I'm not much of a dirty-talker but can sometimes get into it when my partner is a skilled and cunning linguist.

Some dirty talk like "next time I want you to fuck me and my sister" is really hot, but certain phrases like "I want to marry you" or "I want to have your baby" are real boner-killers.

Bitch, for example, is highly objectionable to some women.  

While I agree that sometimes words only have power because we give provide that power, I think it also depends on the person and that relationship we have with them. A client I've been seeing for six months is going to have a better idea of what is ok and what isn't versus a new client because we've built that rapport & we've had those conversations.  

I am sorry, it's just not something I can ever see me doing convincingly. I think I would burst out in laughter if I ever tried saying any of those things while having sex.

I'm fine with dirty talk, but if it's going to veer into the verbally sadistic I just need some warning.  It goes along with my whole philosophy of communication.

...that you would written the words "cocksucker"..."whore"...."bitch"..."pussy"...and "cunt" in the SAME OP, I would have bet that GaG had hacked your TER account. lol

Actually I would prefer if my clients felt comfortable enough to dirty talk. As of late it seems a lot of guys just don't make a word or sound and it's way more awkward than if he called me a filthy cock sucker lol I wish more people were into it. Just laying there not making a sound isn't all that fun lol. Using your words,communication and positive affirmation is all something I really dig when physically with someone.

any racial talk is a no-no.Years ago I had a guy say a racial remark to me during an appt I guess it was his form of dirty talk.
Well...lets just say that did not go over too well.

That's a bright red line, the third rail of dirty talk, if you will.

I enjoy the dirty talk inthe heat of the moment or as encouragement .
To me it can be a turn off when it is over the top along with an obviously fake orgasm.
To me with crossing the line is like  telling jokes -- they can both break a mood immediately.

I personally like a little dirty, nasty talk if we are really into what we are doing at the moment but degrading my lover verbally is NOT a turn-on at all.

Which is racial slurs - the n word. Also, randomly a client used the word maju/majoo jokingly in conversation with me,  which is an insult to Iranians. I did not take it very well and would not welcome it, as many people used nastily towards my mom when she move to the US.  

Just look at this very board for example, I routinely use the words hooker, whore, slut, even cunt and virtually everyone who has been here for any length of time knows when I use the words it's usually a "term of endearment"  

not that I can't be vocal, but smut talk just doesn't flow easily for me. There have been times when I was drawn into it, and enjoyed it as it happened in the moment.  

The word is a derogatory term for a male black, male being the key word.

a girl says something like.. does that feel good baby.. you want me so bad baby.. sort of cliché.. and wrecks the moment..

without having her on all fours saying, "spank me, I've been a naughty girl?"  You don't do that with a real life girlfriend?  

you dumb-down the board a little more.  You should go to school, get an education, then get some life experience, then fuck a few girls (or boys, not sure how you roll yet), so you're not a virgin, and then come back here and be a contributing member that doesn't sound clueless.  

So she should be a body language expert???? No talking at all??

"Fuck me, Daddy,"  she's not necessarily calling you an incestuous pedophile.  Usage is the key.  

When FatVern left and Euro showed up, Euro was stupid, but not quite as stupid as FatVern, Pimpathy, JohnnyComeAlready or any of his other SPOTY worthy handles, I think he thought that while he was flying under the radar no one would figure who he was/is. Now that the façade is gone, he can go back to being every bit as clueless as he was under every other handle he has had.

Of course I much prefer "Papi" to "Daddy"  

I always ask a lady the first few times that I see her, if she's ok with it, if she even hesitates, I don't partake.

I've found that some providers are much better at it than others.  There are a few that I have been with where dirty talk really seems to come naturally which is a definite turn on.  When it seems forced or awkward for them it kind of feels awkward to me.  I agree with one of the posts above that verbs go longer towards dirty talking than nouns.  For me some good dirty talk goes a long way towards a great session and kind of wish it were on the checklist for reviews, like the massage quality category where it could be rated.  Just my opinion.  

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I luv dirty talk./.and yes between BOTH parties involved...lets get raunchy!!

...amongst other things is not a particularly rare request (no thanks).  
I've seen more than a few white pros say they've had at least one black client request she call them that too.  

pretending they're stupid.  I don't know anyone like THAT!!!  Lol  

"little."  "You want this little white dick . . . . ."

... face glazing (cof), smacking a dick in a chick's face, spitting in her mouth, face fucking, teabagging etc.*

The best deliveries are the ones that happen without warning. Some of the comments I've gotten have always left me with a grin. Sometimes it's not even the words, it's their physical reaction.

Not expected. I've lost it when I've been told to cum in her mouth or call her a "slut!", but call me a "dirty boy" and I'll bust out laughing. I know some people are really into dirty talk and I'll do it, in fact I'll say just about anything, but I may laugh too.

Both in real life and with clients...it comes naturally for me and ads to the experience. That being said...I never make derogatory remarks (unless it is requested)...

...but that's just me. Luckily I have very rarely come across it. The problem is how do you tell the person to stfu without killing the entire session. Which was already compromised.  

