Are any of the burdens of supplying necessities - such as condoms or lubricants - placed on the hobbyist in the hosting situation?
In the near future, I will be the host (out-call) for a first time meeting with a provider at a well-reviewed hotel.
I have never hosted a meeting with a provider but I have enjoyed numerous sessions as a guest (in-call).
I would appreciate receiving any advice or pointers (do's and don'ts) from both the gentlemen or the ladies as to how I can make the absolute best impression as a host. Thank You!!!
Well you already said that it was a very upscale hotel which is the first important thing you have covered.
Just make sure you have her donation in envelope in plain site
and i'm sure i don't even have to say this, but for some hobbyists out there, maybe i do..
be showered and smelling good, and if you really want to make a great impression..maybe have some flowers or something nice waiting for her along with your hard penis! lol
Jay
just be polite and nice....
If you are hosting, it is an opportunity to make the atmosphere what you want it to be, instead of being the guest. If you are so inclined, take the chance to make it a combination of what you find comfortable and what you envision she would like.
Water and/or other beverages
Mood/background music
Candles for lighting
As mentioned by the ladies, the most important things are being clean and nice. These other things are merely additions.
Of course, you and I and most of us would always remember the clean showered flossed brushed gift-in-sight, etc stuff.
I love to host since it allows me to set the atmosphere. Things like music, flowers, candles really depend on the mood you want to set. The things I always do is to be sure I know if the lady has any beverage she likes available and to be sure it is there. Always mineral water and any soft drink. I don't drink alcohol on a date, but have what she likes available if I know it. Things like a snack or even a meal depend on her, the time, the length of the date, etc. Unless the date is a long one or the time is particular, I find food (except for a snack) gets in the way.
Have fun.
I would suggest any beverages you provide should be sealed. Let her open any she chooses.
A scented candle is nice, music appropriate to the occasion.
skb
I just did my first host for my ATF and this is what i did and she was blown away. I first did a 3 hour host so I, nor her would rush. It also made her a good weeks of income as well.
I got a very upscale hotel with a large garden tube. I had candles everywhere included around the tub. Of course I showered and brushed and had scented canles (but not the realheavily scented ones). Had the lights off and the tub full of bubbles. Had chilled champaign with strawberries and bananna with whip cream and choch. sauce. I had the bed turned down and had some very light rubbing oil to give her a wonderful massage. I feed her the fruit by hand and she loved this!!!
Needless to say she was blown away and let me know that the whole evening. Instead of the 3 hours we stayed 6!!! (no charge for the 3 extra hours) She said it was the nicest thing anyone (hobbie or civie) had ever done for her. If you could see how beautiful this lady is you would know why I'm so lucky to have found her and want to treat her like a queen.
Hope this gives you some idea if you really want to blow your lady away!!...Good luck!!
Have clean towels, and offer her a shower, just like they do for us.
Make sure the place is clean.
When she arrives, open the door immediately.
I enjoy hosting at a hotel. The anticipation of waiting for her always excites me.
Have fun.
Everyone knows that if the gent hosts the rules are....
You must have a masseuse on duty for her.
You must have a manicurist & pedicurist for her.
The room MUST be filled with thousands of flowers.
Champagne fountain
Buffet table filled with her favorite foods.
Her favorite singer in person to croon through the evening.
Gee, I thought everyone knew these rules!!!
Wink!!
MEOW!
I visit my ATF in her area even though I could wait until she comes to town to do in calls. She prefers it as well since it is much more low key for her. I have music, candles, water and snacks. We go out to dinner afterward so I don't go too heavy on the snacks.
On one visit earlier this year I surprised her by getting a room with a jacuzzi. When she called to say she was on her way up to the room I unlatched the door for her, as I always do, and hopped into the jacuzzi to wait for her...The look on her face when she walked into the room was priceless!
Are any of the burdens of supplying necessities - such as condoms or lubricants - placed on the hobbyist in the hosting situation?
Not in my experience. Both of those items, especially the lube, are something that the ladies tend to have personal preferences on. I know some guys always have their own condoms with them just in case but, honestly, a gal who shows up for an out call without rubbers just isn't trying very hard...
Only if you are very particular about using a certain type of either. It's more difficult to keep a wide variety on hand when visiting a gentleman at an outcall.
I appreciate the sensible advice.
Do you ever deviate from waiting for the lady to arrive at your room?
Is it in good form to meet her in the lobby of the hotel or at the elevators?
I met a lovely lady in Chicago last December. I was in a nice recently renovated hotel in one of a few rooms operating on the top floor. The rooms were poorly marked and the charming old corridors were a bit winding, so I met her at the elevator. She is a stunning woman and deliciously warm (see my review if you are interested) and the walk back to the room with her was slow and wonderful.
Be polite, nice, and clean, maybe some cologne?? Turns me on with my clients And I agree with ladyjayla, maybe some flowers?? I would totally be surprised and flattered if one of my clients did that
I always let the ladies serve themselves. It gives them the option and if Ive seen them before I usually leave the envolope in plain sight. While they get comfy, I go put on the tunes...
I never mention money or sex ever at any point.
even a soft drink, most ladies appreciate the container remaining unopened until she's ready to partake--reduces the risk of tampering with the drink.
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I appreciate the specific advice. Thank You!!!
don't sit in your room chain smoking while you wait for her to arrive. Take it outside, so she doesn't have to walk into a plume of fumes.
If you both smoke, never mind... however this is a good thing to flush out ahead of time. Non smokers generally don't like kissing ashtrays.
I enjoy setting the atmosphere, and I think the ladies appreciate the effort. Whenever possible, I prefer to book a small suite, rather than just a room. A sofa is always nice for "getting to know each other". I always have some nice music with me, and some massage oil. I let the lady know ahead of time that I'm a non-drinker, but offer to get her favorite wine if she'd like. If it's not a dinner date, I will ask what she might like for a little snack. One of my favorites would be non-alcoholic wine and some fresh cut fruit. Some lightly scented candles are also nice to help set the mood. I do always have some condoms with me, but have rarely used them. Usually, the ladies prefer to use their own.
I think it is very polite to offer something to drink when a lady comes to your place. I certainly understand if a client cannot offer wine or other alcoholic beverages if they are not near a store and if they are staying in a hotel.
In fact, if someone books me for more than an hour and they do not have a convenience store near their hotel, I will ask if they want me to bring some wine, etc. I'm sorry but I'm not going to buy an expensive bottle of Scotch to do Outcall and only for an hour, and then he leaves the majority of the Scotch when he leaves the hotel.
However, I find it outrageously rude to come to a hotel and find that the hobbiest doesn't even have water. What are we supposed to do? Drink from the bathroom tap (which, by the way, the water is really bad in Phoenix)? Or, do we foam at the mouth until we're done and then go to a fast-food restaurant and get a Coke afterward? Yuk! I do not usually drink soft drinks, and those restaurants will give you tap water, too.
That's my honest and not-always-humble opinion. Take it or leave it.
Hugs,
Ciara
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Dear Ciara:
I was wondering would finger foods be ok maybe something a little lite? Maybe it would accentuate the libation of choice that you would be imbibing?
Dear Ciara:
I was wondering would light finger foods be an appropiate ice breaker as well?
beverage and provide an un-opened container. I also bring candles, an iPod with speaker, lotions for a massage if the direction of the date goes that way, etc.
One last thing, I clean up the bathroom after I have taken my pre-date shower.