I know some of you don't practice DATY with providers or maybe it's not your thang in general. But for those of you who might be interested in my experience, either to know how to do it better, or just Independence Day reading material, here goes:
There's a couple of clients - not anyone a woman would turn her head to look at twice - who take me to heaven with oral and leave me there! It is so amazing~!

So, what is it they do? I think they're both real sensitive to the energy of the clit when they're giving it suckie. And I can't tell you whether they're sucking on it, lickin' it, or what they're doin' - but it's neither too hard, nor too soft, nor too "violent." (too aggressive) After awhile they add a finger to the G-spot (found at the entry to the upper mouth of the cave, not way inside). But I think the main reason it works so well is THEY KEEP AFTER IT! They don't just do it for a few minutes, then kinda give up - not enough goin' on, kinda thing. They just keep grinding on me!

And after about 5, maybe even 10 minutes of them workin' on it, I just lose it! And the orgasm is SO intense that my leg muscles clamp around their head, like I've got 'em in a vise. My muscles just completely freeze up; I can't even relax. Now the main clue here is: THEY DON'T GIVE UP! Lotsa guys, after a woman orgasms, kinda back away, I guess figuring that a woman is like a man - she orgasms for a few seconds and it's over (this is one area where life is not fair!). But these guys keep on it! And I just lose it! I ejaculate all over the place - I mean everything gets wet! And they can keep me at a state of orgasm for 10, 15, 20 minutes: whatever! Till I can't take it anymore! I even try to push 'em away and they just won't push away! I'll squirm all over the place, push myself into the corner, off the bed... and they're right on top of me.. or my pearl, at least!

Anyway, this is just FYI. If ya wanna try it sometime, you may get the same results! Remember to bring an umbrella!

xo Faye Desiree

...couldn't help but be reminded of when I saw Sam Kinison at the Roxy years ago.  He did a monologue about how the secret to good DATY was to lick the alphabet--that night my girlfriend at the time said to me "that was a bad W--start over!"  We laughed for a long time.

So now the next time you're DATY you'll be haunted by a little tune that goes "now I know my ABC's, tell me what you think of me."

Thanks Sam.

Faye, I think what you described is delicious and wish everyone could reach the crescendo you described.  I'll certainly remember your preferences if we ever meet.  But (you knew that was coming) I've had other women like very different things, some even telling me they didn't enjoy some of the things you described (frequently to my frustratation).

So, what have we learned here today??  Sexual pleasure is extremely individual.  We don't live in a one size fits all world. Everyone is different and you have to be flexible enough to accomodate their personal likes and dislikes.  My definition of a good lover is one who is tuned-in to his partner and adjusts what he does accordingly.   Guys who perform the same routine, regardless of whom they are with, are kidding themselves if they think they are good lovers.  They are simply well rehearsed.

I am studying for a better understanding of human functioning G2 you are right on.  Although my research supports a percentages of women who simply panic over a new sensation. I was one of them.  Many men and women are unaware of the G-spot area of stimulation and how to enjoy it to the ultimate of pleasure.  I was blessed with one of the most articulate, compassionate, of lovers (who by the way captured my heart), who first won my heart with his intelligence and insight.  The proficency in the love room was just and added bonus but was the best I ever experienced.  When he passed on I thought I surely would too....The first time he initiated g-spot stimulation I tensed and was unreceptive.  He said , "Trust me and relax."  Realizing I would never want to disappoint him, I relaxed.  The tensing happens to men as well as women when a stimulation breaks the norm.  Old fashioned idealogy
appears to be at the core of this.  Probably why this hobby when done with professionalism and open and sounded minded indivuals has flourished.  My suggestion here for men and women is as follows:  If you are with someone who you share some history with (clients, providers, and significant others too!) take the time to get as much information about the stimulation techniques your attempting to deliver. Read, surf the net, ask doctors, and get all the information you can.  Than realize you need to get that person to relax and trust that they might enjoy what your trying to deliver. Both need to clear their minds of stereotypical idealogy, or the "stinkin thinkin" of what would people think!  Realize with anything that is worth doing and doing well the first attempt because of our unique differences may not be a riveting experience.  Don't give up until you've made several attempts with the different techniques you learned about to find the right one that rockets your partner.  Communicate what your feeling and be a director or ask for direction.  Having assumed this thinkology I have learned and experienced much with my lost love....to think I almost was unwillingly to participate.  
In closing, the best experiences in this arena and at home come when connection is formed and a true level of intimacy and unconditional regard has formed.  Not to say that you can't have a mind blowing orgasm without it.  I speak of a connection that rivets at a higher level than the groin area and stimulates the mind and soul first..and believe me when the body follows and it will it is the ultimate natural high.

