Let me start by saying that I have less than a years worth of experience (I don't consider myself a hobbyist, but don't know how else to describe what I'm doing).  I started because I was lonely, having taken an assignment to a remote city and missed my wife.  I am in the upper half century of my life and have been married for many years (24 less than my age) to a wonderful woman.  I love her dearly and have no intention of ever leaving her.  She is my better half, my companion, the mother of my children, a joy to be around and my best friend.  However, at her unspoken request our sex life ended about 10 years.  For nine of those years I was completely faithful, having learned to do without.

While on an extended business trip (6 months), staying in a hotel room by myself, eating alone, and just existing, I was lonelier than I have ever been in my life.  I don't drink so bars were out and I'm to old to try the dance scene, prefering to listen to oldies (60's, 70's music).  After 5 months of this, I called my first escort.  She was an independed, mature, classy lady whose beauty and enthusiam awed me.  We had dinner and a conversation that I will never forget and always cherish.  I thought I had died and gone to heaven and saw her as often a I could for the next month.  Just to be in her presence and to be able to talk with her was more than I could have ever hoped for, but to be able to have such a close relationship turned the clock back for me at least 30 years.  I can never thank her enough, she is my friend and we call each other often even though we are no longer able to see one another.

I enjoyed my time with my newfound friend so much that when I returned home I started seeing local mature ladies.  I have had the pleasure of meeting and enjoying the company of some of the most wonderful, sexy women in the world.  I have learned to ignore "Appearance-Age" on the reviews and go with gut instinct (I remember one lady who was listed as 32 and could not tell me the year she was born).  Additionally, I am not looking for a new wife, a girl friend, a significent other or a Girl Friend Experience (GFE), rather I am looking for someone to help me remember that part of my life that is missing, the part I used to share with my wife.  I guess I would call it an Intimate Wife Experience (IWE).  With most of the ladies I have been able to find it and I see them often.

So to all Ladies reading this, I sincerely Thank You.  You are wonderful people that I hold in the highest regard, having provided me with so much happiness and joy.  When it is time for me to depart this world, I will leave with fond memories of all the classy, sophisticated, intellegent, warm, loving friends who honored me with their company.

Thank You.

Thank you for this absolutely lovely posting!  You are the sort of gentleman most of us hope to discover each time we meet someone new.

Are you in Los Angeles by any chance?

Best to you,
Iris

You seem like a real gentleman...your posting was wonderful!

Hugs,

Vanessa Sue in L.A.

Thank You, for the nice post! You put a Big Smile on my face, with your kind words!

It is Very Rewarding to know that you bring happiness to others and that you are appreciated.

You seem like a real Sweetheart, if you are ever in Phoenix get in touch. I am a mature lady that would be more than happy to show you a wonderful time.

Hugs,
Kelly~

you sure know how to write. it was great to read the post i do wish you the best and if you come to fl. it would be more then a pleasure to enjoy the company of a gentleman like you. i am a mature lady also. but a hell of a trip behind closed doors.

A truly fine post!
I wonder how many of us get into this peculiar place that we call life and happenstance!
It's probably due to that thing called "the comfort factor." We love and then we become comfortable with each other - in effect taking each other for granted.
Anyway, thanks for sharing your insight with the rest of us. Not all of us just wish to f---.
You just described what GFE means for me.
Good luck!

Interesting post.  Very few people can pull off the "touchy-feely" stuff -- especially with a raunchy moniker like "luv2lickher."  Good job.  

Maybe it's just my loose New York upbringing but, frankly, I don't see why you even bother to stay in a marriage with no physical intimacy.  Yeah, yeah, I know, you 'love' your wife.  That's not really what I mean.  I mean you should *ask* for some ass when you feel the craving.  I did happen to notice that her request for celibacy was "unspoken."  For all you know, she's alone upstairs in the master bedroom waiting for the Sausage Man to make a special delivery (she's just too shy to ask for it).  It's just a possibility.  

On the other hand, you've known her for quite some time, and therefore are probably totally accurate -- she no longer wants to fu*k you.  In which case, you should probably try to talk things out and, if all else fails, leave the marriage.  After all, marriage is supposed to be all about trust, intimacy, compromise, and mutual sacrifice.  If one person isn't pulling his/her weight, the purpose is defeated.  But what do I know -- I'm a bachelor for life.  

Maybe I didn't read thoroughly enough, but I can't recall you mentioning where you are from.  My gut tells me that you're a country boy.  Don't be insulted; when you come from NYC, even Los Angeles seems to be full of backwards-ass, sh*t-kicking hicks!  Now I could be wrong, but it is possible that your old-fashioned upbringing is what makes you stay -- and stay silent -- whereas I would have left years ago.  Let me know what you think.      

