have you ever been in bed .. or otherwise very close to your SO and checked your hobby email on your phone ?   .. or something else similar when in the company of your SO ?

Usually in the car when she's driving.

being how lots of my companions are west coast and I am the east.. i check email when I wake.. with the SO in bed.. all the time

LOL!

No I haven't, but my SO checked my hobby messages while I was sleeping. She waited until breakfast to drop the hammer. Lesson learned, the hard way.

Learned later that my SO was regularly texting her lover while we were driving to a ski weekend, sitting across from each other at dinner, watching TV together, etc. Sometimes the Universe delivers a bitch slap.