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and just when i was seeking the approval of people i hold in such high esteem too ... i guess now i'll bow my head down and go away, dragging my tail between my legs

# of posts on NB in last 90 days  ~=  9725

# of them which are singleton's  ~=  625

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singleton's "domination" of the board  =  6.4%

hmmm ... agreed ... 6.4% is way too much (really)

2000 messages in 13 months, it is time for me to see more ladies and submit reviews instead of simply posting messages.

Have fun.

looks like he's well on the way to catching up with your posting record.  He didn't attempt to score all the posts he's made under alias.

I've always found your posts are informative and are very valuable, spectator. You can always point to where you get your facts, which I appreciate, you're never arrogant, that I've seen.  Nor do you talk about your nebulous friends in all manner of high places.

Many of the members find him funny.  I've never seen him say he was wrong, only that he's always right, always got the correct math, the neatest puzzle, when someone writes a joke, he's got a better joke.  Never ha ha ha, that made me laugh, although I must admit, I rarely read him any longer. I could be wrong on that. Maybe I'm just not getting his sarcastic humour?  When I see a thread with 26 posts and 5 of them have singleton's name on them I just sit here and roll my eyes.  Obviously he has a flan club.  He has a need to be the center of attention. One upsmanship at it's most flagrant.

Arrested male development.  He won't pay for a provider's time at dinner?  Well isn't he special!!  Most of the clients that I see that are TRULY in the socioeconomic level that he portends to be in won't have a date without having a dinner first.  They want COMPANY while out on the road away from family.  Money isn't an object.

Count me among one of the ladies that would like to see more of the ladies posting on topic (like Sedona and NOSC and Mara and interesting woman) and less of the name a movie line anagram "wit".  An occassional witty line is GREAT.  Every time out is simply meant for stand up comedians.

Nevermind the need to have the last word.

If he could simply sit back and wait for five responses and then see if the answer was already there and if he truly had anything innovative to ad, well, maybe he'd find some time for something a bit more constructive in his life, like taking a walk and having a hot dog with LIVE PEOPLE.

now that was harsh..a hotdog???..even if you dont think highly of someone, to suggest they eat something so devoid of any nutritional value is really hitting below the belt....which doesnt bode well for providers to aim below the belt [EOM]

valuable members of TER.  No one can deny his intelligence.  Sometimes, his words provoke further discussions which only help to advance the discourse.

Not that I agree with him on many circumstances.  However, I can tell he has given serious thoughts about his positions even though he often delivered them in a jokingly way.

If he TRULY pondered each post before hitting that send button I'd agree.  HOWEVER, I know that he's got a bit of an EVIL streak in him.  
Yeah, he has a superb memory, seems to do a load of math and is a computer marvel. I've Never denied his intelligence.  Yet Ted Kaczynski is intelligent and provokes discussions.  See what turning into a hermit got him?
I'm not asking to agree with everyone on the board.  I love all different types of posts.
Sedona also is intelligent and thought provoking and funny.  Yet you don't find her responding to every responce in a thread likely because she HAS A LIFE.  All I'm suggesting is that Singleton also get one and push away from the keyboard.   I see paraplegics out exercising and interacting with live people, so I'm sure Singleton could pull it off.
Since he knows that I don't think he walks on water, he's chosen to try to take that against me here on the board. He stopped using wit and resorted to tactlessness in some sort of veiled threat.
I bet being mean to a woman poster is the farthest thing from your mind, yes, Spectator?
He should be moderated for that stumble, in my opinion.
I doubt he'd attempt to try to ONE UP a man that's ensconced on the board such as yourself, Spectator.  Nor would he joust with Sedona, NOSC, skyblueeyes or the more loved and intelligent women posters.
Only seems to have a hard on for a lesser knowns and woman that may challenge him on a single topic where he has some support from other posters.
A true piss ant if you ask me.  You, Spectator, were so right on in your first response, when you find yourself posting at this rate, it's probably time to go out and get yourself some booty and quit all of the discussion board posting!  Human contact is a GOOD THING.

