FL Traveler asked today on the FL board, "What makes for a great session?" It's sometimes easier to say what doesn't make for a great session... and here's one particular peeve of mine. (Taken from my blog at www.escortblogs.net)
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Silence isn't golden!

Last night I had what could have been a great client...good-looking, well-built, professional, nice smile.. but what he DIDN'T have made it a very long hour. Here he was, in a profession which rewards precise and persuasive communication, and the man DIDN'T SAY 20 WORDS.

PLEASE! I don't know you. I don't know what pleases you, what turns you off. Do you like dirty little nothings whispered into your ear... or would you like me to be as silent as you are?

If I ask you a direct question (which I did, in desperation for some guidance), ANSWER it! Don't just sit there like you didn't hear me. When I ask if your nipples are sensitive, don't just smile and shrug. If you like what I'm doing, you don't have to alert the media-- a little moan of pleasure would do very nicely.

I'm all about sending my clients away with a huge smile on their face, feeling like they've been on a erotic vacation with the girlfriend of their dreams. That's my goal. But to make it happen, there have to be two people in the room... and they both have to be willing to open themselves up to the other person. I was there. Where were you?

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Not a rant, just a plea from a girl who loves to please!

I don't like to talk, I spend alot of time and energy talking to people with work & sometimes quietness is a welcome addition.

So I slink down into the stylist chair and say "finally some peace and quiet "  normally the stylist gets the message.  

This gentleman you are referring to probably didn't want to talk and wanted relaxation and no effort.

Other than being respectful and kind, he doesn't have to entertain you or even talk.

He probably was just sick and tired of talking.

he TOLD me that! I have several regulars who come to me for exactly that kind of peace and quiet. They arrive, say hello, and then let me do every little thing that helps them forget their day, enjoy pure erotic sensation and finally, sink into utter relaxation.

The difference is, they told me what they wanted the first time we met.

In the situation I'm referring to, I'd need to be an ESP-- Extra-Sensory Provider!

Isn't his another example of the typical women? Again they want us to talk to them and share our feelings...

Seriously sounds like a difficult session, but there could be reasons for his reticence. Perhaps he's extremely shy or ????

Interesting perspective from both Tabu and Lisa.  I'm not afflicted with logorrhea but I seem to be able to communicate, verbally or nonverbally, what I like and I certainly would answer direct questions, because, after all, a date is for the mutual gratification of its participants and not much gratification usually occurs without feedback.  It doesn't need to be verbal or even oral, though.

A great courtesan will adapt accordingly. We're all made up of different combinations of DNAs.

It sounds like he's not rude. But perhaps he's not that into the session because he didn't get the chemistry from you or you're not his type. No one should expect to be liked by everyone. No matter how great a personality one has, he or she is bound to come across at least one person that he or she doesn't click with.

It's common courtesy, something perhaps in short supply these days, I guess.  It may be part of the gameboy generation where communication skills are limited.  They've never learned that talking to your partner can heighten your sexual communication as well.  Stick with us older gents, Tabu, and you might not have this problem!

My willy stands at attention, and I bury my head between your legs.  Maybe it's not for everybody, but it seems to work for me...

While I can't answer for him, I personally want the extra talking with the ummm, action

I have been married 21 years and she and I live on separate planets within the same house.  Prior to my plunge into the hobby, I hadn't been intimate for 2+ years.  Even then, for her it was a chore and didn't enjoy.  Simply put, I don't know what I like or want.  Howver, I have told my providrs this at the start of date.  I am a "starched shirt" kind of guy and intimacy is a man and woman giving pleasure to each other, not a hot-n-wild wrestling match. I treat her like a lady. I tend to fold my clothes as I am getting comfortable.  One provider, a 22 year old, commented on it. She is one of those rip your clothes kind from her reviews.  But, she took my clue She got with my program and I was happy. I guess I have been lucky to meet the ladies that can adapt.

While I'm not as extreme as your client (I do speak when spoken to), I have a tendency not to vocalize much.

I have often told a woman "Don't mind me if I'm quiet."

The best answer I remember getting was "Then don't mind me if I scream and flop around a lot."

Lex, Lex Luethor...limp as a noodle and easily pleased. I'll talk your ear off...in fact, I'm almost willing to bet at or around minute 50 you'll say something along the lines of, "Why Lex, though your 3rd grade adventures are very interesting, I'm curious to whether you want ---- me or not. The clock is ticking."

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Hardly LOL

LOL That is not how I remember it You walked in and slapped your dick in my mouth almost immediately so I couldn't say a word but I got the message.

You know I am just kidding I think you are a true gentleman

OK, so there's your version, my version and the truth.  Wanna go for best 3 of 5?

I hate trying to run the whole show, It's makes for a better time when you get a little feed back...
a little ooh ah! something so I know I'm doing my job!!! Well so I can enjoy too!

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Tahnk You

It has been said that a male speaks about 2000 words per day, and and a female speaks about 5000.   Men tend to use their words while on the job.  Lets be honest, as he was running on empty.  Men are not chatty.

So don't get concerned if you ask an hobbyist how he would like it, and he responds "without conversation".