Don't be so cynical. We all spend our money as we see fit. We are all here because we like to spend money on women in exchange for pleasure. For some of us, the pleasure of feeling rich and generous can be better than a good blowjob now and then.
We're not all suckers.
Posted By: ChgoCPA
it is apparent that there are quite a few VERY lonely guys who can be sucked into a gal's misfortune, over and over.
I do believe that many of the posters are NOT exagerrating (by too much anyhow) how generous they have been with a lady. But I also tend to believe these are the guys who over the years posted on THE the old "I've fallen for a provider" or the incomparable "I need to save her" threads.
There is no question that many of the gals can have an intoxicating effect on the men she sees, but for you guys to fall over yourselves to "save these gals" is amazing.
What I'd like to give any of the gals I've seen as a tip would be your handles so they can hit you up for the incredible gifts you seem to feel you owe!
While it's true that a lot of sucking and being sucked goes on in HobbyVille, I choose to read some of these responses from generous men another way.
The NSA aspect of the hobby allows for all of us, men and women, to live life by different rules. Being able to give money freely without having to concern one's self with all the "political ramifications" of the gift is really fun for some fellows. Knowing that he did a good thing, that he helped a lady, or gave her an opportunity "out of the blue" can be a really wonderful feeling.
Of course there are a dozen ways this can go wrong, if there are expectations that come along with the gift, but if it is a true selfless act of kindness then it can be a beautiful thing for all involved.
Posted By: ChgoCPA
it is apparent that there are quite a few VERY lonely guys who can be sucked into a gal's misfortune, over and over.
I do believe that many of the posters are NOT exagerrating (by too much anyhow) how generous they have been with a lady. But I also tend to believe these are the guys who over the years posted on THE the old "I've fallen for a provider" or the incomparable "I need to save her" threads.
There is no question that many of the gals can have an intoxicating effect on the men she sees, but for you guys to fall over yourselves to "save these gals" is amazing.
What I'd like to give any of the gals I've seen as a tip would be your handles so they can hit you up for the incredible gifts you seem to feel you owe!
Another poster who should probably know better.
I have to think that as a CPA you see a lot of people who have the kind of income/wealth/means to be generous to the point of extravigance. I think many of us know guys who "gift" thier GF of the moment (who probably has a relationship expectancy of 6 mos or less) with a car, 10K diamond bracelet, etc. Right or wrong, what is the inherent difference if someone like that gifts a lady in need? Nice of you to essentially categorize them all (excuse me, only most of them) as being star struck and stupid.
Gifts I know have been given by guys who can easily afford it to ladies who were their ATFs:
--condo in the 600K range so she could quit her 8-5 job and be available whenever he came to town each month (not an exclusive arrangement)
--household move for a lady who was in physical danger from another woman in the business and that woman's pimp; plus a house on the other end of the move
--cars
--4-figure jewelry [Side note: my ATF and good friend had a benefactor like that, and he gave her several very fine pieces of jewelry. Most she picked out when with him, but he picked out a few without her. One of those she thought was ugly, but I had admired it once when I had seen it on her. She gave it to me--by far the most expensive gift I ever received, though what I will do with a lady's tennis bracelet I don't know. So far I'm saving it for the right lady to pass it on to I guess.]
No, I don't fit in that category of guys who can afford those gifts, but I did write a 10Kk check for a lady who was going to loose her home after the housing crash. Went to the bank with her and paid off the back mortgage payments & related bills that acrewed when she broke her leg and couldn't work for several months. Didn't walk out of there feeling particularly stupid or taken advantage of, and never thought I was her boyfriend or that I was in love with her. It did use up my dating money and kept me from seeing any ladies for about three months but it was worth it to me. If it isn't for you, don't do it. But no need to trash those who do care to spend their play money differently than you might.
Anything legal and something she could explain to friends & family easier.