A provider recently threatened to "blacklist" because i asked to reschedule an appointment about two weeks before we were to meet (it was only to push it back one day because my flights changed!). is that a thing on ter?
And only in cases where you question whether the person could be LE, aggressive, stole money, tried to haggled and other potential circumstances that can lead to problems or to alert others about anything fishy or inappropriate going on.
Do keep in mind that time wasters/ NCNS show up on those lists but if you only asked to reschedule it (once I imagine), I don't see why she would bring it up...
I'm not sure if it's a way to gain control back but it's really disappointing to hear, mostly because it makes the things that people SHOULD be blacklisted for, overlooked. When everyone screams, no one is actually heard.
In the past 3 months, it seems cancellations are on the rise, at least in the northeast the weather has been volatile, and to have a cancellation may mean no income for that day or what have you, and perhaps that may be the reason a reschedule or possible cancellation is more serious nowadays, but it doesn't seem to be right, again, at least in my opinion.
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One is a "personal blacklist", which is what she may have been referring to. She won't see you. The other is a "forum/national/club blacklist", which I would think would be for more egregious actions by the hobbyist than just cancelling a date with notice.
Well said!
The term is mis-used by many providers, who call their Do Not See list a blacklist. DNS lists are perfectly legit because no one is harmed. But they are not true blacklists.
A true national black list is also a legitimate place to warn providers about guys who rob, physically abuse, stalk, try to BBFS or intimidate them. They should never be used simply for NCNS or minor infractions. This is especially true if personal information is outed.
reason to ever be blacklisted. I think some ladies use that term so lightly and randomly they don't quite understand it. I have never even thought of that list but I do believe there are good and very strong reasons to blacklist an individual as Palomam stated. But I have been told, those lists are so long that they are overlooked and have been abused like many things in this world as it is. So backchannel with the ladies you know and word of mouth just like the guys do about us, is the only way to keep ladies from harm and is ultimately the best way imo.
Ladies here don't talk like guys do in backchannel. Two different approaches for sure. Ours is all about safety first, that's all we care about first and foremost. Whereas gents use backchannel for other reasons......or so I've been told.
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I would still put their ass there in a heartbeat.
Impressive! Soon you'll be batting above .100, Minnie! Way to go, lol! Just remember the Mendoza Line is still far, far above you.
PS: I certainly hope you have your own DNS list. I assume I'm on it. I really hope so. Not that it matters
you're obnoxious with lots of folks. I have plenty of company, thanks very much.
are just not my style. Enjoy your company then. You don't need me.
I do often refer to you as an idiot, but you are hardly all women, thank God. So how about this? Besides the ridiculous "Belebeu" and yourself, what other women have I called an idiot?
We already know the answer. None.
You are correct, however, in that I don't need you.
PS: Your batting average just sank below .100 again, Minnie.
everyday I'm quite sure of it amongst other things. And no, I didn't say 'all' women. But if you are the Grammarian, or whatever pedestal you put yourself on in the writing world, HA, then you should know it could refer to one, two or twenty in that sense. In any event, one or two is bad enough, don't ya think? Of course you don't. But I wonder if you kiss your mother with that mouth... I'm sure she'd be proud of what you spew from that mouth on a daily basis, fuck board or not. Pleasant Nick. Really. Hey whatever gets your goat, ya know?
But thanks for reminding me. Oh, and I love goats. They taste like, uh, goat. I really seem to get yours, don't I, sweetie? You're so much fun!
we have that in common at least. I am sorry to hear that. There is nothing like losing a mother and it changes you forever. Specifically today is a very personal day for me, so excuse my extra feistiness, or not. At least lighten up a bit if it's at all possible. Thanks.
But answer me this: if your Mom's dead, why would you make a joke about anyone else's? When you just don't know?
I can guarantee you one thing: I've flamed people for what they say. And flamed them for their opinions, or what they don't get. But I have never cast aspersions on someone else's family member. Why do it when you just don't know?
Nick has a point Taylor..
I myself doubt your Mom is dead..
You shouldn't speak of the dead that way.. You know that..
My dad can be a dick.. He is just tying to prove a point..
It's obvious you get my Dads points too..
Yet you deny them? Why?
Submit. Tough girl.. We are all friends here...
If you belive the fact..
No one is out to make you look bad here!
Use me as an example..
I never lie...
