A thread on another board about legal Nevada brothels reminded me of how I got started in this hobby. There were two main reasons.

1. As a kid here in England I was travelling with my family in a car and we stopped at a traffic lights on a busy main road. I must have been only ten or so. At the lights there were maybe 5 providers all showing a bit of leg. It was in the 70's when the street scene was more prevalent and obvious over here. I'll never forget that image. I was more turned on by them than by teacher or Farah Fawcett, like most of the other kids.

2. About three years later there was a documentary on TV about a legalised Nevada brothel. It was called the Chicken Ranch if I recall correctly. The fact that men could walk into a place such as that and pay women for easy sex caught my attention and had a profound effect on me.

A few years later as a seventeen year old I started in massage parlours. Twenty years later I am still at it and have pretty much made it a centre point of my sex life, and have not bothered marrying. What a lazy sod I am, lol.

There are different types of hobbyists, or punters as they are sometimes called here in the UK, but I am wondering how others got started. Of course, some guys will only be doing it once in a while for spice, whilst others will be more like me. Any stories?

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I used to do modelling and met a couple of girls through that who were providers.  It sparked my curiousity and I decided to give it a go.  I was amazed how easy it was and how much fun I had - certainly a lot more fun than modelling which I never liked anyway.

Well being interested in trying some variety in my sex life, I posted an ad on Yahoo personals.  They still had the option to put your status as married at the time, which I was.  Of course, I got no interest as I was only looking for sex.  I answered a few other ads and the only serious response I got was from someone offering a massage and handjob service.  I tried to meet her, but we got our times crossed and she lived over an hour away from me.  In the meantime, I had stumbled across another message board about the hobby.  There I found out about where the SW were and asian massage parlors.  So on the way back from my failed appointment, I decided to try an asian massage parlor that was HJ only.  I liked the experience.

I think someone at the first message board probably posted links or directions to eros.com and this board and the other.  I probably also stumbled across Marc Perkel's site around this time.  I eventually ended up calling Internet escorts.  The first two I saw were ripoffs even though I didn't realize it.  They said FS but I ended up with only HJ.  I didn't do any research here.  Then I went to an asian MP where they did do FS.  That was my first paid actual sex.  Then I finally hooked up with an escort who did FS.  I really liked her.  Not a gf experience, but she was attractive, young, enthusiastic, very flexible and had bit of raw talent.  On one of our sessions she introduced me to greek without me even asking her.  It was pretty intense.  This all happened over about 6 months and I was hooked by then.

ah Marc Perkel was an eye opener for me and then I found TER.  THe fact that I could look at even partial reviews, go over all the newbie questions made me informed.  Thank goodness for the internet.  ANd then my first provider was a gem, and luckily for me, put up with my newbie fumbles as she realized that I was NOT LE but just a bit green.  Too bad she retired.  A bit like that teacher that really left an impression.

A friend had been trying to convince me for ages to get a "special" massage.  I was always hesitant.  Then I threw out my back and actually needed to get a massage, so I finally caved in and went to an AMP.  After a year of that I graduated to more.  

My exact situation verbatim....

Stumbled onto TER, started reading, (including Perkel), gave it a whirl....  First time was with the perfect first-time person, although we talked enough in advance that she was very comfortable with me not being LE.  Like yours, mine retired.

Carrie you temptress--when are you coming back to LA?

Simple, a mix of: desire for some special fun and variety, a SO who thinks sex should be doled out with the same frequency as Quarterly reports from public companies, and an (as yet) incurable laziness.

Why sublimate?

