Meeting a stranger for sex is filled with all kinds of unknowns. I would think it's especially nerve-wracking for providers, who know their looks and performance are being judged, and whose future business depends upon pleasing the client. I'm curious, does anyone have techniques or rituals they do beforehand to overcome nervousness? Or is it like some actors and musicians describe, where that energy becomes fuel for the performance?

I'm nervous as heck. I just go with the flow of the event. I try to put the provider at ease. Just introduce myself and ask her what her name is. I let her lead on how things go. I'd rather her not be nervous than me.

Squeeze in some dinner, drinks, medication, yoga, taichi, maybe some golfiing, and spa/steam sauna.  

Don't stay in there for too long though, you might get tingling sensation from too much oxygen which would have the opposite effect of relaxation.

I don't think there is a specific method you can use to calm your nerves, it just takes practice.  

...then blew chunks when you arrived. Silly me, not sure where I got that idea. Glad you cleared it up for me.

My experience was it felt pretty weird and unrelaxing. BJ is better I think.

Play music on my iPad and have wine or liquor to help break the ice. A gentleman I saw for the first time the other day commented how nice that was, that no one had ever done that before and it really helped him relax. We had a blast : )

Helps to try all of these things first

I ENJOY meeting a new playmate.  I've screened the guy, so I'm not feeling wary or defensive.  It feels like I'm unwrapping an exciting new toy.  I get so much pleasure out of discovering how everything works and what can be achieved - and I'm not just talking about body parts!  I enjoy all of the humanness about it.  

I'm new at this, so it's not easy. However, I know enough to read a lot of reviews and select ladies that have a friendly, welcoming demeanor. I'll let the more experienced hobbyists deal with newbie providers and women with a more rushed or no-nonsense attitude. I want to be as sure as it is possible to be that my GFE will be confident and cool. When you choose well, she will lead you through the initial conversation and warm-up. A real pro will make me feel like I am charming and interesting, then I can relax into the moment and actually be a good date rather than an inarticulate and sensually inept mess, LOL.

...I do the same when I host. I make sure the lights are turned down low, have one of my playlists playing softly in the background and her favorite adult beverage at the ready. Even though I know it's a sure thing, I enjoy the whole seduction fantasy.

Okay maybe a couple of times when the girl made me wait 2 hours at the bar.  
Other than that I don't show up drunk.  

I actually have tried to do the same from my end a few times when I hosted! Awesome!

We might ask our resident Oracle JCA, he's an expert on causality and existence. Would he know the answer to the riddle?  

...that often has me arriving in an anxious state, after having sped down the road, etc.
But once in the room with a beautiful lady, all is good.

Need provider who does outcall to beyond space-time continuum. If anyone is game, I will add + $10 to donation, as well as guarantee 10/10 review.

...alas, just like his barber, they took a little too much off the top.

Did two drinks give you the courage to ask for CG? I guess we'll find out when that 10/10 review posts.

fast, and annoy myself and the client.  

where is Grantlover?..we need him to complete the Dumbfuck triumvirate..

involving all the things I need to get ready to keep my mind focused and calm.

When I first started hobbying I also took a swig of whiskey an hour or so before, but I'm past that now.

Upon meeting the gal, a big hug is the best ice breaker.

...experience will help calm your nerves.

When you say, "When a pretty girl talks to me I pretend I'm talking to a hooker."

I'm usually pretty calm, but I do get a tad nervous. The best ice breaker for me is when the lady meets me with a hug and a kiss. I love that

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Are you questioning their sexuality? Isn't this rather bigoted? Please advise.

The poster was asking about providers not JCA.

Great answer, Mimi!

They go and confess to their priest before every appointment and ask God for a 10 every time.

my knee will sometime shake. If it only shakes a little or for very short time I look at it as a good sign. If my knee shakes uncontrollably I look at it as a bad sign and I proceed with extreme caution or abort mission altogether.

I'm fairly new myself. I get nervous emailing, calling, and meeting still. It is enough where it impacts my performance. There is a lot of risk for me and I end up thinking too much throughout the process.. I have no routine but I think the more often I do it, it will become easier.

We don't care about that part of your life.  Hell, we don't really care about any part of your life.  You bleat about it all far too much here.

I'm a confident man

before the internet was used much, I used to have to call an ad from a local alternative newspaper. Usually, I had to call from work to schedule something for that evening. Nervous as hell calling since I worked in an office with cubicles. I wasn't nervous meeting the girl, more nervous knowing a driver was waiting outside for her. I really looked forward to meeting a stranger for sex. You never knew where it was going to go.

Shocking

and then be required to carry a mirror so you can read it every time you are tempted to say something stupid.

Female ball players are usually tall slender and not all that curvy, not my ideal representation of the female physique.

I hope you will be spending some quality time with her.

As I exit the elevator on the tenth floor, I turn and do a quick once-over in the mirrored wall.  My hair looks sexy yet demure.  My makeup is just the way I want it, girl next store, but not plain Jane.  Then there’s my outfit.  Well, that’s not something that I can change now anyway.
I MUST PRESS ON.  My stomach is in knots and my mouth is dry, which will NOT be helpful I presume for the task at hand.  Luckily, I have a bottle of water with me.  Without stopping, since I am already twenty minutes late, I drink nearly half of it in just two sips.
I have a small piece of paper in my hand with the number 1012 written on it.  Searching for a hotel room is never easy, and when you’re already flustered and panicking as I am, it can be an arduous task.  After what seems like an hour and endless direction changes, I finally find my target, room 1012.  I am standing at his door.  My heart is pounding.  I look down and I can see my left breast pulsing.  I want to take a second to calm myself down, but I need to get out of this hallway before anyone sees me.
I knock quietly.  Nothing.  Perhaps in my efforts to be discreet I have knocked too quietly.  I knock harder a second time and I hear movement inside.   Immediately my mind starts racing with a stream of questions.  What am I DOING?  What if I am about to be diced up and skinned alive by some complete psycho?  Is any amount of money worth risking my safety?  While questioning my sanity, my mind is interrupted by the door opening.  I quickly draw in my breath and hope for the best.
There he stands, my first client.  He is wearing a white terrycloth robe.  Immediately his kind eyes put my racing brain somewhat at ease.  I make my way around the door.  With a quick hug and glance around the room, I feel I have reached the point of no return.  I feel at ease knowing that no matter how much I panic now, I am here.  I have come this far and now turning back is no longer an option.  The rest is up to fate.
If only I knew at the time that this day would be the point of no return, that once a girl crosses certain moral and personal boundaries, there’s no going back

manatee in heels is an image that will take days to get out of my head...

That's why I said "my ideal representation of the female physique. I prefer 5'5 to 5'9, I'd could care less about cup size. Do I only see ladies who represent my preferences? No, but I'd prefer to

she lives right upstairs

but then I thought about e-coli, and decided not to.

Can science celebrate mothers day?

"wuddup hoe" has slipped out on more than 1 occasion LOL

A glass of wine usually gets me relaxed