Some providers suggest that guys should just sit back and enjoy the ride. So here's a question for the boys.  Are you the type 1) who sits back and enjoy the ride while you let the the girl to give you a "guided tour" of the ride?

Or 2) Ask the girl what you want from beginning to end to the point where you're not giving her a chance to guide you through her tour?

I've transitioned from #1 to somewhere closer to #2  but sometimes fall back to 1 if I just want to relax.  In the beginning of my hobby days, I started out as 'some young horny guy' who just wanted the tour. Having a laid back personality had A LOT to do with it too. Plus I'm paying the girl for HER to entertain ME. I sometimes don't feel like doing much and just want to de-stress after a long day. I also didn't want to tell them how to do their job.  

However, gradually, what has changed from my newbie days to the present is: I became more proactive and able to spot warning signs before they happen. Instead of dinging a girl in a review for talking too much, I just ask for a BJ. Instead of falling for a B&S, I just walk out. (Don't get me wrong tho I only walk out if it's really a dirty fraud B&S, not when the girl is still gorgeous and/or really herself but slightly deviated.

One of my WORST incidents turned out to be a happy one though: newbie provider, whom I've seen once before, literally cried and went ASC (ape shit crazy) on me. We spent first 20 min arguing because she simply wasn't in the mood and I'm sitting there confused. I told her I can not be paying to watch her weep and that she needs to get her act together if she wants to be the type of courtesan with manners and class that I prefer to see. If she wants to continue her drama, I suggested she do it OTC. I got dressed and made my way out the door.  Suddenly, she changed her tone, asked if I can give her time to cool down cuz she had a very bad day. The soft hearted guy in me obliged cuz 1) she's cute, 2) willing to work it out and  3) I know she performs well having seen her before.  

She offered to give me the full session but she wanted to drink together first and cool down before we got started. Well, you know how I feel about having a drink!! I'm down!!  Immediately from that point on, we talked like civilized people, laughed our asses off, and pretty much forgot about our incident earlier. It gradually turned into a hot steamy hot session as if I'm having make-up sex with a girlfriend. She even invited me afterwords to chill together til 1am. We became friends. Turns out she's not the big psycho I initially thought she was, although she does have some minor depression issues.

All in all, I became a bit more proactive and I tend to make suggestions trying to make the session the way I want it.  I always do it in a nice laid back way though. If the girl declines or simply prefers to give me a guided tour of her own, I just let her do her thing because I'm still a laid back guy just looking to have a good fucking time (literally)

so fuck you Conan the Grammarian.

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So for the first visit I want her to lead the way. If I get to know her better, then I will want to be a little more assertive but still I feel that it is her prerogative. If she can draw me out, she probably will get me back.

Most gals have some kind of routine, and they are at their best when they follow it, so I'm fine letting them be the director.

Other gals are somewhat submissive, and want me to direct the action, which I'm more than happy to do.

but I agree with one thing, Fuck You Conan!!! Don't be surprised to see Turdy knocking on your door.

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meeting someone new.  #2 is more useful to me when seeing a provider for repeat visits when I want to mix it up a bit.

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who fucking needs to remain fucking nameless, but you fucking fuckers know who I am fuckiing talking about. fuckers.

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I don't ever want a script, though... whether from her or from me. The best sessions for me seem to be when we have great chemistry and things flow naturally back and forth.

Depends on my mood and the escort.  The first few minutes of a session usually determines if I'm driving or a passenger

Actually, he didn't read it all.  The sheer length of it reminded him of TardlorStoole and he threw up in his mouth.

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I love getting in, going for a cruise and see where the road leads.  As long as you can spot the danger signs like DA says, the trip should be fun for both of us.

And I wasnt bragging at all just telling it like how it is.

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...when I try to drive the show on a first date.  After getting to know the gal a little I feel a little more confident about giving directions and or simply taking over the show. Like has been said in other posts here.  I am here for enjoyment, not work.  It all depends on the girl and how comfortable I am with her.  I don't like telling them their business, but I will speak up if I'm not having fun.  Usually, its pretty fun.  sex is like pizza right? even when bad its pretty good.

Hey, maybe he's not really Asian after all? I mean we are supposed to be really good at math, aren't we?

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Because my nature makes me preview the session and try to plan an agenda, which usually doesn't work out, but things end up at least as good.

Would love to run into a session like Robbin described, though!  I can take orders, too.

Usually I will let the girl lead first, and if we get to a point where it isn't going in the direction that I am hoping for, I will then take control and tell her what I like and ask if she'd be willing to try it.

And that goes both ways!

Ever notice how there's a time and place for everything? Even cinnamon rolls?

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