There are definitely differences between the hobby and dating in real life.  When selecting a provider (at least from a large city) one has a HUGE selection to choose from and only his only real limitations are budget & personal taste.

When I was a civie (long ago before being married) I remember dating many 7's and even a few 8's.  Being an average younger guy in his 20's during the 80's I just did not have the options that are possible from the hobby today.

So here's my question, Is it possible to schedule a session with a provider who is TOO BEAUTIFUL?  I know that sounds like asking if you could have too much money or a car that's too fast.  But, I am beginning to think it may be possible.  

I have a session scheduled this weekend and I am quite literally scarred to death.  I have been thinking about reasons to cancel but I am equally excited that an encounter with a 10 could be the type of experience that attracted me to the hobby in the first place.  To add a little background this provider also gets 8 & 9 (most 9's) on her preformance reviews as well.

I am looking forward from hearing from the vets and providers on this one.

Enjoy. It is all a fantasy. You pay for her time. She gives you a good time. End of story.

You are talking about a benchmark that is fairly arbitrary. I give a ten in appearance to my ATF, as do others, and she sees herself as an 8 at best.
Everyone has a different version of "most beautiful" and probably "too beautiful" as well. Also, everyone places a different value on looks vs. performance. I like a certain personality type and I also have ethnic preferences so a blond, blue-eyed all American Cheerleader type is typically not going to get a rise out of me. Where as others will be looking for just that.

If you have seen her reviews and her pictures and you like what you see I would say just go for it.
Have fun with this new encounter. Relax and enjoy!

A few months ago, I made an appointment with a provider whose pictures made her look pretty, but when I met her I was floored.  She turned out to be the most beautiful woman I have ever met.  Way better looking than her pictures.

At first I was intimidated too, thinking that, normally this woman would be out of my league, but she turned out to be very down to earth and have a great sense of humor that I quickly felt at ease, and we had a great session.

We have since established a good, comfortable rapport that makes our sessions even more fun.  

I strongly suspect that if we had met in civvie life, she would have either rejected me or automatically put me in the "friend zone".  Having met this way, I think we were able to break down some pre-conceptions we might have had about each other if we had met some other way.  That's one of the great things about the hobby.

If she accepted you as a client, don't sweat it anymore.  Just have a good time and enjoy the memory.

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For example, I suppose there are many out there that consider the likes of Brittney Spears and Paris Hilton to be attactive, but they do nothing for me at all.

On the other hand, I like a gal whose face shows some character and has some meat on her bones.

Then again, the appearance is only one aspect of what I enjoy about a woman.

The person's personality, intelligence and just plain sexiness are far more important than their looks.

This week I had my first dinner date hobby experience.  I suggested a nice location, and that she wear appropriate attire for meeting for dinner after work.

Once I booked the appointment, the doubts set in -

 Would the place be classy enough?
 Would she be "under-dressed" for the location?
 Would she be over-dressed in comparison to me?
 What would the staff think of the mismatch of this lovely lady dining with me.

In the end I had a great time, and my advice to you is to relax and enjoy!!!

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Absolutely.  I can name 3 provider I am dying to meet  -- all of them in the 9-10 range for both apeaance and performance -- and i absolutely cannot pull the trigger and schedule with them.  i'm so aware of my own physical frailties and shortcomings relative to each of these ladies that i'm figuratively paralyzed with fear at the thought of tying to schedule.

Yes, words like intimidated and out of her class have passed through my mind.  However, the stories you guys have related reminded me that this experience is about pleasure, being relaxed, and most of all living the fantasy.

I wonder what she would think if she knew I felt this way.  For all I know she is thinking, wow this successful guys wants to see me out all of his possible choices (yes - I will keep telling myself that - lol).

In any case, thanks for the words of encouragement.  I am definitely going for it!

and the wench should count her blessings  that you have chosen her among the many, and you will bed her and she will be begging for more.

Hey...if she's TOO Beautiful, maybe the bag should be over the clients head!

This thread couldn't have come at a more appropriate time. I'm scheduled see lady in January who is a solid 9/10 in performance and looks. When I set up the date, we chatted about 15 minutes on the phone and that definitely has helped calm the nerves. Now I just can't wait to meet her.

