Whether you have sex , dinner or both. They call these dinner dates, but usually it means you take her out to dinner, not have her cook for you.  Now if you have any culinary skills and want to cook for her, that's another story. If my memory serves me correct, one of our prolific posters likes to cook for his friends.  To answer the last question, my atf and I cook lunch and dinner all the time when she does outcall to my home. But I've been seeing her for 3 yrs. on a regular basis.

I know sounds like a silly question but I am wanting a extended visit with a lady soon but I want  something special like either going out to dinner (which I've never done with a provider before) or......maybe if the lady could cook dinner for us.

How would I go about asking for that?

Is it weird to ask a provider for that?

Have any of you guys had this or has a provider ever   (voluntarily) done this for one of their guys?

On the other hand, I've cooked many a dinner for them at my home.

There is one exception that I now recall:

A Korean gal I know prepared dinner for me on a couple of occasions; once at her apartment and once in the backroom of her AMP.  I have to tell you that I don't recall ever being treated so regally.

sharing food together, especially when made in the kitchen, can be a real relationship enhancer; even more so that sex, oddly.

Just kidding. HA!



HalfHour

I've been fortunate to share 2 meals with 2 of our lovely local ladies.   One was a "pre" meal after I finished unloading a bartered load of fire wood.  Before I showered, she served a most delightful lunch, outside picnic.  The other was a response to a lady who offered to cook Thanksgiving dinner.  I counter offerred a holiday dinner out, more economical for me, less work and more holiday for her.   Both dates were very GFE, very intimate, and a whole lot of fun.   It happens, or happened.  Not sure if I helped but it's fun recollecting.   Maybe some of the local Julia Childs will contact you.

that you're asking permission to ask? why not just ask? and what's with the "voluntarily"? isn't she free to say no if she doesn't want to do it?

i once requested an extended date with a lady but left the agenda up to her. she planned an autumn drive in the country and provided (among other things) a very nice picnic lunch.

But it was off the clock. I have several provider friends, actually there more my wifes friends, and I have ate dinner some of their houses quite a few times. But I take it that is not what you mean but I have seen a few of them prepositionally. If your talking about on a paid date I have not, but I know of several ladies who would be happy to provide such a date if you add a bit to the donation to cover the food. Some of them would get a kick off of it as they love to entertain. As how do you go about asking that is simple you just ask. Most ladies would not be offended. As for is it weird, Yes it is weird but I will guarantee it is no were near are weird as some other request they have received. What about this hobby is not weird? If this is what you want ask for it

My goodness!!!!!! I read alot of questions here on TER about the do's and dont do's for providers and clients. Arent you supposed to be able to do whatever makes you happy in this hobby??? I didnt know anything was off limit???? I do cook for my clients, as well as go out dinner, bar, club....whtever he likes. Maybe even shit, shower and shave if needed before he goes back home.....hehehehehehehe....One more time people......Its your party.....Ask your provider to do whatever you want. Thats the whole point right????

a gentleman cook for me it was quite different and totally unexpected.Just ask the lady the worse she can say is No.If she expresses an interest in cooking then I would ask,but if this your first time meeting maybe you should just go to a restaurant..

I never ask for her to cook, however after some time, several visits, I may ask the going out to lunch or dinner question. I was amazed how many said they would love to, " Why don't we just stay here and I'll fix dinner" Who am I to refuse. Always remember, unless you ask, the answer is always no.

I can think of one in Boston and one in MN that come to mind right off the bat. They specifically offer dates where either they cook you dinner or join you in the preparation.

I'm sure other ladies offer it, but those two come to mind.

You do ask some different questions.

I've had a lot of meals shared with me date for the evening.  Mostly at restaurants but I've cooked some and I've had some cooked for me.

I would be a little careful with this one for two reasons.  It might sound weird but even some providers who have no issues with rather kinky erotic activities get touchy about being asked to do "domestic" things.  Some see it as stepping across the client/BF line and even what you think is innocuous they may see as invading their "real self" space.

On the flip side I have never had a woman object to my cooking for her, which opens the topic in a much less challenging way.  I'll make a nice dinner, the conversation turns to cooking in general, then I ask what she likes to cook and might hint that I'd like to try her cooking some day.  If she's interested in those kinds of activities she'll take opening and run with it.  If not I'd suggest leaving it lie.

Oh, the other concern:  Passionate Patricia might also be Ptomaine Patricia.  Bedroom skills and kitchen skills aren't the same.

There was one provider in Texas who used to cook Thanksgiving dinner for a bunch of her favorites every year.  Never went, but always thought it was a nice touch.

As I have also taken light food in to her.  

If you are talking about a serious planned meal...  I'd think that would be in the range of a longer meeting with a Favorite lady who likes to cook.  I've had that in the civie world but not P4P
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i absolutely love it...i love cooking, and i love making someone happy. but it is definitely more of an emotionally intimate activity, at least imo...so i can see why a provider who wishes to maintain more distance between herself and her clients would be appalled at the idea of preparing a meal. so it is not something i would suggest you attempt with someone with whom you don't already have a very pleasant established relationship. if you are thinking of someone new or with whom you just aren't very close, then suggest simply going out to dinner.

But it does seem sort of weird to pay someone $XXX per hour so I can feed her dinner (taking her out is a little different, but not really up my alley either). On the other hand, I do have some thoughts about playing with ripe fruit, peaches seem particularly interesting - anyone want to play with me?

Zig

I have gone out to dinner many times and have been cooked dinner by a couple.  But hey, I love to dine.  LOL  One even ordered me room service on her tab!  The last three refered to (cookers and room service) were special women though.  

The first is not very hard to find really, just check their sites.  The second would typically be one who knows you and likes you well enough to want to do something special.

Good luck.  Be careful with the emotions there Mr. AllFuckedUp.

I find that if I eat dinner (and if it is a great meal) and then have my dessert, my stomach is going to be rumbling and making a lot of noises as well as I am more lethargic.   Just my preference.

Dining by candlelight and conversation followed by a delectable dessert in bed!   Very very nice!!

Especially for special occasions like birthdays, but I'll cook by request whenever I get the chance (and the resources are available...)

It's is a logical tie in...to service as well as the sensual arts.

xoM