-- Modified on 1/31/2004 12:18:27 AM

With all due respect, there’s a reason you’re a confirmed bachelor.  It’s obvious to all the ladies who have read this gentleman’s post.  Hell, it’s even obvious to me and I’m one of those Orange County (close enough to Los Angeles for you?) hicks that you so adroitly look down upon.  You are interested in yourself and what’s important to you and everyone else’s feelings and well being take a back seat to yours.  Of course, we all are interested in what’s best for ourselves, but not to the degree you are.  We participate in this hobby for a variety of reasons.  Some of us are confirmed bachelors and seek companionship this way, some are lonely, some have a sex drive that exceeds that of our wives or girl friends.  Some of us are just plain horny and some of us just like the excitement of meeting someone new.  The reasons are endless.

I fall in the same age category as the gentleman who wrote the initial post and I can assure you that after twenty plus years with someone you love and have shared life’s experiences with, you don’t toss that person aside as easily as you propose.  If you love that person you make adjustments, compromise and go on with life which is what the poster has done...to his credit.  He is unfaithful to his wife, but how many of us remain faithful to our wives?  Sex is just one aspect of marriage.  Important…yes, but there is much more to marriage.  He has simply made an adjustment in his life and found a way of satisfying his needs as a man while maintaining his responsibilities as a human being.  I can only echo the intent of his original post: Thank you ladies for being there and providing the service you provide.

This is the most refreshing post I've read in a while.  The sentiments conveyed could be mine, but I doubt I could have expressed them so well.  When I think about my involvement and experiences, it's encouraging that many men and women feel the same.

tennis

Reisposable people?

Well said.  I can't see divorce as an answer to sexual incompatibility, especially when it occurs later in the marriage.  I've found it much better to look for that kind of companionship in this arena.

tennis

Thanks for writing this especially the last paragraph. You really put into word exactly my situation. I have been hobbying for 8 months. But I should have started years ago. There seems there are a lot of nice guys out there if there were having a adequate sex life at home they wouldn't being seeing secorts. That si the way things are in life nothing is perfect. Some guys have affairs, but I went that route the girl wanted me to leave my wife eventually. I probably would have an affair again hey not easy meeting someone and I older now. I was suprised and lucky ot meet some provider that are really sweet. Even girls that are new to the busines and working at moderate price agencies do like to kiss and cuddle. Met a 24 year old that was just my type. I was so enthusiatic about pleasing her. After the sex she can back into bed laid her head on my shoulder and played with my chest. She said she could stay like that all day. This is one my first provider I never expected that.

Well, Aug5, I guess your post just about tells everything. I wasn't going to respond, but the more I thought about it the more I felt someone should try to help you.

You are obviously a young, single, immature egotist who has never had feeling for (or cared about) anyone or anything other than yourself.  From your reviews and posts, which I have read all, it is obvious that the only thing you care about is your own self-gratification and you have no reguard what-so-ever for anyone but yourself.  Such a pity!!!!

When you share your life with someone you take the good with the bad.  As I said in my post, my wife is my best friend, my companion and the love of my life.  When she went through the change (menopause happens to all women as they mature), I wasn't about to throw her out.  Our life up to that point had been full with family, friends, sex, travel, etc, a life that I will always cherish.  We had and still have an extremely joyous life and I couldn't possibly consider living without her.

Additionally, I share my life with these elegant and refined ladies.  When I make a date (notice the word date, not appointment, intended to show respect), I plan to provide my date with as much, if not more, enjoyment and pleasure than she offers me.  The ladies who have honored me with their companionship are just that, true ladies of the highest caliber.  I have found them to be classy, intellegent, witty, personable, attentive, sensual sirens who enjoy the companionship of a gentleman.  If you took the time to get to know these wonderful caring ladies, you would find them to be loving and caring companions (and sometimes friends), a joy to be with.

All your reviews and posts indicate a narcissistic personality, completely wrapped up in self-admiration, with unrealistic views of yourself and a total disregard for others.  Aug5, you should seek professional help.

BTW, I do have pick-ups trucks (my company owns several) without gun-racks.

But it's people like you (and I hope me) that may make this chosen professions easier for at least some of the providers - bless their little hearts!
They've given me a life when I thought it was empty! and no, I'm not quite ready to throw in the towel - but women are soooo beautiful and sexy that they tend to bring out the best in those who care about them. IMHO.
BTW - I find that pick-up trucks are quite useful (wish I could own one or two!!!)