From an early age I noticed that whenever a provider was depicted in a story on TV or in the movies they always were much more attractive than the "moms" around my neighborhood. At about age 11 while in NYC with my parents I saw a SW working around time square. Again I took notice that she looked much sexier than any women I knew in my community. Age 21 I moved to SoCal to begin my adult life. Homesick & lonely I ventured into a Hollywood MP. Fast forward 4 years and I'm suffering through a painful divorce. I discover the adult classified adds and escort agency adds in the newspaper and Yellow Pages. I discover that if I see a provider from time to time I'm more at ease when meeting or dating civilians. Age 29 I meet my second wife. Although I put my occasional hobbying aside I now find the adds in the newspapers, yellow Pages and trade papers a constant temptation. Work has me frequently driving into sections of town known for SWs. My Marriage starts to decay 4 years into it but it lasts for another 9 years. July 1st 2001 the wife leaves. I spend the next 12 months securing the home front and getting my shit together. I now come to find the civilian population of women to be overtly mercenary using their sexuality to obtain financial security through courtship and marriage. I decided at this point to only see providers because at least they were up front and honest about what their agenda was.
 (Ok MrSelfDistruct you can light up your flame-thrower now)

   Cm.

I was told by my mentor to go do something to losen up. Started with a massage and the rest is history.

...but they are not all mercenary gold diggers. I hope you strike lucky in the future with somebody else.

My problem is not so much women on the make. It is the supposed permanency and exclusivity of marriage that gets in the way. I like Black on Monday, White on Tuesday, Asian on Wednesday, PSE on Thursday, GFE on Friday and a bit of everything at the weekend. Love's great adventure and the nuclear family does not hold much appeal for me.

Gonna have to find a similarly minded lady. Thing is, I'd be hacked off if she was like me and fancied variety.

Typical selfish male

If it gave me ever lasting happiness... I'd think about it! LOL

My mentor told me that my art was suffering from my stiffness, that I needed to become less rigid. They just neglected to tell me WHAT was too stiff!

Do you think I understood what my mentor was talking about?

she trained me when I was young to like variety.. Monday we had Taco's, Tuesday we had Meatloaf, Wednesday we had Spagetti, Thursday we had Cheeseburgers, and the weekends we chose whatever we wanted... See she taught me that variety was the spice of life... uh why am I married, Society taught me that one...

It seems that there are some of us who were practically "born" with the procivity to be a hobbyist.  

I was 10 years old; my family was having dinner in a restaurant and the word "whore" slipped from one of my parents' lips.  Being a boy interested in words, I wanted to know what this strange new word meant.  "That's grown-up talk," my mother said.  Later, she explained that it was "a woman who sells her body to a man."  As soon as she uttered those words, I felt like the doors of perception had opened on to a completely different vista.  Later, Dad told me in private that during the 30s, there had been a very special club in New York City, where "for $50 you got a great drink, a great steak, and a girl to go upstairs with after dinner."  

A couple of years later, a copy of a then-popular and scandalous novel called "The One Hundred Dollar Misunderstanding" found its way into my parents' bedroom.  This book was about a preppy white college boy and an uneducated black prostitute spending a weekend together.  I'd come from from school, when my parents weren't home, and sneak-read a couple of chapters.  Absolutely mind-blowing!! I couldn't wait.

Three years after that, at the ripe age of 15, I got a $2 BJ in Nuevo Laredo Mexico.  The rest, as they say, is history....

To share some of her life with someone who cares for her.  Then she got all weird with me about it.

But it lets me have  a chance to make love to all the tpes of women I never was able to meed before I got married.

Asian, etc..........

At least I have more respect for my wife now.  Even with all the bad she has done me, she has been loyal and faithful.  And the wanderlust has been brought under control.

Had my first experience in Amsterdam in 1987.  Discovered the joys possible at "Heaven's Automat".  Hobbied sporadically ever since.

In the 70's when I was in my first house and still a bachelor I had many sexual Romps.Developed a bit of a reputation.   "Hey Hugh Heffner was my Idol"    WEll there were two ladies who would show up at my door on ocasion wanting to come in and spend some quality time with me. Not both at the same time. Two ladies who never met.  Anyway; Each one was sexy, athletic, extreemly sexual and loved to spend the whole night rocking the house. Each one in turn eventually got busted and OUTED as providers. They never charged me or even let on to me what they had been doing till after their bust.That was half my life ago and the memory of thoes nights are still vivid and often inspire some pretty hot dreams.  I wonder how many providers out there now find a special guy to do it right for them after they put in a hard days night putting up with all the frustrating experiences of their clients.

I plead insanity!!!!   I'm just CRAZY about that stuff!!!!