If you look up the word that is the definition.  

I am fairly introverted and would like to do more of this (dirty talk).  I just find it hard to initiate until you feel very comfortable with the other person.  That said, I would never want a female to feel uncomfortable in the slightest -- so if I got any sort of indication whatsoever that she might not like it, then I wouldn't do it.  I do, however, tend to like it when the female says it as long as it is not done in a creepy or freaky way.  Dirty talk that comes across as genuine and passionate is very sexy.  I think that what "crosses the line" is all relative.  Every situation is different.  If something makes her feel uncomfortable, regardless of how innocuous you thought that it was, then it crosses the line.    

It's a derogatory term but for men, like if someone calls a man a bitch, for that to really be a factual statement he would really need to be a female.

Bigvern (probably his original handle. It even had reviews) and one of the dumbest ever, "no email." 😂

Race play, had a guy recently tell me he loved me several times during the appointment (first time client), there's a difference between something like "dirty whore" and "stupid whore" obviously. It's a ymmv in my book. What works with one person may be incredibly awkward with the next. Any type of kinky thing is typically going to be more enjoyable with someone trustworthy too.

... let me tell you that the mere thought of being called the N word makes my skin hot as fuck and I don't mean that in a sexy way. The N word is historically a racial/derogatory term for people of black African descent ... it doesn't have less of an impact because of my vagina. I'm still Black.
I'd say the visceral reaction both emotional and physical (just caught myself clenching a fist) is pretty equal.  
You should probably take the other black/mixed black girl's word for it too.

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... so I let my lips, fingers etc do the talking. It seems to work ok.  

He's been around for years and this is his latest iteration.  Don't let it bother you.  He's TSTTT.

I was pointing out that most people throw the word around with out knowing the definition. Along with the word being so common that I've been called the word myself by black people and I'm white. It makes no sense.

I had to re-read to OP because of some of the replies.
There's a big difference between sex/dirty talk and being derogatory. I draw the line there as do most of us, same as in IRL.  

It was really hard at first because I cringe saying that word.  He just started asking me to repeat what he said so I feel more comfortable with it.  I don't get it but hey, it gets him off I guess.

cant help but it reminds me of the 40 yr old  Chevy Chase Eddie Murphy job interview when Eddie responds to Chase's word association for   "N*gger"   with "dead honkey"

forgot the link    .....

Or Slingblade?  And you don't even know why what you said is so colossally stupid, do you?

...yeah like I said everyone has a thing that is just a giant NO for them and for the next it's a total turn on.
There's ton of porn with the black male wanting to be called the N word.  Haven't seen anything similar with a black female but I'm sure it's out there.

Thank you Randy Moss. lol

He wants to call me his "dirty white slut" and likes to be dominant yet I'm his "goddess".  That one really has me scratching my head sometimes but he's nice and generous otherwise.

I had a black girlfriend several years back who would call me "little dicked Cambodian"  and I would call her a "negress" when we would be joking back and forth. We would sometimes talk this way in public and it would turn a lot of heads who wouldn't know what to make of us.

Words are just words for the most part.  They don't mean anything unless someone uses them in a hateful derogatory way.  I'm no stranger to "offensive" humor so it takes very little to offend me unless I'm being insulted on purpose.  However these days it's like walking in a mine field when watching what you say.

You can't please the PC police, so why even bother trying?  

I wouldn't say anything racial, period. Not only is it degrading, etc..., seems damm cheesy anyway.

If I have an unpopular opinion I will try to express it in the nicest way but I will still express it.   I don't find most things offensive myself but try not to ruffle feathers too much because a)I don't want to say anything that may hurt someone's feelings and b) I avoid conflict like the plague.

They felt I was making fun of the handicapped.  Really.

Some OTHFB resented being called a "girl" I doubt anyone had confused her with a "girl" for 30 years and a hundred pounds. lol

and everyone knows it's almost always a "term of endearment" when I say it.  I just don't know how "stupid whore" can be spun into anything but what it is, a "term of disparagement"

The other half being the intent.  
It sounds nice to say words are only as powerful as you let them be. Partially true because I think how you can feel about a word at any particular time can also depend on the source (whose saying it).

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and if the person has a "smile on their face"  

And I didn't say the words don't exactly matter at all. I was careful to use the words 'half', 'to a degree' and 'partially'.

So we are never going to see 100% eye to eye where it comes to "locker room talk"

... and since we're sharing about our backgrounds right now I didn't grow up in any posh DC suburbs lol.  
I am the child of a single mom who often worked 2-3 jobs and was the first in my family (on my mom's side anyways (my dad was the first on his)) to go college yada yada yada (still feeling the sting of paying off the last of my loans).  
I'm a former "hood" kid too my dear though I won't list my old neighborhoods to solidify my urban hard knock life pedigree.  
Still yeah slightly different perspectives indeed ... cheers.

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Humiliating someone (or for some, being humiliated) can be a turn on.  I suppose that's more for the BDSM forum though.

Yes I agree