I've been bringing 2-3 covers since my ATF asked me to stop & pick some up enroute.  It was very inconvenient to get off the highway in a strange neighborhood & find a store.  So I bring 2-3 in the type I prefer (thin).  I just place them on the bedside table without discussion.  I have always picked up the spares & brought back out after.

After months of doing this my ATF asked it I wanted her to "Keep that for me?"  I declined.

On a date the other day, my #2 Fav lady said "You don't have to bring them, I have them."  I explained that I liked that kind.   As I was packing up she asked "Do you want me to keep those for you?"  Before I could reply, she added she'd "save them for me?"

What's up with this?  The ATF was my first, & I've been seeing Fav also over a year, so trust is not an issue.    Is this just a storage convenience?  Are they trying to encourage me to see ONLY them?  They certainly know which kind the are as they have the wrappers, if they wanted to stock...  

Your thoughts?
skb

is a quick turn off to me. I've had it happen only once that a lady I was seeing asked me to pick up some on my way. Well, I suppose that could happen to anyone, and that was only one time, but if it was a regular problem I'd probably move on....  the GFE ladies I see seem to keep a variety "in stock". Usually their favorite type (often a thin or ultra sensitive) along with something for the larger guys. I have run into a situation or two where the lady did not have magnums or anything on the large side and asked that I bring my own. But as much trouble as most ladies go to in order to prepare for a date, it seems to me that having a variety of condoms available is not too much to expect...

My first meet with my now ATF was getting a text if I could stop and get some covers as she had forgotten them. I was prepared and always keep some with me (to avoid this happening). I was a little miffed but once I saw how incredible she was and looked, all was forgiven. However, for our second meeting we were in the hot tube and I could tell she was staring off in space. For fear I had said/done something wrong I asked what was wrong and she said "I left the covers out in the car". I had to get out, dry off and head to parking lot. Again a little miffed. Then on the 3rd time she made a point to have a dozen on table by bed and when I came in she grinned and said "Now I am going to make up the last 2 times cause we are going to use ALL of these"!!!

Now you know why she is my ATF !!! And no, I couldn't use all 12 that time!!! We did use more than one!!

My guess is maybe they are just wanting to "keep" them for you hoping for next time appointment!? But good luck trying to figure out any womens thoughts, I've given up on that one a long time ago..lol

Some ladies might be like myself and are prone to experiencing irritation if different condoms are used. When gentlemen bring covers of their own, I politely decline to use them and stick with one and only brand of condom because this brand (an ultra thin fortunately) is one that I know will not cause me any irritation afterwards. I do keep Magnums on hand as well. I prefer not to use them unless absolutely necessary though, because they are considerably thicker than most condoms and while they may be more comfortable, they also reduce sensation quite a bit.

I think your favorite ladies were looking out for you.

I think that would be a turn off for most men to have to stop and pick up condoms. Most of us want to use our own for safety and know they are fresh. Each gentlemen is unique to his own shape and size so one brand or size will not do.

I carry a large ziplock bag full of condoms of every type and size. I go to Walmart and pick up sometimes 5 boxes at a time and lube. I wonder what the cashier is thinking as I pay her. I cover all my toys as well and each toy I use gets a different cover.

Kisses Haley

if you have a condom that works for your and your clients and the option of a larger one if needed you're in good shape. I had not heard before that using a variety of condoms could cause irritation - thank you for letting me know. I actually never bring my own - I assume that a lady knows what she prefers to use and wants to know that they are fresh and that the packages have not been abused....

before every date. Rarely have I used any of them, as most ladies prefer to use their own favorites. Since I'm going to throw them out anyway, if the lady wanted to keep them, Why not?

however, we've used mine every time. Sometimes we use her's also.  Always leave the leftovers, as I've been with the impression that the ladies will only use mine if they are in an unopened box.

I have latex issues.

I have to agree. If I was asked to bring the condoms one time, it MIGHT be okay (it has happened once to me and I did not continue with the date though it was really the last straw in a string of issues), but not if it was consistent. I find being asked to bring condoms akin to being asked to bring my own silverware to a fine restaurant. Additionally, my civvie life does not leave me the option of keeping a supply of condoms. Too risky...

And a variety is key. I prefer Magnum because whatever decrease in sensitivity is still better for me than feeling the "squeeze" of the regulars and the worry that they might break (has happened three times to me). If Magnums are not available, and I cannot get it to work with regulars, then there are of course other options for satisfaction. Still, though, the extra thought and service of the variety offered adds to the feeling of true GFE which is my ultimate goal.

K

Unopened is a much better idiea. You don't want the lady wondering how long you've been wandering around with them in you pocket.

First, I don't judge anyone else for their practices, unless they go bareback. I know condoms can get pretty expensive but I believe that is the lady's responsibility (in this business anyway), unless a man is unusually large and sensitive to the type I use. Then, I certainly would understand if he brought something else for himself. If a guy brings his own condoms and it's different from mine, then I automatically assume he wants to use his because of an allergy. I also might think he is bringing them as a thoughtful gesture since they can be expensive.

Second, I keep at least three or four types of C's in my Incall or when I do Outcall. I guess running out (especially if you're a high-volume provider) can happen but I would offer to reimburse the gentleman if it happened to me.

Third: I hope a gentleman doesn't get offended if I look his condoms over greatly (which means I'd have to go and get my glasses), because I will not use one of his if the package has been tampered with or if it's out of date.

Hugs,
Ciara





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On more than one occassion, with more than one lady, I have emptied the change in my pocket for "laundry."  Not anything worth complaining about, but it is one of those strange things.  I have fantasied about going to an all night laundramatt with a naughty provider.  I might even spring for the Cheetos.

