It is the number you were assigned when you registered with TER. You were the 2,648,667th person to join.
Having a bit of anxiety about BBBJ safety. Is it safer than BBFS? all the internet resources seem to say it is not safe. So why are BBBJ providers so common? Are STI’s from bbbj common in the hobby?
Oral sex without protection (condoms or dental dams) is "safer" than vaginal or anal sex, but it is not entirely safe. Unprotected oral contact carries a risk of transmitting sexually transmitted infections (STIs) in both directions. Look for sores in and around the mouth. 👄
Nothing is 💯 safe. Covered is best if you're stressed. Don't do anything that makes you uncomfortable.
if her customer is a male. Infections on a male penis are generally discoverable by visual inspection. Likewise with a provider infection that is visible on the labia. However, an internal infection in the provider's vaginal canal is often undetectable until it has progressed to the point that it becomes painful for her, or is producing a discharge like the ones visible on males.
That is why the client should always insist on Eating Her Pussy.....if the gal has an infection---you have to get close enough to detect it via sight, smell or taste......if she resists----back off bucko......there is a reason she doesn't want you exploring too closely ! And if it smells bad---there is something causing that to happen---so buyer beware falls into play not only when you are paying to play----but equally so when you are playing to play !
A visual inspection certainly helps! That said, about 50% of men are asymptomatic for chlamydia. 25% are asymptomatic for gonorrhea.
There are also harder-to-quantify risks of HSV and HPV (the vaccine doesn’t protect against all strains).
Don’t get me wrong, I do bbbj, just correcting the info.
I am a older guy and love BBBJ. Nothing is guaranteed but stick with higher end ladies. Once things are wrapping up head to the shower or sink and wash your hands and penis well with soap and water. Maybe I am just lucky but its been working for me many years. Also just make it part of your lifestyle to get tested at least three times per year. I use "any test now " and they will email you the results in a day or two. Be careful who you see.
the messy truth of blowjob safety is this: the sloppier, wetter, and more drool-soaked the encounter, the less the risk. Wrt your sexual health, a deluge of spit is your best friend.
hear me out.
first, the physics of friction. dry skin rubbing on tissue is bad news because it creates microscopic tears. those tears are basically red carpets for bacteria to enter your system. a truly sloppy, spit-heavy blowjob turns your dick into a slip-and-slide. when you have a constant tsunami of drool, there is zero friction to cause those micro-tears. you want things drenched. dry == dangerous.
plus, a torrent of spit acts like a miniature carwash. pathogens need to sit still and latch onto your cells to infect you. when your partner is gurgling a ton of sloppy fluid, that river of spit flushes away bacteria and viruses before they can get anywhere near your urethra. you are essentially drowning the bad guys in real-time.
also: spit is not just water. spit is packed with mild antibacterial enzymes and antibodies evolved to neutralize invaders. a dry mouth is a stagnant breeding ground. a mouth that is producing or overproducing spit is constantly deploying a wave of organic chemical defenses. the more fluid, the more diluted and uselss any bugs become.
this is why catching hivv from a blowjob is practically unheard of. the virus cannot survive a bath in salivary enzymes.
even for stubborn bacterial stis like chlamydia or gonorrhea, their chances of survival plummet when they are diluted by a massive volume of sloppy fluids. they get washed away long before they can do any harm.
so, to toot my own horn, if you want to keep things safe, look for a provider who is not afraid to get sloppy. a dry, polite encounter might seem neat, but it actually carries way more risk. wrt safety, a glorious, dripping deluge of spit and fluids is your ultimate protective shield.
at the very least, it's hot.
I can verify Pandora is the sloppy BBBJ queen. When all was said and done, a pool was constructed inches away from the scene.
so much fun!!!
Sloppy is just more fun! Guys always look at me weird when I stick a towel under them. I tend to get the bed wet otherwise 😆
HSV-1, CMV.
And, interestingly, gonorrhea.
Oral gonorrhea, certainly. I don’t know why this is so surprising to so many people.
Its the only way to be sure.
Or...go get a rx for doxy and prep. Then let the good times roll.
That’s exactly how I do it.
…he sounds very handsome.
I’m just the reincarnation of some fuckin guy who regretfully told admin to delete his account when he was getting married back in ’18. That was sort of stupid.
When that happened, the name on all my reviews and board posts was changed to some random number. Well, all except for the last few months of posts, those seemed to have been deleted 🤷♂️
I’m definitely not Bob, never been a Bob, but I guess if you don’t like “Frank” you can call me “ghost of 2648667”
Holy crap! That might’ve been a good handle for the new account! Why didn’t I think of that 🤦🏻♂️
and a great guy. A real freak, too.
the honeymoon come to an end. Sorry, had to ask.
It is the number you were assigned when you registered with TER. You were the 2,648,667th person to join.