And yes she is dead and I watched her die and took care of her for 2 fucking years, so don't fucking go there with me. Today would've been ********. I wouldn't expect assholes on this board to understand a damn thing nor have a heart on any level including your clueless friend even when I ask him to go lightly...it only shows what a true dick he is. So don't go and make me the bad guy about this too. It's wrong so YOU just admit it for a change. I asked nicely and he couldn't do that much. Who does that? The lowest of lows, that's who. Both of you stay away from me. Stay far away. I mean really. Unreal.
There are clearly no boundaries nor hearts to some on this board. WOW.
Talk about "WOW." You leave little doubt how toxic and unstable you are. I can't even imagine a photo to post here that would encompass your pathology.
I am starting to just feel sorry for you.
Good night.
it was an expression and nothing more. 'You kiss your mama with that mouth'...seriously? And yes, I talk about my mother all the time and joke and celebrate life and am not afraid to just because she's gone. And yes, I question men who say what they say here. It puzzles me. To me, as a mother myself raising a son, I would be devastated if he ever acted this way and so yes, I will question it. It was in no way to be offensive, no matter how you try to turn it around. If you have children, I would think you would know this in being a parent. If not, well then you will never understand.
But for you to blow it out of proportion to try to make me look as you always do and make yourself look like, well God, well kudos, you will always win Nick. Always, because that's what you're after, not I. I can't help but wonder why that is, but that's a whole other topic of conversation. Making fun of people is never anything I was good at, and I certainly don't get off on it like others. While you continue to label me many negative things, which is funny cause last time I checked, we never met. Unfortunately, you wouldn't know a non-toxic soul if it was staring at you face to face with open arms. And for that, I feel for you as well. And stable? You throw this word out there way too easily. You know as well as I, I am no more or less stable than anyone else in this world in trying to figure 'this' out, trust me. I'm doing the best I can, and that's all I can do with what I am handed on a daily basis here. How bout this, if you really want to get to know a woman like me (although I know you'll deny it)...google Libra Woman, and your answers will be there. Until then, stop continuing to label me all the nasty things you do. It's not very attractive as I've said before and for your actions, I bet I could guess your sign to a T. Our signs usually speak the truth about the 'real' person inside.
Listen, here's what I would suggest in moving forward....there really is no need for us to post with each other any longer as our posting IS toxic, not the people involved. Agree? I think most would. And I'm sure they don't want to see it or read it any more than I do. I will never understand you and you will never understand me. I've asked you to kindly stay away before so I will ask you again. Please respect my wishes as I will you. Try not mention my name or poke at me in every damn post from here on out, because whether you realize it...you do. At least try to be a gentleman in that respect. Try. This conversation and posting between us is over. It's time to move on. So do it. I know I will and I know you can too.
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then you put up a post like the one under the guy who said selling babies is illegal but giving them away isn't (immediately followed by a disclaimer you apparently ignored).
Your reply was epic and I couldn't avoid responding because it was you at your worst and it honestly pissed me off. It's in the thread below this one. My point is, even though I actually have little desire to get into pissing contests with you, it will probably be impossible for me not to respond to posts like that, if you continue to put them up.
Claro?
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You can feel the BSC through the screen like the provider in the review with the cockatiel. lol.
But for you to blow it out of proportion to try to make me look as you always do and make yourself look like, well God, well kudos, you will always win Nick. Always, because that's what you're after, not I. I can't help but wonder why that is, but that's a whole other topic of conversation. Making fun of people is never anything I was good at, and I certainly don't get off on it like others. While you continue to label me many negative things, which is funny cause last time I checked, we never met. Unfortunately, you wouldn't know a non-toxic soul if it was staring at you face to face with open arms. And for that, I feel for you as well. And stable? You throw this word out there way too easily. You know as well as I, I am no more or less stable than anyone else in this world in trying to figure 'this' out, trust me. I'm doing the best I can, and that's all I can do with what I am handed on a daily basis here. How bout this, if you really want to get to know a woman like me (although I know you'll deny it)...google Libra Woman, and your answers will be there. Until then, stop continuing to label me all the nasty things you do. It's not very attractive as I've said before and for your actions, I bet I could guess your sign to a T. Our signs usually speak the truth about the 'real' person inside.