There are certain ladies whose reputation for the "prowess of performance" is known far and wide. Although they are all good looking, beauty has usually little to do with their reputation. Maybe they have a specialty or maybe it's their energy level or their willingness to explore new or break boundaries.

There was one in particular that had always been on my A-1 list but I continually felt that I wouldn't have what it takes to keep up with her, so I never booked. Then one day, partly due to random circumstance I found myself face to face with her at a M&G of sorts. We got to know one another over food and drink and I promised to schedule an appointment after we both got home.

Well, I did, but was still apprehensive about the meeting. My nerves were on edge, on a very sharp edge. So much so that psychologically I think I talked myself out the ability to perform. I totally failed to hold up my part of the encounter.

But guess what? She didn't give up on me. She worked and worked at it. She restarted her approach, first trying one thing then another, until finally she led me down the path I had come to view. Ends up that she was a true professional that totally lived up to and beyond her reputation, at least in my book.

As much as I want to though, I still haven't rebooked. I’m still scared. In the back of my mind I tell myself I'm saving her for a special occasion.

Thanks Bebedoll.

I was nervous as hell my first foray into this hobby. Her beauty surpassed any pics and her attitude calmed me down a lot. Just go into the date with the idea of having fun and you will.

b-

Yeah, I can relate to this.

I guess from what people are saying that stuff doesn't matter, but you can't help but think in the back of your head that it will, or they will judge you (and they might, but as long as they ACT well enough.. I'd say I don't care.)

And think about in your job. It's a busines. I actually find that strippers have been the nicest to me (not at the club in their personal lives) because they are used to big guys like me and aren't put off by us. I've taken advantage of that abit, but that's a diff story, heh.

i think the same would apply here, they've met us (average/fat/ugly whatever..), maybe even enjoyed time with a few, so I'd think if they are a good provider they would be more open-minded (and I've had plenty that are like this..but certainly all are not.. some girls are just like guys in they are into aesthetics, others are not..)

My recent exerpeince I felt judged even though I picked an average girl on purpose (thinking a hot girl would be disgusted by me, as I'm struggling with my weight in my early 30's),

I think your almost better going with the 8+'s at least if your going to be judged it's not going to be by an average chick. And actually, average regular girls, I THINK (IMO) are going to be the ones that will be MORE putoff. YMMV

I'd say take comfort in they've seen better (probably much better) and they've seen worse (probably much MUCH worse..). It's almost no different than regular dating, in which that usually applies.

I mean there are good looking dudes that do this, but I'd say there is a large perecentage that are averageish.. or older..
I'm trying to get over this hurdle myself, why I enjoy coming here. Eventually we will learn to enjoy it if it kills us though!

Though I must say , though off-topic, if I was worth as much as some of these hedge-fund guys, I probably wouldn't even bother with a 'regular' girl. I love providers!

-m

Sounds like a bitchin' provider. THAT is the kind of dedication to work, that I'm talking about. really wonderful.

-m

Go for it man, your a huge stud. Just carry that attitude, I gotta roll with that myself.  The key is she should make you feel like  'wow this sucessfull guy... ' even if she doesnt mean it. I am all for suspending disbelief

heh.

-m

I only slept about 4 hours last night.  Today is the day!  I am more excited that a kid on Christmas morning but I would be lying if I didnt also say that I have butterflys in my stomach big time.

And, yes I agree with the post that somehow I seem have an inverse relationship between beauty and my performance (the more beautiful the great pressure I feel to perform) or perhaps better stated I fear a direct correlation between beauty and performance anxiety.

In any case, having an outlet for this topic has me feeling much better.  The first part of coping with (and overcoming) my fears or perceived fears is to better understand them.  

It is time to work out, then meditate, and then go have fun!  Wish me luck!  I was just thinking after all I am not the one that will be having my looks or performance rated / reviewed (thank goodness).  Maybe us guys on the client end of the equation really do have it made!

...money. Get real will ya!

I am shorter than the average male, so I have not scheduled with anyone who is taller than 5'6".

I have no doubt that I'd get off, but I'd be worried about leaving her dissatisfied.  I could take the attitude that I'm paying her so I shouldn't have to care, but mutual pleasure is an important part of my experience.

