Usually in the car when she's driving.

Or sitting in the living room while she's playing on her iPad. Like right now.

being how lots of my companions are west coast and I am the east.. i check email when I wake.. with the SO in bed.. all the time

No I haven't, but my SO checked my hobby messages while I was sleeping. She waited until breakfast to drop the hammer. Lesson learned, the hard way.

Learned later that my SO was regularly texting her lover while we were driving to a ski weekend, sitting across from each other at dinner, watching TV together, etc. Sometimes the Universe delivers a bitch slap.