Listen, here's what I would suggest in moving forward....there really is no need for us to post with each other any longer as our posting IS toxic, not the people involved. Agree? I think most would. And I'm sure they don't want to see it or read it any more than I do. I will never understand you and you will never understand me. I've asked you to kindly stay away before so I will ask you again. Please respect my wishes as I will you. Try not mention my name or poke at me in every damn post from here on out, because whether you realize it...you do. At least try to be a gentleman in that respect. Try. This conversation and posting between us is over. It's time to move on. So do it. I know I will and I know you can too.
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She said "she wasn't very good at this" meaning trading insults in a battle of wits. I have to agree with her on that, she really is NOT very good at this, but just like the 140 lb weakling that can't stop picking fights with bigger guys and then having meltdowns after getting his ass whipped, Taylor just can't seem to stop posting stupid shit that she KNOWS we are going to respond to, and then she tries to hide behind the fact that she is a woman and that she thinks we should be nice to her, no matter how much she deserves the ridicule she inevitably gets.
MUCH later.
This does not sound like the type of person you or anyone would want to meet.
This is exactly why guys don't want to give out their personal info.
I can't imagine why this lady would be upset with a reschedule TWO WEEKS in advance. I don't think that most guys even make appointments that far ahead of time.
Plus it seems like the OP is a fairly easy guy to please based on the number of 10/10's he's given out.
Of course, we are only getting one side of the story, so who knows what is really going on here.
That's totally over the top. Rrrrrrrrr.. >
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my first thing that I do is I take it up with them personally I do not save peoples numbers so my only messages to personally message someone
then I may go as far as to complain about it publicly. we're not always going to see eye to eye in this world certain personalities will always not get along well. and as humans we always want to see ourselves as being the best we can be it is hard to admit one maybe we fell short maybe we were short with people maybe we can justly got angry however when I have a right to be angry I do not care what anyone thinks I will speak my mind I don't stuff feelings and if I was treated poorly are unfairly or lied about you will know about it. I will also try to fight it to the best of my ability however in this field its just like the restaurant biz going to have good reviews and dad reviews you have to just ignore it if the majority of the business is good and people like your services you have to ignore the few naked dev things that happen in life
negative excuse me my phone is broken and I cannot go back and click mid sentence to fix a typo please excuse the typo up above that says naked I meant to say negative.
moving on. my suggestion to you would be. it is extremely easy to get a fake ID I would insist you don't put yourself out there do not make yourself vulnerable. I make myself vulnerable all the time I don't have anything to hide I'm not married my boyfriend knows what I do he's not even out he's in federal prison but I make it very clear this is me this is where I'm at in life I'm not saying I'm a hundred percent happy with things and then I don't want to achieve more and have better for myself. I'm also very clear about that but this is what I would say on your end if you do have a girlfriend or wife and you do have a lot to lose and you are trying to hide this part of your life perhaps you already do have all your ducks in a row and have a very normal acceptable good life with a good job that doesn't involve illegal or dangerous activity.
I am completely accepting of the fact that my life is what it is and it is a work in progress and it is only moving onward and upward and getting better from here out I happen to be happy with my progress in a lot of people are seeing my good progress if I were you and I had a completely straight laced job straight laced life no nonsense no cutting corners.
in your shoes you need to protect your identity for me it doesn't really matter at this point everybody knows I've had a little bit of a rough rocky road and then I'm trying to work on things nobody hold it against me as far as family friends boyfriends past boyfriends. packing my neighbor used to do what I do and we talked about work and business and she knows all the clients by first name and they even come over to help me a lot of help me with a lot of things nobody really hold it against me I kinda have a pink slip to get by this way everybody knows I have some other mental and physical disabilities like fibroin manic depression I'm working to overcome and I'm really excited cause I see things are going to be really nice for me and my future. I actually went to the Career Center in Salem and I found out finally how you email a resume to people everything's done on computers now I've dropped resumes off at places like the taxi place up the street and you know people just lose things these days nobody drops of resumes anymore if you don't know how to email your resume by computer you're going to suffer and never flourish.
anyways until I get my life completely straight laced in normal and I can be a soccer mom making cookies
I need not worry too much about the things that you must worry about if you are in a really good marriage but maybe you just need excitement on the side this is what I would say you need to get yourself a fake ID you need to use a fake first and last name.