Besides, I'd always wonder if she was making fun of me behind my back and I don't want to pay to be with someone who's potentially ridiculing me.

I always seek out the 10's and 9's  in looks and performance.. As long as your budget allows...go for it...  scared???  come on,  its a business!!!
She will treat you right if she is well reviewed as you say..  after the first 10 minutes.. you won't be thinking about it !!!  
just my .02

I can understand where you are coming form. I'm on shorter than the average myself.
Just as in civie life it is something that can't hold you back.
Will there be some who might mock yu behind thier back. Possibly, but that is there problem.
Any provider who has been doing this awhile I'm sure has seen all types. If she only performed with guys of a certain type she wouldn't get consistantly good reviews.
I could be wrong but I think the genuineness of the person is the harder to hide than faking the sexual stuff.

than Bebedoll.  None of us really fully appreciates the lady because, as mere men, we're incapable of fully exploring the depths available through this wonderful woman.

Wow, Great topic. I am mid 50's and I get only a few opportunities per year to hobby in the Phoenix area. I have always booked high end sensuous massage providers I get a 9 or 10 so I have a nice view but am not expected to perform to any pre-determined level. I liked the safety of no expectations. Although they have all been beautiful, and very profesional. For me to lay there and be spoiled no longer rings my bell like it once did. SFBM has become rub & tug and no longer as exciting as it once was. I think I want something more and am having a tough time. I have not been able to really made a connection with any of them so it is still just business thus I find myself wanting more. I'm afraid GFE might seem like acting and insincere. Maybe a more mature GFE provider will be better for me, more understanding of an older man's sometimes complicated/confused mind and enable me to relax?
And am worried that I want more now, what will I want next year? Am I doomed to want more & more and prettier and younger from now on?

I don't know if anyone is "too beautiful". If she had good reviews, and I could afford to see her, then I would.  Why stay away from a gorgeous lady?

I felt that from the start actually went after a less attractive provider maybe a 6 so Id feel more comfortable my first time but found my second one who was a 9 much more fun and skilled. The change of mindset is what is crazy you go from standing in a club waiting for something to happen to then walking into an apartment with a girl hotter than anyone you've ever been with is walking around in a g string naked and asking to suck your dick.

I'm not sure if this answers your question, but uglier women do tend to "put out more".  Its the balance of nature.  But having said that, I date some super cuties knowing their menu is prefixed.  Is that wrong?  I just know you gonna compromise to get the cuties.  Maybe one cutie per every 2 or 3 real doers.  But the real McCoys are the ones, not the "don't get in my hair" types.  If I only had a nickel for every time I heard that.  I don't eat the garnish, but I'm always glad its there.

is to provide you with real fantasy unmatched by any ...

That is what it makes it all worth the company of the providers.

I've been considering going to a couple of 6'0" providers with solid 9 and 10 ratings.

On one hand, you're right, if they weren't comfortable with different body types they wouldn't be successful.  On the other hand, these providers are in high enough demand that they can turn down business and still do really well.

Perhaps the sticking point is the money.  If such a woman mocked me in civvie life, I'd be pissed but I'd still have my money.

But the hobby exists to allow me to try it at least once right?

http://www.theeroticreview.com/reviews/show.asp?id=4951

I am definitely a 7 / 10 guy rather than a 10 / 7 (APPEARANCE / PERFORMANCE).

I think the ultimate is the famous porn stars if you can afford them that would seem to be a crazy experience.

I am 5'-6" myself.  While I generally am attracted to more petite women, I have purposefully scheduled a few appointments with providers that are taller than me.  I figured I might as well test it out in this environment (ie. where she wouldn't probably say "no").  If it worked great, then I could open up my Real World (tm) options.

Well, I have found that, as in everything else, sometimes the height difference doesn't really matter, and sometimes it is a bit of an issue.

Now, mind you, these observations were always from my perspective.  I never really worried that the lady would be, "making fun of me behind my back ..."  I go on the assumption that the Hobby allows me to circumvent the usual obstacles to meeting beautiful (and taller) women than I would normally have a reasonable chance with otherwise.  Once we have met, interacted, and been intimate, if they still think that height is an issue, then I probably wouldn't care to be around them much anyway.