

I miss the byplay between you and him.

Are you hinting that you're actually Mr. Spock and engaged in a sham debate?

Pephaps he's merely on vacation? Hope he's well and safe.  And annoying the crap out of some hapless captive audience crazed enough to sit still and to take him seriously. I await his return -- but no time soon.

Thanx for a kind word!

and the other one, who shall remain nameless (actually the have a name!), was positive that I was actually writing as Mr. Spock!  categorically no, I am not him, unless for some reason I get up in the middle of the night and pen the totally mindless attention to minutia in which he excelled.  I have thought of booking an all nighter with a provider and paying her to just watch me, to be sure that I am not of the ilk...  However, I snore, and the fear of scaring away any provider that I would ask such a task of with the noise of my somulant expressions is too much to bear.

I really do not know where he went!  Perhaps he was very afraid of the coming of "superman" and was worried that he would be no match for him?  

Thank God we still have Lex!

all play a role in ending any relation.  Whether it be hobbiest provider or civie.  But what do I know... I am seriously emotionally stunted! lol!

I am not sure you speak for the majority of guys that frequent this space, but too many have these "pipe dreams" that set them up for failure in all of their relationships with women. I suspect that falling for someone in any situtation is possible, but all I try to remember is that you are kissing the same lips that have been on a thousand cocks and well, I get sober.