you need to use a separate phone but cannot be traced to you
you cannot let any of these women know your real information because one fell swoop and they will blacklist you they all straightened out as far as I have heard from the clients there are many that will threaten that with the slightest disrespect even over the phone they will threaten that to the people
and as far as our defense. I did have her ass ment over the phone from someone to the extent that it was extremely extremely detrimental and affecting business and my mental health I begged and pleaded for them to stop and they continued to look fake appointments and harass me over the phone and it was pretty much passive aggressive but it was affecting me mentally and physically I was having a hard time using the phone at the time I was in physical therapy no one knew I had 50 yet they were trying to figure it out I had to explain to him I am dealing with very minimal energy I'm trying to survive if you're not going to get an appointment please don't text 8 times.b
anywho there was this one thing called the provider buzz and it was a multiple choice option one of the options was NCNS like to report him to other women that he was ncns. they were all these really stupid multiple choice options for very mean you'll trivial things when we all get a chance to basically be catty and one other about these annoying clients to avoid. well I stupidly gave in and thought it would be cool to be on the stump County website next thing you know people are indirectly making fun of me and it turns out it was not a woman to woman and it is not at all lawyers t the women all will come after you if you had made fun of one of their clients or had a problem with one of their clients ever since that experience with these types of blacklisting or sharing information on the clients through the email and the web sites I swore it all off because I had a bad experience that time when I use the multiple choice option to explain something that has gone on for a long time where I was being harassed by someone
I feel like I just read a Cormac McCarthy novel
A fake name was used I did not post his real name is really funny but we were using a name that sounded a little bit like Hickory!
it was actually the name Rick Corey'
I put 2&2 together and I realized it sounds like you caree which stuff means would
however if you try to use your ter alias Joey boots as the sole name to book appointments I can screen you that way no other escorts are going to respond when I ask if they have met with Joey boots that review them in December 2002
blacklist go on my end I do not believe in that I speak my mind get things off my chest and then I forget about it in a month or two and it blows over course we're not going to get along with everyone
I make sure to give them a good piece of my mind and I may complain about it on the boards and then everyone will tell me I'm an idiot and that I shouldn't speak my mind I'm not that kind of woman that will curl up in a ball and sit in a corner and cry to myself when something upsets me if you upset me and you make me upset everyones going to know about it that's just the kind of person I am I'm outspoken and I'm pretty ballsy and I don't put up with crap'
I also use the ignore button for quite a few people and I make it a point of not going back to re read people's responses I get what I want to stay off my chest and those that care will read it and understand and I do hear back from better and better clients the more I defend myself it is a known fact that some men are drawn to women that defend themselves and they find out to turn on an attractive
so whatever im doing it's obviously working for me so I will continue to do things my way and avoid listening to negative people that want to tell me how to act or how to run my business or that their way is the better way everything works for people certain way it will always be guys are going to like you and not other people I would stay away from anyone that threatens to blacklist you and I would get yourself a date check into p 411 or whatever you need to do and protect your identity if you do have a nice normal life you worked hard for in the real world if you're just some crazy person that this is your only job and everyone knows that you are kind of living off of the normal charts
shall we say living on the outskirts of society or kind of just not really doing things mainstream the way we are supposed to o
as for me I've had a bad experience with those websites where women all discuss the clients I've chosen to stay away from them I use my own judgement and if I have to chase someone out of the apartment with a switchblade I will do so.
I prefer to take things into my own hands if someone makes me angry I will just give them a piece of my eye and tell them off and I might go on and on about it on the boards but after that its done and I forget about it once you talk about something and get it off your mind you can go on with your life
I would stick to the more old fashioned escorts that do things the way they were done before I know I use to get all my work of the Boston Phoenix and things are a lot better than a lot more fun a lot different I think the whole way everything is done strictly on the computer not talking to someone until they been screened everything being done electronically I kind of miss the old days when you would call a phone number in the Phoenix and go meet up with the guy and it was just that simple.
Why do you post poorly written comments? I mean... after the first few sentences (if those can be called sentences), I stop reading your comments.
Surely, one can just skip your comments, but since I am a "new kid on the block", I was not aware of your lack of writing style.
Are you able to write in short concise and meaningful sentences that most of us can understand and follow?
The Forest Is Waiting
I have a list in my phone.... Rather a symbol and DNS (do not see) I put next to a gentlemans number so I know not to bother answering if they happen to call, but I make sure to put a little note attached to their contact info that states why i wont see them again or at all in the future.... then i put them on a blocklist on my phone if the reason is that serious....
But Ive never made it a point to go online and find a blacklist to put them on.... Im sure there is a list somewhere out there.... (I didnt read all the previous responses ) but If a guy does do something extreme that I feel I should warn girls about Ill take the time to personally email them and let them know....