Hi boys and girls

And I don't think it has anything to do with their age, just their lack of manners. I have gotten dressed and cleaned the room while they lie there like they have moved in. I hand them their clothes and then I have actually dressed them while we talk. I then walk them to the door and open it and take our conversation to the hallway. Once they are there I abruptly say "good-bye" and close the door on them.

There's a fine (or maybe not-so-fine) line between being a gracious hostess and laying down like a doormat.  

Better get going before my jealous boyfriend gets here.

Why not bring his own drink of choice next time?
If he has certain drink request.
Also mention you have another appointment if he is not getting the hint to leave.
 

Posted By: RoxanneHeartNYC

Hi boys and girls  
   
 I hate to discriminate, really I do. These young guys do it to me ALL the time, if they don't do it upon arrival they'll do it before they leave. (By "IT" I mean something utterly stupid. )  
   
 So tell me, how yesterday I had a client in his 20's, okay fine. He comes in whatever, formalities out of the way. Fast forward the session has ended. I ask him nicely to hurry he was already 10mins over. He says "okay", so I'm getting ready, cleaning this and that. 5 mins go by and he's still Nonchalantly laying on the bed, he turns on the tv and I'm like "sweetie you have to go" (Mind you, he's not PAYING for extra time not even a tip.) "Oh ok, I won't even take a shower"he says, then 3 mins later he decides he wants a shower. Fine he takes his sweet time in the shower. Comes out and he's just taking his time drying up. So when he finally gets dressed he's like "oh do you have  soda?" I just look at him and say yes, I give him a diet pepsi. "Oh I don't like diet Pepsi do you have anything else....?" I'm like "no sweetie I don't". "Can I have some your blue label?" I say No, the bottle wasn't open and on top of that HE HAD TO GO. He tells me next time I should have a bigger selection of beverages. I just look at him and open the door.  
   
 Da f*ck my man, am I a Convenience store, yeah go back to the bathroom behind the curtain there's a secret door that leads to my Convenience store and Narnia at that. F*ck you mean i need a bigger selection. I can't do it with these young guys, man!  
   
 My question to you all is....How do I tell a client he has to go without sounding money hungry and without ruining the fantasy?In this case I was already dressed and he was still taking his time.

I don't like telling them I have another appointment feels weird to me but thats what I'm going to start to do.  

OOOOOOH I like that idea Heather. Never thought of it that way. I always try to be polite, you know...but sometimes they just take advantage and it p*sses me off because I don't want to be rude and at the sametime they don't seem to care. So Frustrating.

Debbie,  

HAHAHAHA Mr.Fisher that would make him run. My Fiance the cop I'll say lol

You really can't. If he doesn't want to leave, he just won't...and he will purposely be as difficult as he can about being pushed out.  

one girl told me, 'Fart, and they will leave.'

Wow. I had no idea there were clients that take advantage like that. It makes me wonder just what all you providers deal with.

roflmao......

...ruining the fantasy. Tell him to get his ass moving and get out the door. Then you put him on your never see again list.

After the time is up his fantasy is not your concern, your time is. If he is dragging his feet and deliberately disrespecting your time and thus you after gently reminding him his time is up, it is OK to be blunt. If he is still so disrespectfull as to not vacate with haste never see the ass again. You do not need disrespectfull clients. No lady does.

VOO-Doo,  

The things I have dealt with in 7 months you wouldn't believe. People haggling, shorting me,utter disrespect once I was  slapped so hard I had to cover my face with make-up, another time choked even when I said to stop..... lucky for me I don't weigh 100lbs so I'm able to stop that real quick. so yeah we deal with a lot. Not all money is good, I'll tell you that much.

I'll be known as farty macfart on the boards, I'll pass lol

Yeah he's done!

I have and they say no

I was going to ask if you have explicit instructions that eluded to time and going over etc, but I saw on your website that you do.  I think it comes down to comfort level, respect, etc.  You come across on these TER board posts as someone who is very warm, and caring and not ass-holish (if thats a word).  And since I have spoken with you via pm that seems to be true, but nonetheless at some times with certain people you have to be assertive and aggressive, notice I said some people.  

I know, I just hate being mean and/or rude but on the other hand what else is left to do. If they are going to be offended because you are asking them to leave then it really doesn't matter how I say it. After the time is up I'm just going to be blunt.

I am saying this as a friend. Time wasters are one thing but you're talking about physical abuse here. You was able to fend off that guy but there are guys you will not be able to fend off. I know someone who was beat hard and raped. She failed to screen had she screened she would have found the guy had a well documented history of disrespectfull behavior. If your running into lots of bad behavior up to violence you need to up your screening. Not all money is good money. Your too important to risk yourself like that. Everyone is. Please take care.

