Well, ok.  The OP deserved to be flamed for a condescending post with the false alternatives of 'great actress vs sex fiend'.   But as my logic professor used to say: "Even a blind chicken eventually finds a grain of corn".   With that in mind, let's look at Option #2 again:

#2. She needs the money and is OK with sex with a stranger.

I wonder if someone can disabuse me of the notion that Option #2 is nearly a comprehensive explanation of the sex trade.   --z

I have been with several providers that are either great actresses or just total sex fiends. So I was wondering. In my opinion there are 4 options.
#1. providers loves sex and figures she may as well get paid for it.
#2. needs the money and is OK with sex with a stranger.
#3  absolutely has to have sex and would do it either way but what the hell, might as well get paid.
#4  not that into it but what the hell it's EZ money

I'm sure I've missed some so chime in.

#3 seems to be the most fun IMO.

Business vs nymphomaniac?

There are other options. A lot of them.

But, you may as well ask: what is the meaning of life? I don't know what the answer is. But, I'm very certain it does not fit into 4 categories. And it damned sure can't be answered on a poon board, or explained by throwing out some stereotypes.

Is this a career choice for him, or is he just a mysophiliac? I mean, the pay is great, he has summers off, and you can't knock the prestige... but I can't help but wonder if he doesn't just get turned on by the dirt and grime he encounters every day. What to think? 1) He loves the power of the janitorial calling, and if he happens to get covered in mud and slime while mopping the sub-basement, so be it. or maybe 2) He would have taken any job that offered daily muck opportunities. Or maybe there is no sexual fetish involved at all, maybe he just 3) craves the respect of the football team and class clowns, and enjoys mopping up puke in the cafeteria.

Of course there are many other options. I think the options that are posted might be the top ones that we all hear of.
Kinda makes me think now lol

Nymphs are nice, too.

See if you go back in time, men hung out in upscale nightclubs staring at women until he decided which one gave him his woody . Who knew why each woman was there but generally the " test time" for some who happen to meet at the nightclub with some great attraction , player hound dog would use about 90 days with his fetch When he was done, he was back out there being a hound dog looking once again.Some used the line "baby I don't want to hurt you I just don't know what I want" line... and back to the playing field he went where women who just wanted to get laid were classified as lounge lizards and would always be at the niight club , so hound dog could go back to that or be a player as usual always seeking a new person . Sometimes settling for lounge lizard .A smart woman who gets tired of the player wakes up one day, discovers that time is valuable so instead of wasting time with someone who has no idea what he wants from life other than to tap as many ladies as he can, spending money on drinks dinners ,etc   now wastes no ones time , and then there was TER . Why wonder if it feels fabulous it never really mattered that much to begin with did it?   And think of how much $$$ the provider world has saved you...  

Now I have to clean up the coffee I spewed all over my computer and kitchen table!

Nice post!

....with a provider I know well.  First, I would say that #1 and #3 are essentially the same, maybe only varying by degree of lust.  But a provider I know really loves/needs sex, she has a very strong libido, never satisfied with one guy even in civie life.   She refers to herself as a "sex fiend".  She loves being a provider and fkin everyday and getting paid well, she is one happy camper!! And, believe me she is a treat to be with too!

I know 2 that are #3

I invite you to kiss, cuddle and copulate with the hideous mutant strain of human flotsam that occasionally washes over our doorsteps. Let us hear your moans of pleasure as someone goes down on you with all the finesse of an aardvark attacking an ant hill. Let us see you writhe with ecstasy from the inept poking as some corpulent whale is crushing your internal organs. Let us watch you nod with interest as someone drones on about the exciting world of the wholesale plumbing supply business. Let us gaze as you nestle with some mountain of flesh with more chins than a Chinese phonebook.  Perhaps then your analysis would have an ounce of credibility.  

I'm not bad looking, but would be thinking of nothing beyond which of my features is replusing you while you are pretending to enjoy our time together.

I get the reality of all this, but wow that was kind of hard to read and makes me think it is time to quit completely...

I should have said fast money. It's a hard life for sure. Especially when you have to try to keep a second life private.

Jesus, that's depressing and hilarious at the same time.

