Anyone ever fallen in love in a serious way with their hobbyist or provider?  

When I was very young I tried that 'date a married man' thing. Never again. Your heart is a constant black hole, wishing and hoping hopelessly, and it's physically painful the entire time.

Here's a starter kit.  Practice, practice, practice  

And I hope it never happens.(in or outside of the job.) Being in love with someone who is committed to someone else sucks. Naturally, your emotions want to grow deeper with the person... