I haven't seen this talked about in here but figured I'd ask. I'm a heavy guy and unsure how a provider would react to that or even how to bring it up to a provider. I don't want to go to a place or have an outcall and have a poor time just cause the provider is un-intrested. I'm trying to be upfront for both our sakes. Thanks!

Many providers will request a summary of your vital statistics when they screen you, so presumably an astute provider will determine if your weight is an issue before even agreeing to see you.

I can't imagine you would be the first BBH (Big Boned Hobbyist?) they've ever met, so I would be surprised if it was an issue.  I guess it never hurts to mention it just so no one is surprised.

CG and not mish? I don't know, just a guess?

of course I'd see you. As long as my friends are clean and courteous, I don't care how skinny or heavy they are. Beauty can be found in everything on this planet.

Hugs,
Ciara

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seriously, the providers that I have met - for the most part - are beautiful, charming, interesting and fun to be with.  I suspect that they would be that way were I 300 lbs and 5 foot 4 in.  They usually work their magic between opening the door and when our time is over.  

If you are really unsure - there are a couple of things I can recommend - you may wish to try an AMP first?  or you may wish to request the time of a professional masseuse - who specializes in a "happy ending"  In both instances - the pressure on you to perform and get a reciprocal interest on the part of the provider is decreased considerably.... it is just about you.  As you gain confidence then you can try your "wings" with full serve providers....

Don't know - what works for you will be probably a little trial and error - it was for me - a long time ago when I did this for the first time in the 80s!

Aries,
Ciara is right,,,show up clean and be respectful and you should have no trouble. I used to see a very large man..and there were some things we just could not do, but there was plenty we could do. If she is a professional she will make you feel fabulous and even if you are not her cup of tea...being the consumate professional she'll never let you know that. Us ladies are not in this to pass judgement and be mean...we do have our boundaries..but the guy I was referring to...he was the nicest of men...heavy or not and I always made him feel king for the time he was with me.

depending on your belly to pecker size ratio you may not be able to enjoy the beautiful sight of lips around "Little Elvis" during a BJ.

is actually what occurs in his mind... and not necessarily what you do!  Which is why the masseuse is a good first step - whether it be the AMP or a more conventional route....  in sex - everything begins with what your perceptions are....   So while I am absolutely confident that you ladies will treat him well, I am equally confident that if he has doubts, the doubts will overshadow the actual enjoyment.  which is why sending him to a lower expectation situation may help "ramp him up" to a higher level of participation and enjoyment.   That is all.

where muh belly done lapped over my belt....lol

I crack me up!

I could really careless one weigh or another- Punn was intended- if you told me upfront or not. Be clean and polite and I am good to go. Some providers even prefer larger men. There is someone for everyone.

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Not to be rude, but I have noticed that some of my heavier clients have had trouble getting themselves as scrupulously clean as I'd like-- and when there's limited options for playtime due to size, you want to be able to really enjoy what you CAN do.

So if there's any doubt in your mind about that, take care of it and you should have absolutely no problem. Good luck, Aries!

Looks about right.

Well thanks for all your answers. I'm basiclly a 6' 280lbs man...its not all flab and I work out. My ex-wife was like 110lbs and we never had a problem with sex or positions. I guess I need to go to a mature provider who is professional. I just have the feeling that newer providers 19-22 crowd I might be more insecure about. I'm 29 myself but know how to respect a woman.

should not be an issue unless you are so over weight, that you are physically handicapped.  In either case it is always better to mention before securing a meeting

should start at a lower level. First, many of us offer great massages before entertaining other ideas. Secondly, if he does his research and chooses the right lady he will feel at ease . . . trust me!

Hugs,
ciara

Anyway, I agree with you about feeling more comfortable with a mature provider. I'm not saying younger women are not refined and are not intelligent. I've met some that were awesome, but some men have told me that if they're feeling insecure about themselves then they are more at ease with someone older. Call it the "kinky mother" syndrome. I guess we sometimes win by default in that men feel not as pressured with us. Hey, I've gained a few pounds since the holidays but I'm still as fit (if not more) than some 20-year-old ladies.  I'm also very comfortable in my own skin and down to earth.  Give me a jingle or email.  Wink!

Hugs,
Ciara

from her reviews you should be able to get a feel for her as a person.  Reviews that mention her kindness or easygoing nature, etc. will indicate that she's probably a genuinely accepting person and is not fazed by weight, age, or any of the other thousands of insecurities that people have.

I'm just too short for my weight!  All along, I was worried that I was getting chubby.