I personally really enjoy getting to know the provider prior to a meeting either by email or text or phone, just to get a sense of their vibe and as a courtesy thing.

Do providers appreciate this kind of conversation? Or do they see it as just another email that they have to respond to and a waste of time for them? I'm sure there's some variability from person to person, but I would like some opinions as to whether this is looked upon favorably or a nuisance.

I always enjoy that part of the interaction myself.

Others, however, are not interested.  You need to follow their lead

I can only speak on what I prefer and for me I like to get to know someone prior to meeting. I mean after all we are going to be sharing an intimate encounter together, But I prefer an actual conversation via a phone call not emails or texts.

makes for a more enjoyable time

If it is respectful and not full of sexual crap that IMO should not be in an email and it is a sincere attempt at GTKY, without asking too many personal questions, sure. But keep the contact to a minimum otherwise "you" might be seen as a tire kicker.

Personally, the tone and content of the initial email tells me a lot about "you" as I suppose the reply tells "you" a lot about me.

Some ladies will reach out to you and try to get a feel for who you are, in an attempt to make your time together the best it can be. One such amazing provider even asked me to take a personality test on a web site, it was cool, accurate and I learned something about me that I didn't realize until after I took the test. I sent her the results and she used that knowledge to make our time together awesome.

The only thing is, you have to realize that she is taking time away from her day, so you have to be sensible and not be too demanding or expect her to maintain the contact, she is doing so to get a feel for you, your likes, your desires your general personality, but when the date is over, it's over.

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I prefer a few GTKY e-mails before meeting!  

However, it's best to always consider that most providers are inundated with correspondence daily, so expect (and don't be insulted by) her less than immediate response and don't flood her with multiple e-mails before you've gotten her response.

And adding to hbyist+truth's sentiment, please no overfamiliar terms of affection before a real connection is established (i.e., sweetie, baby)! It reeks of falseness and is just plain icky.

I personally like to make a connection before the visit. It would just feel odd not to. I like to get a feel for if the person is laid back, charismatic, overly serious, etc.. The screening part isn't enough for me. Meaning, just because they belong to a certain hobby platform. I like to make judgements for myself. That's the beauty of being independent. I decide. I always keep in mind that there are two sides to every story when it comes to reviews. No matter what is written, I'm going to always go with my gut.

So you might be vibing and establishing a connection with a booking agent and not the actual person.

It's happened to me a few times. I typically react to it with humor by asking the assistant if she wants to join in on the fun and do a double session. That's usually good for a few laughs.

To be 100% honest, it's why I have a niteflirt account.  You want to talk about your session and share hot steamy stories beforehand? I'll refer most to my niteflirt page; time is after-all money. It's also only okay if you have pretty explicit permission from the provider before you start. If I open up your email to me and i see it's exceedingly long, I'm probably not going to read too much of it.  If it's an email dictating how a person wants every second of their time spent, I'm going to be severely irritated and respond by asking that person to keep an open mind and know that following a script isn't always the best way for a session to unfold.  

If a provider's website is well-written, you should be able to get a really good feel for her from that alone.  Some of us even have social media presences as well as blogs. That's another way to get a feel for a lady's vibe too.

I think it's a bit presumptuous to think that a provider needs to text, phone, or exchange various email with you as a courtesy.  A courtesy for what? Booking an appointment with her?  Some ladies will do so, some won't.  I will depending on the session type.  GFE sessions shouldn't require any type of extra communication, but fetish, fantasy, and bdsm sessions might.

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on alot of things.  I do like a phone conversation, a little emailing is good too, text I don't have so doing that you will think me rude for never returning it, but I turned off that function on my phone.  

However frequency is key and tone of course.  

If you are writing me telling me about what a great lover you are then I certainly  going to take pause of that.  I like to save the naughties for when we are together not before.  Kinda makes me shy away before a session.

Same thing goes with the frequency.  If you are writing me 1-20 times every day for a month before an advanced booked session I may start shutting it down because I still want to be excited to see you when we meet.  If I am bogged down having spent more time emailing, talking to you before the session even happens then the appt you booked, chances are I am going to be irritated about it.  I don't want to be irritated, I don't want to already know everything about you because you shared your life story in your emails.  Let me get to know you a bit in session, save something for me to smile about.  That makes it fun for me and you will get a better me and experience for it.