In my opinion, I agree that it is the ladies' responsibility to supply the raincoats.  I keep a variety on hand for different gentlmen.  Thin, Large, Formfitting, Sensi, Longlasting, ribbed... I like to be prepared.  

If it is a regular thing, I would recommend that the gentleman decides for himself if it is an issue for him.  If it's no problem, then no need to think about it any further.  If he feels negatively about it, then it is time to deal with the issue.  

Personally, I am open to new brands but have never asked a gentleman to supply his own.  I can understand if it was a one-time thing; we're all human and can forget to bring/stock up on something.  I have seen a gentleman who wanted to bring his own and did leave them behind but I didn't ask him to.

I feel that a gentleman visits me for an experience to enjoy.  Let me do the prep.

I hardly think this is about money.  I am much more successful with the thin ones.  I never have left over covers go out of date...  I only buy 3 packs.  I store my hobby kit, including phone, lube with care.  

ATF is very low volume, UTR.  Has a day job.  ATF was one who asked me to pick up...  because she was out.  

Fav is mature MILF, certainly not high volume, but is definately multiple appoints daily in her incall.  I'm sure she has a supply of something.    

I can only afford to hobby every month or so, mostly split between the 2 with an occasional new lady to try.  I'm thinking I'll leave the cover next time...  but I'm darn sure going to have a fresh 3 pack the visit after!  

If I leave them, should I say something?  I really did not have good luck completing with provider covers...  I'm sure were just standard not extra cost thin.  Should I offer to buy them, as long as they'll have them for my visits?
skb    
skb

in my experience many if not most ladies by thin / sensitive types - they want you to cum and they enjoy the sensation as well. But only your ladies can give you these answers.... ask em!

and I love your city - if you don't mind, I'll look you up next time...

Cheers

Gregory

The protaganist's room mate is trying to convince him to ask his brother for money for their rent.
His reply:
"Are you kidding?  My brother is so cheap he washes out his used condoms so he can use them again!"

lol... sorry it just popped into my head with this topic.

In my opinion they are just trying to be polite.  Holding on to a regular's favorites is one thing but I don't think any of them want to start buying and "stocking" different brands.  

I've honestly never tried bringing my own condoms.  Most ladies prefer to use their own and will buy and use what they are comfortable with.

It took me about 3 months to figure out that I need magnums to perform fully. The smaller ones cut off my circulation or something. That being said my girls all keep them in stock for me. People have told me theyre thicker but I think they all suck equally.

To respond to your post. I am flattered to merit the extra attention. Im sure that was the intent of your lady friend here. She was just giving you some TLC.

Much Love ~S

It seems to me she wants to have the kind he likes available for him.  This saves him from stopping and from having to explain to his SO why he needs condoms at all.

Nice of her.

but keep my stuff all safe and cared for just like you always have. You never know. You might show up for a date and your atf can't find your thin condoms. She did once run out and it just might happen again. I think it is great to offer but it is not something I have ever done. I am detail orientated but not someone else's details. My sixth sense says to not change something that works. Decline their offer and thank them for their thoughtfulness
Love
Sexy Carolina aka Dear Abby

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I have just about every kind of condom under the sun and just ordered more lol I have regulars, japanese, big, REAL big, small, colored, flavored, extra thin, extra lube...well, let's just say that if my bucket doesn't have sumptin in it that appeals to you, I am sorry lol

having your S.O find them.  I dont think they are asking in an effort to deter you from visiting other providers.  If anything they  are offering as a convenience.

Unless you specify a preference specifically to me or someone, how are we going to know which brand/variety you like?
I keep a medium size variety around, but if you have a very specific preference, I would think that you'd have the courtesy to at least tell me in advance so that I can be prepared. I won't know otherwise. Just my thoughts.

From a providers point of view, I think we should carry what we like, and if you want a special brand, you should bring it.....that simple. But I would never ask to keep the clients condoms, just not me.....

Not too long ago, I had a 'first' date with a gentleman. This guy is hung...actually huge! Obviously, he knows that he's larger than most...however, he failed to inform me prior to our visit. I got in my variety bag and pulled out the large magnums. What a freakin joke...I could barely get it over the head! To top it off, those are the largest condoms that I carried. Needless to say, since we didn't have a condom to fit...he thought bareback would be in the cards. I don't fuckin think so! His ass should have either been prepared or given me a heads up. So, BBBJCIM was really the only option... The next time I seen him, I was prepared with some XXL's!

I was very irritated with this guy because he knew full well what size condom he requires. He also knew that chances are a provider wouldn't have the correct size in stock. I firmly believe that he pulled that charade with me, as well as others I'm sure, to try to coerce me into bareback.

I would not blame you if you refused to see the gut again.


As for me, you may have the same problem ....in reverse.


Thank You
XLIII = 4


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The ladies around DC tell me that they need magnums for a lot of the guys that they entertain so it's pretty standard here anyway. I don't care about brand or etc. If I had a special need I would indeed let the lady know....

No fear, Followme, I've got you covered! (Pun Intended) LOL

I'm glad to leave them with a lady, I'd just end up throwing them out. If everybody used female condoms we wouldn't have this problem, would we? The ladies could supply them and there'd be no size issues.

Paris, A BBBJCIM from you is a GREAT option!  My review will atest to that.

Less filling and it tastes great!

Damn...I'm starting to get hungry

thinking you might be throwing them away and they figure they would save you the trouble of having to purchase new for the future.  

The other option might be they think they might be keeping you from getting caught. Who knows?

Probably no big deal.

Dear Ciara:
I was wondering do you know women would use polyurethane as opposed to latex condoms? You talk about costly that would really be expensive as well. I also wonder what is the thickness of the condoms that you use within the centimeter?