This one a bit more genteel.

When in a sleepover situation, how is the question of who gets what side of the bed decided?

1.  Does whoseever home or hotel room it is decide?

2.  Does the gal always get to decide?

3.  Does the client get to choose?

4.  Flip a coin?

I'm anticipating a couple of first time sleep overs soon and was wondering what the vox populi thought.

If it were me, I would give the lady the choice.
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I would give the lady the choice.

The lady told me which side I would be sleeping on.  You mean I had a choice???

...I slept on the side I usually sleep on.   Since I have a king sized bed, there is always enough room anyways.

I'm not picky about which side I get. So I'd let her choose.
The real considerations for me would be:

Spooning or not?
Me to her back or her's to mine?

Or

Top or Bottom?

Or just remain in the positions you occupied when the last "activity" occured.

C_K

If she has no preference, I take my usual side or --in a hotel-- the side nearer the telephone nd alarm clock.  If she has a preference, it is her choice.  Have a great time. Sleeps over are the second best thing in the hobby, the best being a nice trip with someone you are really into.

Since I have done a couple of sleepovers I have found it is easier to figure out world politics than who gets what side of the bed!  LOL!

Seriously, unless there is a major health issue that commands a person sleep in a certain spot I think it is all about comfort.  

In the end after all is said and done I've naturally gravitated towrds my preference and so has he...me on top!

If it's his home he can sleep on his normal side (assuming he doesn't just sleep in the middle).  If it's a hotel, I'd prefer the side nearest the bathroom.  

I think there are way more pressing issues regarding a sleepover:
1. should the lady go to bed in PJs, lingerie, or nekkid?
2. What does the man wear?
3. Should he feed her breakfast?  In or out?  What if she doesn't like certain foods?
4. What if the bed is really uncomfortable and one of the parties just can't sleep?
5. How does one tell the other that he/she wants to sleep and not have sex 20 times during the night?
6. What if I snore/talk in my sleep?
7. What if he snores and I can't sleep?  Is it acceptable to get up and read in the living room?

I could probably think of more, but that's good for now.

Different things come into play for me.  
If we are at my house, I sleep on my side simply because it gives me access to the things on my night stand.
I usually sleep on the right side of my partner because it leaves my right hand available if we are snuggling and I am right handed.
If we are at her place or if she sleeps on the right side, I am ok with that but that may well mean sleeping with my back to her.  If we are going to sleep at all  LOL

In my world the lady always gets to pick.

Well with that in mind I wood have to get the right side of the bed.

and when all is said and done there is nothing left to say or do ........well except for you.

Say good night Holly


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Good night sweet lil Holly

"Which side of the bed do you sleep on?"

The fellas always say..no particular side.

I think that they are just excited about sleeping with me and they don't really care about which side.

Love

Sexy

and they are the reasons that I haven't yet worked up the nerve to ask a lady for a sleepover. I can come up with enough other ways to embarrass myself. Here's what you get in return, if you agree to a sleepover with me. I'm told that I'm a night time traveller, and tend to put on several miles in a night. Apparently, I do prefer my half of the bed directly in the geographic center. But wait, there's more. I'm also told that I talk, snore, sing, laugh, grunt, snort, and for all I know, I probably drool too. And lastly, let's not forget the teeth. They normally sleep in a cup in the bathroom. Then comes morning, and you get to see firsthand, what has been known to send small children fleeing in horror.

So, whattaya' say ladies? Wanna spend the night?

Never done a sleepover before, but I'd have to say:

1. should the lady go to bed in PJs, lingerie, or nekkid?
2. What does the man wear?

I can't imagine sleeping in lingerie is as comfy as PJs or naked. If you are relaxed and trusting of each other, I'd say both people naked. It is what I'd ideally want in a sleepover. If it is chilly, just snuggle yourselves to sleep under toasty covers (no, gutterminds, the other kind!)

3. Should he feed her breakfast?  In or out?  What if she doesn't like certain foods?

I'd say the guy should absolutely offer breakfast. After an overnight, it would be a drop in the bucket. In or out depending on mutual interest and time available. If she doesn't like certain foods, she shouldn't order/eat them. How is that for easy?

4. What if the bed is really uncomfortable and one of the parties just can't sleep?

Dunno, as that never happens to me.

5. How does one tell the other that he/she wants to sleep and not have sex 20 times during the night?

Be blunt? "Hey, horny, I need my beauty sleep!"

6. What if I snore/talk in my sleep?

We're all adults. Who cares?

7. What if he snores and I can't sleep?  Is it acceptable to get up and read in the living room?

Sure. Or just elbow him and tell him to roll his ass over, to see if that works.

I'd like to do a sleepover someday. It sounds like a lot of fun.

I think the location may be key, but it also depends on the comfort level of those involved.

I would think most providers would let the client choose, but sleepy-time may be a different story.

If it were me and I was at home (not likely because someone else would likely be there), I would want my normal left side.

If I was in a hotel or in her place, I'd give her the choice.  I don't sleep that well anyway so it really doesn't matter.

In reality, I had two sleepovers, both with single women and they each allowed me to choose.

I'm with Jane on also wanting to know about the clothing/naked issue.

I think the location may be key, but it also depends on the comfort level of those involved.

I would think most providers would let the client choose, but sleepy-time may be a different story.

If it were me and I was at home (not likely because someone else would likely be there), I would want my normal left side.

If I was in a hotel or in her place, I'd give her the choice.  I don't sleep that well anyway so it really doesn't matter.

In reality, I had two sleepovers, both with single women and they each allowed me to choose.

I'm with Jane on also wanting to know about the clothing/naked issue.

One rule drummed into me by my family upbringing is:  No one goes away hungry.

