What's the appropriate thing to do when a provider offers unprotected FS?  And by that I mean what's the appropriate response here.  Do you just forget it and move on?  
What makes it worse is that it's a well know provider.   I can just about imagine the shit storm that would follow if i dropped that bomb in her city forum.

I swear to god I'm getting out of this insane 'hobby'...

hmmm... my worst fear is that, even if she had been careful, she's got something now, and she's gonna make every guy pay.  Don't think you're the only guy she's offering up the love to w/o a glove....

..... frivolous reply?

Why is the provider doing this?  Is she well educated or not?  She must know that this is self destructive behavior.   She will get an STD - and she will spread it once she has it.

You need to talk to her, explain that you can no longer see her, and are concerned about her as a friend.

That is all you can do, but it may be enough.

I have been doing BBFS with my ATF for about 3 months and yes I know the risk but for me it’s worth the gamble. I don’t have an SO to give an STD to. When I started to see this lady everything was covered then it just happened one night. Yes, alcohol was involved It was about our 10th visit and I see her on a regular basis. My biggest concern was the pitter patter of little feet but she has taken care of that. Bizzare this lady has no death wish and is well educated. She says I‘m the only one but I doubt it (alias to protect the innocent )

Perhaps your acceptance of the risk is because you think STDs like HIV infection only occurs to the other guys.  I have seen many people in my profession regret taking health risk only after the risk finally materialized.  I also happen to have had a chance to do BBFS with a lady I knew who insistent that she was “clean” and was angry when I decline.  I placated her by simple saying I was concern about her getting pregnant which was also true.

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Lots of people do what you're doing, in and out of the hobby.  Is it risky?  You bet, but life is risky.  Would I go there?  Probably not, but my situation is different than yours.  I wouldn't visit a TS, but that doesn't make it wrong.

Now, on the flipside, I think it's foolish of folks to think that since we're "not supposed to", that it doesn't happen.  I'd hope that you both get tested regularly, and don't co-mingle those fluids with a big bunch of strangers, because that would be like dating.  You are sort of playing Russian roulette; the only question is the number of chambers, and the number of bullets...are you feeling lucky?

recognizes human behavior.  True, we all take risks, some in this hobby, and some in other aspects of our lives.  Who is to say that this is riskier than other things one might be inclined to do?   thanks.

She is very low volume and I tend to stick with one lady So my exposure is not great I wouldn't reccomend   others to do iy unless they realized the chambers are loaded with real rounds If we weren't risk takers we would have never jumped into the hobby

The STD doctor says that providers who provide unprotected FS have HIV. Stay away.

What does a girl do when a gentleman tries to have unprotected sex? It's like high school sometimes guys pushing to see how far the girl with let then go.

I would run out of fingers, toes and someone elses fingers and toes if I tried to count how many times I have heard a client say "Condoms just ruin it. If we go without I promise not to come inside you. I am safe". Sounds almost like something I used to hear back in college when I was 18 with some 18 year old guy I met at a frat party. A guy who obviously didn't think I was smart enough to know how stupid he sounded. Lucky for me I didn't have sex back then. And those are the guys who actually ask and say something. A lot just try it and see if you stop them in time.

I hate to say it gentleman, it's basically about supply and demand most of the time. Girls know tons of gentleman want it (and will pay more) so secretly or not so secretly they offer it. A lot of girls are in this business just for the money and figure what the hell. Some girls try to be safe by asking for recent STD test results before BB sessions.

What gets me is how appaulled everyone acts when this topic comes up. Unprotected sex is not new.

Question: Outside of the hobby how many women/men have you had unprotected sex with? (not including your wife/husband WHILE you were married.)

I bet most will say at least 3 and if each of those people can say 3, and all of those people say 3 ... see where I am going with this.

The appropriate thing to do when anyone (provider/hobbyist/cive) offers/asks for unprotected sex is to say no, give them a stern look and ask them, "Is doing this ever a smart decesion?"

"Is doing this every a smart decision" is not the first question that comes to the little head's mind.  I totally agree that there are risks and that there are important consequences.  I just know that is not the moment when my cognative abilities are at their best.
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