has anyone noticed there has been a lot of upfront deposit req from girls lately? I only see FSBM.. what's your thoughts do you do the  deposit or no? why or why not?

or have seen before.  Otherwise it is very risky.  Or if the provider decides to swap out with someone else, you are hosed...Do it  at your own risk.  That is why, it is better to go with the agencies.

I've never seen a deposit required for an fbsm session in Southern California.  

That is easy  
Have never done a deposit and never will

Here deposits are not usual, not necessary, and not advisable to send.  
I'm talking about ordinary visits, not FMTY and the like.  

No.  I see a lot of ladies claiming to require deposits and personal information, but rarely experience either even from ladies that claim to require one or the other.  I don't mind deposits for 3-4+ hour dates, but don't do them for 1-2 hour dates.  The ladies that require deposits for 1-2 hour dates tend to be the ones that will jerk you around.  You may think that you are securing a particular time period in exchange for that deposit whereas in reality it is oftentimes just the opposite ... the lady has you committed to seeing her so she can jerk you around and make you adjust to her schedule.  

I’ve known more than a few popular FBSM providers. The best of them go through a lot of preparation before each session that goes well beyond the already non-trivial preparation required of the escorts most of us see.  
It’s also worth pointing out that the vast majority of FBSM providers I have known or known about would not do sessions for less than 2 hours. That alone should start to put an FBSM provider’s request for a deposit into perspective.
All that said, I haven’t been involved in the FBSM scene for a very long time.

Decades of mongering, have NEVER paid a deposit. And am I understanding OP correctly, for FBSM (Full Body Sensual Massage) you're paying a deposit?

I never have and never will send a deposit. If we can't come to an understanding otherwise, I'll see someone else.

Don’t do it!!!I did it once even though I got my deposit back it took awhile(look at my earlier thread on here) I think she saw my thread and didn’t want the bad reputation so she made good on returning my deposit!!!

I will do a deposit if she has a long trusted internet profile (Twitter/IG/OF) and good reviews.  I've never been burned on her end.  I had to cancel once a while ago and knew the consequences.  It was applied to a later date as expected.  We pay deposits in our civvie life all the time to people we don't know.  

No deposits ever

While I agree that I would NOT give a deposit to any provider I have  never seen, I can't imagine any provider that I HAVE seen ever asking for a deposit in the first place. I would find it highly insulting for a woman who I am willing to repeat with not trusting me to even show up.  

More requests for upfront deposits lately, that is true.  I have no problem finding a date without a deposit even mentioned.  I only see GFE.  I'm just getting back into the hobby after 6+ months off due to Covid.

Got burned one time--never again!!  

Agreed. I just had a young woman turn me down because I wouldn't do a deposit, even though she had checked references, etc. I politely explained to her that it would not happen -- once burnt, twice shy, etc. -- and she pitched a fit. She has numerous good reviews but I have to admit that before the deposit issue came up, I sensed something was a little off...

...the never have and never will category.

I’m not going to get scammed.

this topic has been discussed countless times.    consensus is no deposit.     99% of ladies only do overnights  with someone they already met,  and a guy runs the risk of getting black listed for not showing up for any appointment.  

You know what? You're right.

For the first time very recently, a provider asked for a 20% prepayment before scheduling a visit. This was a first for me in hundreds of encounters with an escort. I found it troublesome but bought a prepaid credit card and gave her the number. She was a top 10 lady on TER that I had seen once before and it all worked out.  Didn't seem necessary and it turned me off.

Not sure if a lady's perspective is welcome here, but I'll give it anyways just to give some perspective.  

Of course if the potential client is asking for something the requires a significant extra expense -- travel for instance, then a deposit seems reasonable.  But if it is just for an incall at her normal location, then a deposit is not something I would consider.  

I have to say..some very good points!! I'm still squeamish as hell on ANY kind of deposit arrangement but you make a compelling case--particularly with time wasters and "cranks". (I'm sure there's a fair amount of guys out there that get their kicks out of "chatting" with providers but not actually following through with an appointment.)

The only upfront deposit I'll give is the one I leave on her chin

I have always stood fast on No Deposits Ever. I started playing in this world 8 years ago and up until three months ago I have always been 100% against it. I have changed that stance but only with proven reputable women. I have sent deposits in the past three months to six women. Two had to cancel on their end and both immediately sent the deposit back with no questions and never asked if I wanted them to keep it for another time, it was refunded within a few hours the same way I sent it.  

I normally stay far away from the providers who request deposits.  However, I have sent deposits in the past to well-established providers and agencies who represent porn stars.  Sometimes, it's worth it to take the leap of faith.  Knock on wood, I've never been ripped off.

I had a recent bad experience with the provider Marianna Maison. After providing personal info for screening (I won’t do this again either), Ms. Maison demanded a non-refundable $500 deposit from me for the privilege of further communication with her regarding when she would be in Los Angeles and when we could meet.  In spite of clearing screening,  no communication without a deposit. Suffice it to say I would not acquiesce to such an arrangement and I ceased communication with her. 10 days after our last communication, she texts me demanding the $500 deposit and threatens to blacklist me as a time waster on all provider blacklists if I dont send the money by the end of the night. I didn’t send her a penny.  

Got burned once.. lesson learned

A.  Never Have Sent  a Deposit.
B.  Never Will Send a Deposit
C.  Refer to Statements A & B

I've only ever sent a deposit to one provider in all the years I've been seeing them, and that was only because i had seen her previously before she implemented the deposit requirement & knew she was reliable, organized and trustworthy.

I saw her years ago, before she implemented her deposit policy. I would definitely send her a deposit without being worried.

Ok so this thread is timely for me! After ten years of never making an advance deposit, I was recently thinking about making one! I have been admiring the photos and reviews of a sexy Cat K in LA, so I send her an email requesting a meeting. None of her very strong reviews mention a deposit, but she emails me back requesting a $100 deposit on Venmo. After some consideration and review of the thread above, I tell her the deposit is a “no go”, and my references should speak to my reliability. She still insists on deposit! Oh well on to the next 9.6 rated gal! She had a shot to collect my dough, but there are plenty of others out there who are also willing with no advance deposit. All these responses helped me to keep my convictions! Thanks.

I am sorry that it appears to be new to you. For everyone who states they won't give a deposit great, but realize people are providing deposits without any issues. I have a reputation to protect, so I have never had any issues with deposits.  

A decade is a pretty long session.

to a deposit for an extended session, like a weekend, or an overnight.  Normally, I book 1-3 hours, and I would never pay a deposit for that.  I always  have good references, and I'm a known tipper, so I just tell them to check my refs I provided and ask them if I ever no-showed.  That usually is enough to get a deposit-waiver from girls that "normally" require deposits from less-reliable men.  

Twitter is a good place. Look at her reviews. Times are changing. Deposits are becoming the norm.  Way too many cancellations and no shows. Providers invest money into appointments and with Covid many are taking less appointments. A cancellation can be costly for a woman.  
Like I said, a woman with history and a great reputation isn’t going to risk that for your deposit.  
Times are changing.

I only see ( well did see before Covid) well established ladies on TER and P411 so would not really have a problem with giving a deposit.  
I just don't feel comfortable getting involved in the electronic cash transfer platforms.
My fears are probably unfounded but I  am just not comfortable with it.
Not really educated in the systems either.

I accept amazon E gift cards. I don’t accept cash transfers either