Usually for me, during a slumber party there is so much rolling around that takes place during the course of the night that I find myself and my date often switching sides during the night so I'm happy to end up on any side of the bed as long as I am on the bed and not on the floor...although sometimes ending up on the floor can have its own bit of fun involved..LOL!--Sitara Devi

Ask...lol

So far, I'm undefeated!

French toast, that is!  lol

I like your thinking

I don't think it has ever been a conscious decision in my affairs. I can't say it has ever mattered what side of the bed I was on - after passion is spent we sort of fall asleep how ever we fall, sometimes still in an embrace.  

I do believe that the person with a reason for being the first up in the morning gets sleep by the alarm clock.

Some people have rigid patterns, and are very ritualistic. If they always sleep on the right, I   am happy to help them feel more at home.

If two people like each other, a sleep over doesn't require over thinking the situation. It is always good to be flexible. It might be sign that perhaps you are incompatible if a comfortable compromise can't be reached.


1. should the lady go to bed in PJs, lingerie, or nekkid?

I always sleep naked, and I think a lady gets to choose what makes her comfortable. I'd never sleep  well in PJs.

2. What does the man wear?

Anything he wants to. Even glow in the dark novelty briefs.

3. Should he feed her breakfast?  In or out?  What if she doesn't like certain foods?

If both schedules allow of it, I think it kind to share breakfast together.  Staying at a hotel will allow each to choose what they like. Eating in or out is pretty much decided by what both are in the mood for at the time.

4. What if the bed is really uncomfortable and one of the parties just can't sleep?

It has happened so many times.  Not always because the bed is uncomfortable, but sometimes sleep just doesn't come easy. This is the best part of having someone to share a bed with - there's a warm and welcoming person to comfort you in the middle of the night.  If my partner is having trouble sleeping I am always pleased to tire him out or gently sooth him into sleep. I don't mind being woken up, though usually I wake up of my own volition rather then having my partner rouse me intentionally.  Sometimes we give into pleasure, sometimes I'll give a back massage, or find some other way to help him sleep.  When I've had trouble sleeping, I've never been with a man that wasn't eager to lavish the same attention on me.  Sleepy, slow sex is a unique and oh so nice thing to indulge in.

5. How does one tell the other that he/she wants to sleep and not have sex 20 times during the night?

I think that comes down to common sense and simply  paying attention to one another. You can just talk about it if you aren't sure. It is generally wise to assume that a person would like a restful   nights sleep.  However, waking up once or twice to find the other person responsive and eager - that can be a lot of fun as well.

6. What if I snore/talk in my sleep?

I do both... sometimes I even drool. This is when the term GFE, takes on the original meaning of girlfriend experience, before all the menu items became associated. It is  wise to reserve such extended retreats for those moments when there's actual chemistry between both parties.  That way, your affection for one another makes these thing charming, silly and cute instead of annoying.  

7. What if he snores and I can't sleep?  Is it acceptable to get up and read in the living room?

I've done that.  I've never had anyone take it personally. One can also gently wake them, let them know their snoring, so they can turn on to their side.  If you are very sensitive to noise, carry ear plugs in your overnight bag.

Serve it with sausage.


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Sleep is highly overrated, who needs sleep.... Stay up all night and have fun. Especially for me as I snore so loud that I rattle the floor, with out my Cpap machine. I would let her have the bed and I would go to the other room.

I'd be excited to be sleep with you too.  which side do you want?  I'll take the other.

I don't care what she says, I get the top bunk.

a gentleman takes the side closest to the door when in a hotel.

If that is not a consideration, and you are given the option, choose the side which gives the dominant hand more access to free motion.

Otherwise, let her choose.

It's just like having the man walk on the street side of the sidewalk.  If a car should veer into pedestrian traffic, he can protect the lady.  If an attacker enters the room, the man is nearest the door and can better fend off the intruder.

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I don't know about manners but I always sleep on the right side so thats just the way it is. Never had a complaint yet though.

nicer hotel where a "break-in" is not the norm.  However, chivalry is not dead.

If the sheets are fresh, and sleeping closest to the door puts you on the wrong side, is to sleep with your head at the bottom of the bed.

You get to sleep on the 'right' side, and be closest to the door.

Win-win!

(This public service announcement was brought to you by a grant, err, stimulus package, paid for by your tax dollars!)

Man is it slow in the summer! When do classes begin?

what if the "attacker" is the lady's SO?  Then who is better equipped to fend off the "intruder"?

Just stepping through all possible iterations...

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Well I was going to get you tickets for ravens game on 11/16, but you would most likely be disappointed cause thet will get their ass kicked that day.

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Been doing overnights for over 10 years.  They are the best if you are with the right woman.  Yes, absolutely both sleep naked.  There is just something great about having a beautiful woman there with you to touch, smell, carress and taste of course.  Good chemistry with the woman is probably the most important consideration.  You have to know what she likes and what her limitations are (sleep particularly).  Nothing worst than pissing off your overnight guest.  Yes, feed her breakfast if possible in the morning if time allows.  Nothing better than waking up to BJ in the morning or even better in the middle of the night.

You had your day in the sun.  Last season is over.  I would LOVE to join you in New York for the game.  Could make for some lively betting.....

Kari

I predict they will repeat and win BIRTHDAY-BOWL.


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Who gets top or bottom? LOL!

XO Ellyse

If my team wins Birthday-Bowl (XLIII) I get to spend the night with you and pick the side of the bed I want.....and if your team wins you get to spend the night with me and you get the side of the bed you want .


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I usually let the client decide.  You might just have that conversation before it happens and ask what side of the bed they are used to sleeping on.  If given a choice, I usually pick the side closest to the restroom.

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