Please tell me that you have reconsidered. If you can't deal with the simple issue of getting a guy to leave after his time is up, do you REALLY think you are qualified to mentor other women?

Ummmm......  I'm thinking from my views as a client, I will say that I'm always conscious of time.  But that question has a multitude of answers.  1) You should be aware of the allotted time at all times.  If your aim is to give your clients or that particular client the best session possible, then you may go over, but that all depends on your scheduling, preparation for the next client, etc.  2) How many times has he popped during the allotted time already.  If he's "went" twice already and thats your standard norm, then you as the orchestrator of the symphony has to make a decision before engaging in the 3rd play, see number 1.  3)  Go to your "go to" move.  I don't doubt that all providers have something that is unique about them or that they do best, whether it's talking dirty, looking into his eyes with that gaze, BBBJ or BBBj with hand action, etc.  I call it the "finish him" (think Mortal Kombat) LMAO.  With that being said, I'd really hate to be going to pound town and trying to catch a rhythm and be told "Your times up."  That would suck.

Can you stop with the mentoring shit gets old dude!!

LOL That's true but if your time is up it's up.lol

He ought to be finished pretty close to time.  I've had Fav ladies who were not pressed for time & frankly, I think they liked to have some company...  but, even so, when the time was up, we were getting dressed.  Another Fav, would often leave with me...  take the cash to the bank...  I don't think it was an excuse but who knows.  
Clearly, I don't know your schedule, if you might have an hour to shower & relax, possibly get ready for another guest...  or go to the store, the bank or what ever.  If you tell him, it's time to go...  it's time to go.  
As a guy...  I don't want to be rushed, but any of us here respect that we don't know & if we are over time, no foul in pushing the guy out.  Dress him if you must.  Hate to rush you but you are over time, no time for a shower.    
You are not doing him any favors by letting him abuse your schedule.

Goodness you are over here thinking i'm giving these girls play by play on how to be hookers.  I have nothing against you and don't mean to be disrespectful as I always respect my elders, however,  A GENTLEMAN MUST KNOW WHEN TO STOP and also know when someone is being serious. I don't need every thread you write referencing to "Mentoring" what are we 5 yrs old. I can take a little ball breaking here and there but you take it to a whole other level. It was adorable and cute at first now it's just plain annoying. You have to learn when it's okay to say things and when it's not.

Thank you sweetie, that's true. Thanks you all your responses and advice. I know how to handle the situation

You guys are awesome thank you now I have a better understanding and yep I will defiantly be blunt.

It's crazy, I also think it's the mood. Ive had guys that have treated me amazing and other providers in such a manner you wouldn't think it's the same person. So even with proper screening all it takes is that one bad day that might make someone snap.

Which means referred to.

So here are some free tips:
1) GaG teased you a bit, but only a bit.  It was hardly "to a whole other level."
2) You are coming across as over-sensitive here.  This is a mistake on this board, or anywhere else because it only gets a rise out of hard core ball-busters and makes them want to keep it up.
You don't really need to protect yourself from GaG.  He's a pussy cat.  Or was that a pussy hound?

You OTOH did suggest that you were qualified to be a mentor after all of about an hour and a half in the business, and about fifteen minutes here on the boards, every second of which was spent broadcasting instead of receiving.  

So why worry about it smart guy?
You seem pissed at every question or comment Roxanne post on here. Lol
We all are having fun PS so relax!
 

Firstly, you should be keeping an eye on the clock (tip: some women use playlists structured for 60/120/etc. mins, with songs cued to remind her of the time). If he's trying to start it back up with 10 minutes to go, then you either offer to extend (with payment) or wrap it up (shower time!). If you're in the middle of sex, just tell him that you have another appointment or somewhere else to be and give him a few minutes to finish. If that doesn't work, don't feel bad about pushing him off - he's the inconsiderate one hogging your time!

Thank you that is so true. I didn't think of the song thing.  That is ingenious.  You guys are awesome.

......the gentleman was having a difficult time getting Mr. Happy to cooperate.  He'd never had a duo session and was experiencing some performance anxiety, to say the least.  The fact that my "partner" was not exactly a GFE did NOT help matters at all....  

your partner was mean.  

If you are constantly running into issues it isn't one client in a funk or whatever. There is another issue that needs addressing. That is all I am saying. Patterns mean something.

He is much more of a suck up than a shill, wouldn't you agree?

"Hey my boyfriend LeRoy just texted me. He and his homies are on their way to come here to party and watch sum movies. He needs you to be out pronto!"

It weird how some of you male hobbyists act like jealous bitches.  
When it comes to Roxanne and her comments.

someone else's suck-up/shill.