For all that have participated in my past research projects I thank you for helping me discover the beauty of intimate giving. I have a new research project blooming soon--and will need some long-term participates on this one.  Just know I'll be back!  Start your learning now and check out the link.

Hugs,

Chez

Faye, I couldn't agree with you more.  The fact of the matter is that this kind of connection occurs when a guy wants to please a woman in the same manner he wishes pleasure for himself- and is willing to take the time and effort to do it right.  How I wish I lived in the Bay Area and could visit you to see if I lived up to your standards!  Any chance you'll travel to the East Coast?

experiences with your lover.  

While the subject may not be of interest to everybody on this board, I've been a long-time believer in couples learning to use the power of sexual bonding to develop deeper levels of intimacy in the relationship, and in the process strengthen the non-sexual bond between them.  I'm aware that most men prefer to avoid this from happening and are very adept at separating physical sex from emotional sex, but there's a time and a place for everything.  Learning to access deeper feelings together is the key to a whole new plane of enjoyment.

You are very fortunate to have experienced this even once with your former lover.  I have achieved this only once in my life (20 years ago) and it has left me wanting more from the relationships that have followed.  I'm sure you're aware of the difficulties in finding a like-minded partner.  I believe so strongly in this that I was co-authoring a book on the subject five years ago with a psychologist friend (a story for another time).  During my research, I found a book you might enjoy based on your comments- The Art of Sexual Ecstasy by Margo Anand.  It's excellent, but maybe a little more Tantra oriented than some might prefer.

This board may seem an odd place to be discussing the most intimate form of sexual bonding, but I think there are a lot more people who would be interested if they knew more about how to achieve it.  For example, I think some of the guys would be surprised to find out how sexually sophisticated some of the escorts on this board truly are.  There may be some that are just sexy women who like to have a good romp, but there are others who are true sexual connoiseurs.  They tailor their sessions to the level of the man whom they are seeing.  Show them that you are worthy, and you'll be amazed at what they show you in return.  And of course, as we've unfortunately read on other posts, the opposite is also true.  

Also, excellent and informative link, Chez.  Thanks.

I loved your post!  Full of wisdom, obviously from wisdom that's been lived and experienced!  Cheers!  XO Faye

This is another amazing response... actually all of them have been so far!  Insightful and really intimate!  Yes, I think providers, if they can get over their own barriers towards intimacy, towards being in the moment, from receiving pleasure - intense pleasure - from the men who pay them, why it leads to a whole cycle of healing that is beyond measure!  And it circles out and keeps on circling out...  XO Faye Desiree

Probably not right away Mr. F!  But I'd love to!

The amazing thing we practiced in our Tantra homeplay was to pleasure the person just for that person - no payback that night.  The focus was on one person... or at least one person at a time, got the attention of their partner(s). And there was no sex involved in the homeplay.  Nor tongue.  Just "holding the space," Sacred Spot massage... and totally being present for that person.  So many break-throughs occurred.  To separate pleasure from sex is sometimes a hard thing to do, but is a whole 'nother channel!  XO Faye Desiree

Nothing worse, though, than having a woman finally tell you how to make her wildly orgasmic, only to find that she lives half way up the state!