I think she did use the word "occasionally." Considering that a very large percentage of American men are obese, especially those who are into middle age, I can understand that many of her customers are less than Mr. Universe material. On the other hand, her remarks make me wonder why the last provider I saw would only do reverse cowgirl with me!

I suppose I could have given credence to the OP's asinine point and said the combination of sex and money makes this the greatest job in the world. But the reality is we take the good as well as the bad, smile and give the customer the full value of what he paid for  - just like any business. If the collective scratching sound we hear is guy's crossing me off their lists, so be it. I'll take solace in the fact that there are still some men who understand and embrace the true the nature of the hobby. Men who recognize that our arrangement is one of reciprocity not emotional symmetry. When such men no longer exist, then yes, it will be time to retire.

It's FAST money, and not easy. Maybe easy in the short term, but not in the long-term, all things considered.

I have met great people and had great experiences, and for that I'm grateful. I have also suffered a lot and had some negative life-changing consequences (being outed is one). It is very hard to emerge from this life unscathed. All things told, I'd never have gotten into this if I knew then what I know now.

The provider who is husband hoping. I've met a couple of providers who believe they will meet their knight in shining armor who will be so consumed with them that they take them off the market.  These tend to be older providers with no future options for future security other than marriage. These providers play the nymphomaniac card most often because they think good sex is enough to snag Mr. Security.

Then there are the providers who use this business to create their life. This business is their life period. They will invite clients into their lives as well as their bed. The only intimacy, companionship or social life they have is through their business. You'll find that these are the providers who offer OTC time consistently.

But yes, every escort has to deal with them, as well as unhygienic men and complete assholes. Just part of the job. It's not all fun and games. No job can be. She said SOME men, so she is not being a hater, just giving her honest opinion.

Even a nice man doesn't always realize when he steps over the line. So that person might be you (at a certain moment), and you just don't realize it. I have a client I like as a person, but hate being with, just because of his 'style', if you will.

If it wasn't hard to do sometimes, if it wasn't repulsive sometimes, more women would do it. We make it look easy because that's our job.

What you lacked in skill you made up for with speed. Relax, unconditional positive regard is part of the service.

IMO, a compassionate client accepts that he is paying for a service. No client should ever assume that a lady loves the job so much that pay is a bonus. If my boss treated me that way I'd quit in an hour. Paying another person for sex - something that can entail risk, negative emotion, pain - I don't take that lightly.

To tell ourselves that the ladies are here for sex is probably just a mechanism to rationalize some advantages being taken on our part. I personally think it's foolish, like telling ourselves the waitress brings us more soup because she loves her job. Doesn't mean she's miserable, but doesn't mean that she's as happy to serve as she makes me believe.

I do get the impression that my favorites like me. They like our chats. They like the pay. I'm a nice CLIENT. That is enough for me. I never lose sight of the fact that prostitution is a service. I don't kid myself, the women I see wouldn't be half as nice if I didn't pay.

Tasha,

I'm not an attractive man, I'm about 20 lbs. overweight, 49 years old with greying hair. So, if it wasn't for you lovely ladies I'd have to settle for some in attractive fat woman and I know that. However, I have money so I don't have to settle for some unattractive fat woman because there are ladies like you out there. Now I will say I'm always respectful, always freshly showered, shaved and teeth brushed and I always dress nicely and I shower at the beginning of the date so the lady knows I'm fresh. I imagine that I'm not a good lay, but that's what you ladies are there for, to help a guy like me along and make a guy like me happy for short 2-4 hour time periods. I wonder if you are in the wrong profession? Because I can't imagine that there are a too many attractive hobbyist's out there, they would be able to get good looking women without having to pay for it (although I'll say that men pay for it one way or another so paying for it directly is better in my mind because we both know the other's motivation).