Correct, it's your ter username id
Okay. So what’s yours? Or what’s mine now? What I mean is, when I look at my account there’s no such number listed anywhere. Where’s it at?
Mine is 3198655
Yours is 3714134
You can't just see it, it is supposed to be internal information. You have to look for it or leverage urls that might take your ID as a parameter instead of your name.
Im just explaining how it works.
Your ID is the key of a databse entry that contains your info. Including aliases.
Yes, aliases also map to this id. So if you can reliably map an id to an alias, you will generally know who this alias belongs to.
The membership ID number, or whatever the correct label is, USED to be a visible number on your Account info page. (Maybe that's where you saw your 264... number.) They removed it from being displayed quite a while ago.
Okay. So what’s yours? Or what’s mine now? What I mean is, when I look at my account there’s no such number listed anywhere. Where’s it at?
...numerical order in which we joined. It serves no purpose for us; it's more of a bookkeeping thing for TER.
Okay, fair enough. Thanks 👍
Just weird that they have it where the av-er-age bear won’t see it but still leave it laying around where some people can find it. Let it all hang out, or secure it away for real. 🤷♂️
Oh, and to the question that was asked above about marriage and honeymoon. Every honeymoon ends. Some marriages don’t end, but mine did. Didn’t take me long to realize I was staring down the barrel of 40 years of hardly any sex; and with a person so totally dissimilar to the one to whom I had proposed that it almost certainly had been a trap. spent months fruitlessly begging to go to couples counseling, and then I bounced. Call me a quitter and an ass, I wont argue. That’s almost disgustingly oversimplified obviously, but basically what happened lol.
Personally I don’t think you are a quitter or an ass. There is no shame in moving on when relationships aren’t working out. Especially if the other party doesn’t want to make an effort to try to improve things. Sounds like you did the right thing for you. Respect.
The reason BBBJ is so much more common/expected is because HIV transmission through oral, specifically, is virtually zero. The other risks are comparable in magnitude - gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis, HSV and HPV - but since the bacterial ones are treatable, people worry about them less.
It’s also true that the health risk to the carrier if she does have gonorrhea or chlamydia in the throat is negligible in comparison to the risks of a genital infection, i.e. pelvic inflammatory disease. And on our end, the body tends to clear those infections from the throat after some months.
But there’s a significant risk to the client of acquiring penile gonorrhea or chlamydia from BBBJ, and a significant risk of him acquiring gonorrhea of the throat from DFK. The throat infection is most often asymptomatic to the provider, and throat testing only gets done if we specifically request it.
Most clients aren’t requesting or expecting BBFS. But I would say the majority won’t see a provider who doesn’t offer BBBJ. And, as you know, a provider who doesn’t offer it is realistically not going to get a rating above seven. So we make an economic decision that benefits outweigh the practical risks.
DFK alone can get a providers minimum performance score up to an 8, as BBBJ is not needed to attain that score.
Absolutely true - but if our concern is not acquiring and transmitting gonorrhea of the throat, DFK risk stratifies similarly to BBBJ.
…you know as well as I do that most guys out there aren’t going above a 6 for a CBJ, no matter what else happens in the session.
That’s maybe not you or me, but generally speaking. I’m not saying it’s never happened, just talking about the vast majority. Except for the guys who ask for it, when she pulls out a condom for the BJ, most reviews I’ve read are an instant 6, 7 max.
I’m not saying it should be that way. I actually think our scoring “system” is a fucking joke. I’m just speaking to the reality.
I wonder, if they are not going above a 6 just because of the CBJ, or was there really more to it? I have read some reviews that were 6 or below and it was CBJ, and almost every time they are complaining about a lot more than just CBJ. I have given 8s twice with CBJ, and have read plenty of reviews that gave out 8s where CBJ was the standard.
A few common themes I notice that was the case with my sessions and most of these types of reviews.
1. The provider advertises that she does CBJ.
2. The provider is hot.
3. CBJ aside, her service is top notch. There are little to no other issues.
If these 3 things happen, it's hard not to give an 8. The problem is, it's often not disclosed upfront and guys who expect it are disappointed.
I don’t disagree with you. In fact, if you’ve given an 8 to providers who gave you a CBJ, I’d say we’re very like minded. And yeah, the big variable there is her personality/attitude.
I’ll say it yet again: I’m not saying it’s never happened; I’m talking about the majority here. Law of averages. I haven’t read all 2.6 million reviews or whatever, I’m speaking to the ones I have read.
Honestly it’s hard to research because providers who do DFK, CBJ are kinda rare in my experience. Interestingly, while you’re saying this out here, I’ve literally got guys in my DMs telling me how a CBJ always deserves a 6, 7 at best. Proving my general point.
