This ex provider and I have become close friends.  We talk every day about everything. I have stopped seeing her for sessions years ago even though she is hot.  It was several reasons,  first being that she rarely was in this business and expressed her wish to retire from it.  I also met and interacted with her boyfriend/ex, have many common friends,  went to same parties,  go out for drinks together,  work out, and travel together too.   It was clear that we crossed into civvy world and have a real friendship.  We even have a cover story that we tell our friends when they ask us how we met.  We maintained a good platonic friendship.  

Recently I got an urge tho.  I told her I still think she's hot and that i want to get in her pants.  She and I are both not interested in other for a long term relationship,   we both  have someone in our lives already. Plus I'm a generation older than her and clearly not the hot young buff type she goes for.  

 
she said she will think about seeing me again says she does need money.  Now I'm having second thoughts,  if this is even a good idea...?  
she has been a trusted friend over the years and I'm thinking  if this course of action may eventually ruin things for the brief pleasure I get.  Or could it actually work out?  

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I would suggest that starting a sexual relationship with her under a civie set of rules will lead to you two breaking up.

So, if you value the relationship, keep it non-sexual.

If you do really want to get back in the sack with her, at least do it under the rules of P4P and pay her for her services.

I also have several ex-provider friends who I see for platonic dates and such, and I plan to keep them that way despite their wanting to get physical.

What in the hell am I supposed to call you?

He has shown troll like tendencies already, but I hate to call anyone troll(s) prematurely..

He hasn't had enough at bats, but is getting there fast..

And Yes, a flatline as an alias is not helping either.

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threads you see on here these days.
there's just way too many topics that start out with somebody wondering why another person runs the business a certain way or another providers doing this or that I just don't get it.
that probably explains why I'm a tomboy and I surround myself with almonds I just can't deal with women who constantly are looking at what other women are doing and that's all they can talk about excuse to put themselves on a pedestal and act like you are so great and everyone else just sucks
the one good thing about this thread is that its not analytical and its not catty.
I think this board needs to toughen up a little bit and stop with the whiny catty bs
it's beginning to remind me of the locker room at the strip clubs.
or hairdressing school or high school

I am loving that name already.  

He's a troll :

If both your SO's are not in the know, then its the same as any cheating situation with the real risk of it blowing up for everyone involved. But y'all are both grown-ups, if it doesn't feel like a big deal then go ahead and try it once and then reevaluate. Given the potential for complications, I'd choose the friendship over sex (you've already had each other, so that mystery has been put to rest); search for another provider who looks like her.

CPR= Could Possibly Ruin
Drugs= You must be on them if you think it won't change things in a bad way
Airway= Take a deep breath and don't do it

Just stay friends with her bro, unless of course she initiates and mentions having you as a fuck buddy  

MM

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Surround yourself with whatever you want.
Damn girl! You sexy!

Why didn't anyone tell me how hot this girl is?!?!

'm the most peaceful guy on the planet.  

if you want to stay friends !!!  found out the hard way, when I did

I need the money' lol. That should take care of any nonsense you might have in mind about anything more than a P4P encounter. She does not want to date you, does not want to fk you for free, but needs money right now. I do find it odd you do so much together, have met her boyfriend, and would still fk her, but you are afterall... a fkin man. It's going to be a bit uncomfortable to remain friends if you start paying her for sex again. This is why I don't have male friends that I am attracted to... too much can happen.

I gotta actually get on these boards more often. Dammit Hooktard I was getting ready to type the exact response ( minus the F'ckin man comment lol )......

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Is that why YOU felt the need to tell all women over 30 what you think they should charge? Dumb ass.

I bet there's a lot of male friends whose egos have just been crushed horribly!

(Not referring to just you)

Just say no.  Nothing positive can come from this!

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with both of the couple...

Haven't decided if I like his posts yet or not, but I like the name. First time I saw it, I thought it was cool.

We're not all gay!

.... just delusional......

Dear Mr. Flatline,

FWIW it's worth, I'll jump on my soapbox for a few moments and offer my two cents' worth.

Ask yourself this: what's more important to you?  

A) the long-term, platonic friendship you have obviously enjoyed during the years after you stopped seeing your lady friend -- the very same friendship that will likely endure and remain if you don't jump into her pants based upon her own short-term financial needs?

OR

B) the short-lived pleasure you will derive when you give your lady friend the financial help that she self-admittedly needs, and at the same time, will fuel and feed your own lusts and desires...  

And then, upon the receipt of these funds (however long it takes to get her out of her financial duress), she'll kick you to the curb after you placate her short-term needs? And you, my dear, will be the one shaking his head (the big or little one is to be debated), wondering what in the world happened with this situation?!

The scenario you described is a classic situation of enablement on both counts (yours and hers) that will only lead to resentment toward each other and, eventually, will result in a total loss of the friendship you once enjoyed.

Additionally, if she doesn't immediately chomp at the bit at your offer and says she has to think about seeing you again, but only because she "does need the money," well.... that should be a major red flag to you from the get-go.

Believe me, in the past, I have wrestled with the same situation that you described. But I chose to keep my friends as friends.... and I'm ever so glad I did. And so are they! These few special gentlemen are such blessings in my civilian world, and an unrivaled source of support and encouragement as I am gradually easing my eventual transition from civilian to part-time companion.  

And that's all I have to say 'bout that! I'll jump down from my soapbox, but I truly hope that my words, as well as the sage advice of others, might allow you to come to the decision that's best for all parties involved.

With all my best wishes to you and your lady friend....

xoxo,

AR

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the blue diamond strawberry coated ones are amazing and I'm obsessed with them
the Blue Diamond chili lime ones are also great
and blue diamond wassabi ones are also good
I do happen to have all three of those in my snack cabinet everytime I open it
I have no idea why I randomly tossed that out there so just disregard that...
it is still hilarious and I completely I'm laughing my b*** off right now
being crazy is not always fun but there are sometimes when I can really make you laugh
this is one of those times
branches there are times where it's awful and its health and you just wish you were like one of the highly intelligent perfect people you see on here
you know the ones that got all their I 's
and they make sure not to use run on sentences
I definitely wish I could be like those people some days
but no not me I would prefer to surround myself with almonds.

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