like a (wo)man spurned ... i wish i could do something to soothe your vengeful heart ... watching you "unravel" like this is very hurtful to me, especially because i hold you in such high regard (yes, i do know who you are behind that alias, it doesn't take a genius, just a computer and some math)

that i chose to lavish attention on "lesser known women" on this board is hardly reason enough for you to act like this ... i wonder if you would care for to say these things if it wasn't for that alias you're hiding behind (if there are legions of others here who feel just like you do i'm sure they'll join your "Jihad" if you just came out and posted under your board handle)

but hey! ... what i don't know about women can fill two sets of the Encylopedia Brittanica (on CD-RW of course)

I'm not sure I understand quite what is transpiring here, so let me just 'talk' a bit.
I had a pleasant evening with a pleasant man, come home, take doggie potty, turn on the computer and (of course!) go right to TER. DING! You've got mail! I read the mail, very perplexed and miffed, and decide to go to the boards..
Ahh..this explains the PM..

So, was there something in the first post: 'delete', that I missed and that's the piece that would explain all this?
I have a bit of a vested interest since I see my name..

This Board is a fun place to be. It's informative, it provides a comaraderie, some laughs, some release, even an opportunity to be goofy and creative. At times it's a place of belonging to a community, as we see in Brooke Butler's post appealing for her friend, sharing great sentiments (Loverofwomen, Fortitude), sharing of deep troubling problems such as addiction. Sometimes it's a place to vent, discuss the more controversial topics (the war, upcoming elections) and the age old gender-benders that rival both sides..
But through all the topics, and all the personalities, we pretty much 'do alright'. I (sappily, I'm sure) feel when I close out of TER and do my final shut-down for the day, I say 'G'nite, John Boy' and all the Waltons out there in TER land and look forward to tomorrow when we post again..

Silly Me, I'm flattered to have been included in your list of Posters you enjoy, and I thank you. You listed me in fine company. But, I'm feeling badly that it's mentioned in a thread that is at Singleton's expense and it makes me want to apologize to him for it??

I'd like to think that we, in this Community of ours, have almost an 'edge' if you will on Communication. Just being who we are is such a closely intimate exchange, I'd like to think we are that much more 'open' when it comes to Communication. If I can't get something resolved in a PM, or an email, then I'll suggest a phone call, or a meet in person, because 'it aint' over 'til the fat lady sings'. I have to be sure there's an understanding! Even if it means we shake hands and agree to disagree! People matter to me. Because if 9/11 taught me any one thing, it gave me new meaning to that. We didn't cry because the building went down - we cried for all the PEOPLE in it. In the end, it's people. That's all there is, and all it's ever about.

So, how about we all try to 'do better' in some way with Communication? Let's follow the same protocol that you do at work by first approaching the person with whom you have issue (privately). That person then has to work on being able to 'receive' that kind of communication. If that doesn't go over well, bring in a third party who might be able to 'mediate'. If it's TER Board 'violation' related, your third party would be GND or Staff, but I'm sure we can work through our differences without getting there.

Can we agree to agree on that?

And, I DO apologize to Singleton because I know how I would feel to be reading words about me, for all to see.


G'night John Boy..



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I've figured out what several person's alias' are too. I'm sure several members have. I'd NEVER out them in public.  No matter how I felt about them.  I might not respond to a person using alias, but NEVER EVER would I OUT THEM.  

Outing people's alias is plain out weak. You may think it's slick, but it is only something only a loser of a poster would do.  I only thought you were a pathetically too frequent poster until tonight.  

After tonight's little trick, I believe you are a control freak that delights in attempting to hurt women that just may make you feel belittled.

The only thing I've ever done to you, Singleton, is disagree with you here, in public.  For that you try to out me?  You've a sick mind,  Quit hiding behind the squirrel/nerd/little old me scenario.  You're a small-minded person.

You're a prickwad for attempting to out my alias.

Of course people want to figure out others alias.  Doesn't mean if you do figure it out you PUBLISH that fact.

You are the vengeful person, Singleton,  I've done NOTHING to harm you other than speak the truth and my opinion.  If you can't handle a woman speaking against you, you're on the wrong board.

You, however are attempting to harm me with your little math game and your trick.  It's fine to guess and then send little notes to your friends in the backround. But to post these things on the public board is NOT OK in my opinion.