So I'm just saying your very explicit response is alarming to us hobbyist's. I don't ever want to be with a woman that doesn't want to be with me, so, although you seem to be a very attractive person (be careful not to take that for granted as we all aren't attractive) I don't think I would be inclined to request a date with you. Keep in mind I understand there are some hobbyist's that aren't as particular about their hygiene as I am, but to put us down for not being good in the sack is kinda alienating your customer, again that's your job.

are women who act like they love sex with ANYONE regardless of how disgusting they might be. Oh, so you like licking a hairy a hole do ya? Bravo...will send you some business! No, we are not all nymphos just waiting for another d*ck to suck, but as you said...it's a job. You take the good with the bad, and do your best to screen out clients you will be pulling your hair out with. Any woman claiming every guy who walks through her door is hot as hell, squeaky clean, and a perfect gent is an all out liar or she is not getting that much business. To assume that guys paying for sex are all going to be Johnny Depp, is ludicrous.

Rasha not Tasha, um Russ...has been thankful and gracious to the men she sees in her posts, so I know she is not speaking from an every day, or every guy POV. Why is it every time a woman expresses something even with a hint of honesty, all you Mangina boys get all butt hurt? Have you seen her? Then news flash...SHE IS NOT TALKING ABOUT YOU!  If you do a search of her past posts, you will see just how many times she has said how thankful she is for the business she has and the opportunity that many of her clients have given her..don't just take ONE post out of a damn year, and read her the riot act.

I think I may be rubbing off on some women here, so I will take a break lol.

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The only ones I was putting down were those self-proclaimed "experts" on the business. But if you can't see the tongue-in-cheek humor in all of this then I am definitely not someone you should choose to see. There is certainly no shortage of quality providers so you should always select someone who meets your needs, not just in terms of appearance and performance, but temperament as well. I wish you the best in your search.

I do understand where you are coming from.  That said, just like I enjoy my job I would definitely prefer to be with someone who enjoys what she does - any job is about earning a living but having fun makes doing it better for everyone.  This is no different.  I may have misread your note a bit, but just read such deep disgust I would be afraid of what might be going through your mind...

some incredibly honest and eloquently stated points have been made. Rrasha, Tg-Baby, Bloopy (sp?), and London all have made interesting points. Thank you.

If I had to choose a number out of the limited list of possibilities, it would be number 2 as well. I actually am pretty lusty and adore sex- yes, with just about anyone- but I wouldn't camp out at my local grocery store and offer it for free to all and sundry. I can't think of any job I have done that I would do completely without charge- but I must admit that this is by far my favorite. My family always told me that if I want to be happy in life, I just have to figure out something I like and then find a job that that entails. I even mentioned sex, and everyone at the dinner table giggled. Lol! If they only knew!

My curse is being lusty *and* somewhat particular... I don't accept every offer I receive via email, and a lot of time and thought go into each request for an encounter. But once I make a decision to see you, sight unseen, I can guarantee that my lust will pour forth for you in abundance. Your looks do not matter at all. (Your good hygiene, of course, is essential!)

For me, chemistry is in the brain first and foremost, and the body a distant second. I can't tell you how many times in the past I have been at a party or night club interested in a civvie one-night-stand, and been unable to find someone suitable for my purposes in spite of the plethora of handsome men present. If there is no chemistry, there's no fun or me. If there is no mental connection, there is no chemistry. I think I'd have a better chance of getting what I want at an academic conference, because you actually get to have real conversations about substantial things with people there. (And even then, I'd likely be more attracted to the women than the men, purely because the kinds of academic conferences I tend to go to appeal to more women than men.)

But having said all that, I am not the type of person to do something I don't enjoy for every long, and I can say without hesitation that being a companion/provider has been the best possible way to spend most of my working life.

While these ladies to provide a service, they can tell you no as well. Rasha appears to be a very pretty woman with a good head on her shoulders, and polite as well. I have not seen her personally, but I have not seen her attack anyone.

You should treat women with respect and as far as your hygiene, you are just doing what is asked of you. I'm not saying that I am God's gift to women, but I would say I'm a decent looking guy and I do just fine in the civie world. So I'm not here because I can't pick up a pretty woman for "free", we all have our reasons.

I hope you find what you are looking for, but I don't know how I could help you other than to say keep looking and see as many as you can searching for you ATF

Every provider is different, and every provider inevitably cares about the money, or she wouldn't do it as a provider, right?  That much oughta be clear.

What you are basically asking is...to what degree would she be doing this if there was no money.  Beyond that, there is no real answer.

And like I said, that varies from provider to provider.