If you inundate me with correspondence before we meet so we can jump into bed the moment you arrive then you have found the WRONG girl for you.  I take pride in being a GFE and that means you get an experience with me not just a roll in the sack.  

So I do enjoy getting to know a person a bit before hand, but I also enjoy getting to know someone in person where you can better judge the validity of what is being shared.  that helps me to know the true you so I can make sure you get the me that you need but that is still very me.  I hope that makes sense.  

Goto run, have some cleaning to do before winter sets in.  the Attic is calling my name

to meeting especially if we are planning a multi-hour date.
The email exchange of plans and questions on dislikes/likes along with a short phone conversation or two prior to meeting is great.When it is appointment time it is like meeting an old friend and most of the time that awkward moment of meeting someone new is not even a worry.
As long as it is not excessive emails or calls daily or being explicit I don't have a problem.

That being said I do enjoy talking to gents prior to meeting but if it is a gent who is not coming to my town until sometime late next year.Or has no plans of coming to vegas well...then an email or two great but I would not want to have anymore contact without set plans being made.
Every lady is different some like the connection and others feel it is a waste of time.
I am sure you will get the gist of how a lady feels by her responses to your email,calls,or text messages.


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E mails, texting, or phone conversations are limited in terms of getting to know a provider or a provider getting to know a new client. Being courteous and polite in  e mails, texting, or phone conversations does help somewhat. Meeting in person is the best way for a new client and provider to get to know each other.

Getting to know someone before hand makes things feel more natural when we meet. Kinda like seeing and old friend that you are catching up with.

The problem in my view is when gentlemen forget to remain such and begin with the overly sexual innuendo's or graphic "dreams". I find that to be vulgar and a real turn off. One must remember as stated earlier, we are paid for such and assuming that because you are given a courtesy of conversation, you should travel down the road of intimacy. This happened to me just today. I try and remind you that those types of comments should be held until you have met and never over any other type of media that may be compromised by outside others. Some people understand and reel it in, while others get offended and feel you are being prudish or you all wont connect because you don't want to share vulgarities over the phone or internet. (the later happened to me) but for me that's just fine because I then understand this person may not really be the person for me and I dodged a bullet.  

As long as you don't send a communication every day, five and six times a day. There have been clients that call me first thing, early in the morning every morning weeks before a visit and after text 10 times if you don't respond then email all day. I see no cause to not try and get to know you better, I just find there is a fine line between a courtesy and a demand of your time from some. Also don't get offended if after a few back and forth's your lady pulls back. We simply don't always have the time to communicate consistently with every person that contacts them over and over again. If you just want to chat someone up constantly before a visit, ask them if you can send them a small donation for the extra time they are putting into you. It really does go both ways, when/if asking for time and pics before the visit, don't be unwilling to send a couple bucks for that time. Don't begin to feel like she is obligated to respond or oblige your every request.

Bottom line is don't get sexual unless she does and don't expect communications because you are this extra special guy who would be a great client if only... Remember we hear that often and unless you are willing to show that immediately, be glad you got her ear in the first place and don't overstay your welcome.

...."Those are the ones where hypotheticals are posed and then I'm asked what I would do (usually, but not always, of a sexual nature) or where I'm asked to say why I think I'm worth hiring, even though a date has already been set aside for this person. I don't like being asked to prove myself via email. It's wildly uncomfortable. ...."

There's a cancellation right there or if there has not been a booking, there never will be.

..."I've canceled dates because while the person seemed great in emails 1-3, they started to seem unpleasant the more they wrote...."

A great form of screening. And I have done the same thing.

And I believe it really establishes a connection that allows your first meeting to be like getting together with a good friend. I love when a gent shares some of himself with me- not sexual things- but things about him as a person. This will give us great grounds for finding things in common.  

I'm not a fan of doing this, however, if a guy hasn't specified a date to meet. As has been said before on this thread, some guys seem to just be looking for a pen pal. I am not interested in idle chatter with some dude who has no intentions of meeting. Also, I absolutely abhor any sexual conversation prior to meeting. And for me, sexy talk is simply verboten via email period.
 

....and most do. It really does help kick off the session when you both can immediately begin a conversation about something that you've both shared prior. With me, tho, it can become a chat-fest and before I know it we burned 30 minutes just chatting away!

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I know some ladies don't like it, but I don't mind!

I like to get a hint of who the person really is... what we might have in common that will make the date spectacular instead of "good". If we click, I arrive with genuine anticipation. Definitely call me.