...it can come across as being mean-spirited by cutting someone off at an exact time that can lead to hurt feelings and loss business.  

Respect, what a concept!

You know whose boss

We all want our clients to feel comfortable and enjoy their time with us.  This guy has taken total advantage of you.  He flat out disrespected you and your time.  Getting a bit firm or bitchy over this is perfectly acceptable. He was stealing from you!!!  His fantasy ended when his time ended.  Unless you advertise that you have a large variety of drinks he doesn't need to make comments like that.  You treated him a lot nicer than a lot of ladies would have.  Basically, he was stealing from you by using time he didn't pay for.  He gave no consideration to the fact that you are a human with a personal life and responsibilities.  These kind of guys go straight to my "NO" list.

Posted By: RoxanneHeartNYC

Hi boys and girls  
   
 I hate to discriminate, really I do. These young guys do it to me ALL the time, if they don't do it upon arrival they'll do it before they leave. (By "IT" I mean something utterly stupid. )  
   
 So tell me, how yesterday I had a client in his 20's, okay fine. He comes in whatever, formalities out of the way. Fast forward the session has ended. I ask him nicely to hurry he was already 10mins over. He says "okay", so I'm getting ready, cleaning this and that. 5 mins go by and he's still Nonchalantly laying on the bed, he turns on the tv and I'm like "sweetie you have to go" (Mind you, he's not PAYING for extra time not even a tip.) "Oh ok, I won't even take a shower"he says, then 3 mins later he decides he wants a shower. Fine he takes his sweet time in the shower. Comes out and he's just taking his time drying up. So when he finally gets dressed he's like "oh do you have  soda?" I just look at him and say yes, I give him a diet pepsi. "Oh I don't like diet Pepsi do you have anything else....?" I'm like "no sweetie I don't". "Can I have some your blue label?" I say No, the bottle wasn't open and on top of that HE HAD TO GO. He tells me next time I should have a bigger selection of beverages. I just look at him and open the door.  
   
 Da f*ck my man, am I a Convenience store, yeah go back to the bathroom behind the curtain there's a secret door that leads to my Convenience store and Narnia at that. F*ck you mean i need a bigger selection. I can't do it with these young guys, man!  
   
 My question to you all is....How do I tell a client he has to go without sounding money hungry and without ruining the fantasy?In this case I was already dressed and he was still taking his time.

Debbie, in attitude, you’re my kind of woman. (BTW: Nice pics and good reviews of you, too). I’ll keep an eye out for you if and when traveling to my area.

Tricks that start with 5 or tn minutes to go before times up KNOW what they are doing to lengthen the session.  

and knew you were going to go overtime without offering more money or even asking if she had the time to spare. I do not want a trick like that so at that point I am pissed and want the dick to leave. Decent clients do not  pull this shit. Assholes do.

who was being taken advantage of, might see it as a screening tool. I will allow 5 over and that's it. Then you take another 5 or ten for the shower...so that's 15 over and after that you had better reach for your wallet. I swear most guys guys know what they are doing and take advantage. And I do not want a guy who does this as a client so no lost business as far as I am concerned.  

I know you are a bit slow, so let me also point out that YOU are said lapdog.

Have a pic of a huge bodybuilder type guy that the john can see, then set your alarm on your phone to go off at the right time and "answer it" and speak as if the BF is on his way over. Let the trick know he is on his way, then show him the pic. You don't need time vampires and that should get rid of him PDQ.

This is so crazy and funny at the same time.
Also I should be asking you about that remedial course for Dummies.
Just look at the way you wrote some of your comment.  
GaGambler " so let me also point out that YOU are said lapdog" Lol
Thanks for the laughs clown!
 

That's when I pick up my phone and say...please leave or I am calling my security to escort you out and then start dialing.

You would still be considered a moron by any definition of the word, but at least you would have "some" excuse for writing posts that look like they should have been written in crayon.

I want to finish, if physically possible, & it IS possible.  BUT my feeling is that as we approach "time" the rules change.  I have discussed this with my Favs...   I certainly know if it's taking a long time.  I'm ok with a switch to a BJ with plenty of hand & even a HJ.  "What ever it takes!"   That is WHY they are my Favs...      

It's hurts you Roxanne took your title away.  
I can hear the bitterness in each comment you try to write. Lol

Exactly, not many people care about anything but themselves now in days.

You are so right. I'm not seeing him again! What a jerk!

He asked for a pepsi 15mins AFTER his time and I offer him diet and he said he didn't like that. in fact he said I should have a better selection of beverages. Yep he said that, apparently I'm the nearest thing to a 7-11 :P

LOL, I understood THAT... I only meant the spelling of "convenience store" vs. "convince store".  Frankly, I think you were a saint for not kicking his a$$ out the door!