Having a bit of anxiety about BBBJ safety.  Is it safer than BBFS?  all the internet resources seem to say it is not safe.  So why are BBBJ providers so common?   Are STI’s from bbbj common in the hobby?

Oral sex without protection (condoms or dental dams) is "safer" than vaginal or anal sex, but it is not entirely safe. Unprotected oral contact carries a risk of transmitting sexually transmitted infections (STIs) in both directions. Look for sores in and around the mouth. 👄  

if her customer is a male.  Infections on a male penis are generally discoverable by visual inspection.  Likewise with a provider infection that is visible on the labia.  However, an internal infection in the provider's vaginal canal is often undetectable until it has progressed to the point that it becomes painful for her, or is producing a discharge like the ones visible on males.  

I am a older guy and love BBBJ. Nothing is guaranteed but stick with higher end ladies. Once things are wrapping up head to the shower or sink and wash your hands and penis well with soap and water. Maybe I am just lucky but its been working for me many years. Also just make it part of your lifestyle to get tested at least three times per year.  I use "any test now " and they will email you the results in a day or two. Be careful who you see.    

the messy truth of blowjob safety is this: the sloppier, wetter, and more drool-soaked the encounter, the less the risk. Wrt your sexual health, a deluge of spit is your best friend.  

I can verify Pandora is the sloppy BBBJ queen. When all was said and done, a pool was constructed inches away from the scene.

Sign me up!  

That is why the client should always insist on Eating  Her Pussy.....if the gal has an infection---you have to get close enough to detect it via sight, smell or taste......if she resists----back off bucko......there is a reason she doesn't want you exploring too closely !   And if it smells bad---there is something causing that to  happen---so buyer beware falls into play not only when you are paying to play----but equally so when you are playing to play !

so much fun!!!

HSV-1, CMV.

A visual inspection certainly helps! That said, about 50% of men are asymptomatic for chlamydia. 25% are asymptomatic for gonorrhea.

And, interestingly, gonorrhea.

Its the only way to be sure.  

That’s exactly how I do it.

…he sounds very handsome.  

and a great guy. A real freak, too.

the honeymoon come to an end.  Sorry, had to ask.  

It is the number you were assigned when you registered with TER.  You were the 2,648,667th person to join.

Correct, it's your ter username id

Okay. So what’s yours? Or what’s mine now? What I mean is, when I look at my account there’s no such number listed anywhere. Where’s it at?

Mine is  3198655
Yours is 3714134

The membership ID number, or whatever the correct label is, USED to be a visible number on your Account info page. (Maybe that's where you saw your 264... number.) They removed it from being displayed quite a while ago.

...numerical order in which we joined.  It serves no purpose for us; it's more of a bookkeeping thing for TER.

Okay, fair enough. Thanks 👍

Sloppy is just more fun! Guys always look at me weird when I stick a towel under them. I tend to get the bed wet otherwise 😆

Oral gonorrhea, certainly. I don’t know why this is so surprising to so many people.

Personally I don’t think you are a quitter or an ass. There is no shame in moving on when relationships aren’t working out. Especially if the other party doesn’t want to make an effort to try to improve things. Sounds like you did the right thing for you. Respect.

The reason BBBJ is so much more common/expected is because HIV transmission through oral, specifically, is virtually zero. The other risks are comparable in magnitude - gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis, HSV and HPV - but since the bacterial ones are treatable, people worry about them less.

DFK alone can get a providers minimum performance score up to an 8, as BBBJ is not needed to attain that score.

Absolutely true - but if our concern is not acquiring and transmitting gonorrhea of the throat, DFK risk stratifies similarly to BBBJ.

…you know as well as I do that most guys out there aren’t going above a 6 for a CBJ, no matter what else happens in the session.  

Dose yourself up and enjoy without worry.

I wonder, if they are not going above a 6 just because of the CBJ, or was there really more to it? I have read some reviews that were 6 or below and it was CBJ, and almost every time they are complaining about a lot more than just CBJ. I have given 8s twice with CBJ, and have read plenty of reviews that gave out 8s where CBJ was the standard.

I don’t disagree with you. In fact, if you’ve given an 8 to providers who gave you a CBJ, I’d say we’re very like minded. And yeah, the big variable there is her personality/attitude.  

And, clearly you too, since we are in line in that regards. And, I don't dispute the guys in your DMs nor the majority in reviews. But how many of those guys in your DMs are referring to ladies they knew only offered CBJ going into the session? In my case, not only did these ladies make it clear, but they had 10+ reviews with a high 8 overall average. That means not just me, but every client who saw them up until that point felt the same. The common theme, they were smoking hot. I'm talking the type when they open the door, you immediately think "jackpot!" I'm talking about the type that you would consider masterbating to their fully clothed pictures. I'm talking the type that you have to fight as hard as hell not to cum to fast the moment their warm hands touch your penis.

Thank you! That’s exactly what I was getting at, I appreciate you

You basically hit on the point that expectations have a strong impact on grading, not some objective fact about things. TER had a poll a while back about scoring and accuracy of pictures.  Most responses said that they lower both the looks and performance scores when the ad pics don't match the person. From a purely objective and fair point of view that should have no impact on the scores. Not like there is only one provider that someone will give a specific score in looks for and no one else qualifies. Similarly, just because the look different from the pics it's hard to see how a fair assessment of their performance should be lowered from what they otherwise would have been given.

Now I'm not saying youre wrong, but I don't get what prevents people from being objective. Any expectation not met is generally contained to a particular category.

Objectively separating the categories and not allowing one to influence the other is how it should be. But not everyone is good at being this objective. Plenty of clients give higher marks in looks because the service was great, despite her being average or worse in looks. And, plenty give lower in looks because service was trash, even if she is smoking hot. But you’re right about what should be, which is good or bad service should not impact her rating in looks. And vice versa.

Sure, but you can make the observation about a lot of human behavior. Why cognitive bias? Why projection? Why knee jerk legislation or demands for it when something really bad happens (that was always possible but most wanted to discount or just never bothered thinking about)?