If you think I'm furious, or scorned, You're dead wrong. You don't deserve fury because you're a pathetic person. If I was furious, You'd know.  

I'm merely more disgusted with you than prior.

You are the one that was so scorned that you had to strike out at me, it's right there in black and white.

I'd suggest you do the right (manly) thing and edit your posts.

Silly Me, if this issue was as important to you as it appears to be, why post under an alias? Also, why delete the original post? (if you did not do this I apologize, but it currently  doesn't say "deleted by moderator") I will say that at times I find singleton annoying, but I also find him insightful, entertaining, and funny. He posts a lot...so what?? I diagreed with his opinion on something and his response was respectful to the discussion, so clearly his method is not always to attack other posters. This whole "get a life" position strikes me as a bit unfair, this site is about having fun, if he does so by posting then what's the problem? We all post what we feel. We will read it or not, roll your eyes or don't, discuss or don't. We should all be having a good time.    LR

nothing special about me, i'm not trying to advertise myself, i have an opinion on something it doesn't matter where i'm from, how often i date, my hair color, price range, etc. often times i think if you don't have any idea who the person is posting it's kind of like a double blind survey when i ask or even answer a question.

the reason my post was deleted is because it belonged in the thread below where we were talking about erasing hard drives.  even though I'd deleted it within a minute and a half, singleton had already replied to my mistaken post.

and singleton did attack me in a round about way.  i stood up to him. his overwhelming presence on the board isn't about to scare me off of standing up to this ugliness he's committed.

Even his own mathematics prove he makes 6 out of 100 posts on the general board, not taking into account his own posting under alias.

if you had decided for one reason or another to post under alias, how would you like it if singleton decided to hunt your alias down with his math genius and then out you on the public discussion board?


Singleton knowing who I am is one thing. Outing me is completely another.


i find it the ULTIMATE in uncool.

i also post under my normally registered name when it's appropriate.  it really makes no difference at this time.

If you possessed an iota of class, you'd edit the posts in which you attempted to out this alias.

and after reading singleton's post again, I still don't know your "real" login. This must make me dense, but I've been around a while (I think) and I don't get it. I have never liked aliases, when they are used to make a joke, that's one thing. I understand that there are RARE occasions when a post needs an alias to avoid personal drama, but that dosen't strike me as the case here. Otherwise I have always peceived them as a bit cowardly. Sorry, and you're right, if your rate, or reviews, or anything other than your discourse were to come into play... that would be wrong. However, I don't see that happening to the women on this board who engage in posting on a regular basis. But I still respect your choice to post as you wish.  As I respect Singleton's, and the question as to "why pick this fight" that was implied in my last post, has yet to be addressed (thanks for the explantion on the delete). So he posts alot...so what. I still don't get why all of his nonsense matters to you.
Take care  all, LR

Silly me, could you pretty please email me? I would really appreciate it. [email protected]. Thanks.

for their TIME that is  ...  a gent always pays for dinner itself

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as for aliases, everybody relax ...  i haven't exposed anyone here and i'm not about to ... but to think that one is fooling everyone with "aliasing" is to think that everyone is a fool  

what the human eye doesn't see the machine does and in spades too.  you can try to change your typing style: low-caps, no-caps, no paragraphs, one-liner paragraphs and a myriad of other tricks that only we can see, but with the right "countermeasures" these can be easily filtered out

what you can't change is the underlying "character" [wink] of who you are ... ironically it's precisely when you are most incensed* that you regress back to your ingrained typing style and the longer the rant the more "character evidence" accumulates to reveal  your "real" identity  


(*) HINT: limit your angry alias posts to short bursts!  

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as for the rest of it ... like i said ... the many decades i've walked amongst the most vindictive of men on this planet has taught me, if anything, to dance clear around most women


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I try to avoid dancing...my feet are too big...but you know the saying

You're welcome to PM me, or email me at any time: [email protected]

I just saw that Interesting Woman mentioned that also. Good. Good idea.

The thread in which this thread was supposed to be in, which is why the initial post is deleted, the post is under.

Evidence Eliminator and Singleton responds "I am" then outs me in two responses.

Singleton has a hair up his butt because I called him out for being a cheapskate under my silly me alias for not taking providers to dinner on HIS DIME.  (among other things, like thinking he posts three five times as much as the average poster on this board and twice as much as Dear Sedona that always has something sweet and on topic to say.)