Yes, there’s definitely a trend of looks influencing performance score. Bigly. It’s like people who tip on looks in a restaurant. Awesome service with a butter face, the performance score suffers a bit. Meh service from a smokeshow, the performance score gets a bit inflated. It’s a thing, especially with men. I’ve probably been a little guilty of it if I’m honest. I try to avoid it though.
You’re absolutely right as well about expectations. That’s what I was hinting at when I said the scoring system is a joke. Between her marketing, our communications, and her reviews; if I got what I was expecting and had a good time, why can’t I give her a 9 or ten if I want to? Fuck all these rules. They only exist for the benefit of all the mooks here who want to take a glance at a profile and pull the trigger without actually reading the reviews, probably because they never really learned how to read.
On a personal level I agree with you and RR but that’s irrelevant because of the silent majority lol. The YUGE number of guys who write reviews and don’t participate in these forums.
I was simply speaking to the larger point that Claire quite accurately made. If a provider does not do BBBJ, she’s getting lower scores across the board. Maybe not from you or I, but across the board and across time. Period. I don’t see how you could possibly argue with that.
RR’s point that she COULD still get an 8 isn’t wrong; and it also isn’t super relevant to providers because of how rare that is. That’s my point.
And, clearly you too, since we are in line in that regards. And, I don't dispute the guys in your DMs nor the majority in reviews. But how many of those guys in your DMs are referring to ladies they knew only offered CBJ going into the session? In my case, not only did these ladies make it clear, but they had 10+ reviews with a high 8 overall average. That means not just me, but every client who saw them up until that point felt the same. The common theme, they were smoking hot. I'm talking the type when they open the door, you immediately think "jackpot!" I'm talking about the type that you would consider masterbating to their fully clothed pictures. I'm talking the type that you have to fight as hard as hell not to cum to fast the moment their warm hands touch your penis.
Ironically, in both cases, they delisted. Why? Because of one really bad review. Both were guys who didn't read their ads and see that they only offered CBJ. Neither had a ton of reviews, which shows it's hard to last long before someone comes along and writes a pissed off review because of no BBBJ. I think part of the assumption was because these were not cheap ladies. But in perspective, they are hot enough to be getting $1k+ but were charging $700, which to some is in the "I expect a BBBJ" territory. And that's kind of what I am getting at. The lower marks are not from guys who went into the session making a choice and being okay with CBJ. They are typically from guys who under no circumstances would make a choice to see a lady they knew only offered CBJ.
You basically hit on the point that expectations have a strong impact on grading, not some objective fact about things. TER had a poll a while back about scoring and accuracy of pictures. Most responses said that they lower both the looks and performance scores when the ad pics don't match the person. From a purely objective and fair point of view that should have no impact on the scores. Not like there is only one provider that someone will give a specific score in looks for and no one else qualifies. Similarly, just because the look different from the pics it's hard to see how a fair assessment of their performance should be lowered from what they otherwise would have been given.
But it seems to be how many behave so the lower scores for CBJ when the generally expectation is uncovered is hardly a surprise.
Now I'm not saying youre wrong, but I don't get what prevents people from being objective. Any expectation not met is generally contained to a particular category.
Being upset or annoyed could affect sesh quality and overall session. But I feel like if a provider is amazing in bed and has skills those skills can't really be denied regardless of her looks. And so forth.
Objectively separating the categories and not allowing one to influence the other is how it should be. But not everyone is good at being this objective. Plenty of clients give higher marks in looks because the service was great, despite her being average or worse in looks. And, plenty give lower in looks because service was trash, even if she is smoking hot. But you’re right about what should be, which is good or bad service should not impact her rating in looks. And vice versa.
Sure, but you can make the observation about a lot of human behavior. Why cognitive bias? Why projection? Why knee jerk legislation or demands for it when something really bad happens (that was always possible but most wanted to discount or just never bothered thinking about)?
I don't know but my basic take is our society thinks some things should be taught and other merely learned on one's own. Emotional maturity and discipline seems to be in the latter. I suspect any efforts to formally teach such behavior would hit against both sides -- either brainwashing our children to trying to "mold" them into something they are not naturally. Shrug.
But I also suspect there are other margins here. Even when people are being completely logical and objective I suspect some others are like me, performance isn't some external thing separate from looks -- it's part of a whole package. If I we that way I should rate sex toys and machines and dolls performance the same as I would a real providers. I cannot do that. Same as regardless of their skills, if I don't find the provider attractive (broad range, not has to be a 9 thing) I'm really not going to be sexually stimulated any more by her than I would my hand, which I rate really low to be honest.
This isn't me disagreeing with you I don't think what you said disagrees with my post, just stated your view which I don't have any real disagreement with. Whatever the reason people don't separate their emotional state from their assessments it does seem to happen and, at least some, appear aware they are doing so.
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Thank you! That’s exactly what I was getting at, I appreciate you
Dose yourself up and enjoy without worry.