That he didn't have the decency to edit his posts after he had plenty of time shows what kind of cad he is and that he is completely disengenous regarding wanting to smooth me over regarding my disgust at his pathetic behaviour.

That he tries to diplace my disgust at him on that he simply is a dipwad that won't pay a provider for her time at dinner shows his true character.

I hope that explains it more clearly.

If you miss his outing of me, then cool.

If he thinks he's special for figuring out an alias HONK.  Many of us can figure out alias.  Just MOST OF US have the decency not to call other out on the board with their alias.

Singleton, You're a little piece of Monitor GLOB.

Now I have a BBQ to go to, real people to interact with as I suppose most of you probably have to do on a saturday.  I'll leave Singleton to play with the boards.

I made a mistake and posted a whole new post rather than posting under The thread in which this thread was supposed to be in, (and now is under evidence eliminator) which is why the initial post is deleted.

Singleton responds "I am" then outs me in two responses.

Singleton has a hair up his butt because I called him out for being a cheapskate under my silly me alias for not taking providers to dinner on HIS DIME.  (among other things, like thinking he posts three five times as much as the average poster on this board and twice as much as Dear Sedona that always has something sweet and on topic to say.)

That he didn't have the decency to edit his posts after he had plenty of time shows what kind of cad he is and that he is completely disengenous regarding wanting to smooth me over regarding my disgust at his pathetic behaviour.

That he tries to displace my disgust at him on that he simply is a dipwad that won't pay a provider for her time at dinner shows his true character.

I hope that explains it more clearly.

If you miss his outing of me, then cool.

If he thinks he's special for figuring out an alias HONK.  Many of us can figure out alias.  Just MOST OF US have the decency not to call other out on the board with their alias.

Singleton, You're a little piece of Monitor GLOB.

Now I have a BBQ to go to, real people to interact with as I suppose most of you probably have to do on a saturday.  I'll leave Singleton to play with the boards.

passive aggressive cheap braggart that can't get along with people to their faces so he hides behind a monitor puking little math problems, clever witicisms borrowed from here and there, comparing brain power with the next guy down the thread like a gorilla pounding his chest and when he gets what he thinks is a little nugget of information that is going to scare me into shutting up about what he is really like... OOOOPS didn't work.
Anyone can sit at their computer all day waiting for the next post, figuring out which alias belongs to which true login googling the answers to the post if they don't know it and making the all time record for most posts in 90 days.  It takes someone with heart and character to go into the world and be HUMAN.
You're not dense, lostronin, the outing of my real login is in a different thread.  I'm fed up with singleton and his holier than thou littering of this board in the wake of what he tried to do to silence me.

Actually, I don't think that's necessary.  I understand that you're upset, but I don't think many people caught on to the hints Singleton gave to your identity.  It even took ME a while to find the hints, and I already could see your username, which made it much easier for me to spot them.  You have drawn all the attention to it, pinpointing it now, which makes me wonder if you're really all that upset at being outed, or just want to attack Singleton for something, because you don't like him.

I, for one, appreciate the diversity of opinions and personalities here.  I like your input and his and that from so many of the posters here--and not just from a select few, but from many.  No one "owns" these forums... except me.    (Just kidding.)

Perhaps we could all use a little sunshine this beautiful weekend.  Have a great day, and let's have fun!

Moderation allows singleton to speak, just would stop him from outing other people's alias if you read him first.
My question is WHY is he so perturbed at me FIRST, to have needed to show his control, or "superiority" of me in this manner?
Do you really want to let him go unreigned?
Thanks for your consideration.
Now we're off for a drive to that BBQ, for real. ( i have it mapped!)

I meant to reply to Silly Me.

I do not find him dangerous.  I think a lot of us would benefit from thinking before posting.

It deserves punishment by way of moderation in my opinion.

I'll concede to your judgement as you do deal with these issues more often and forever! lol  I consider this issue dropped.

Thanks for your consideration, girl next door!

Well you can try my approach Singleton, fine Tequila and some tortillas.  But I too want to make sure I don't pay too many pesos.  I'm with you amigo!!!!

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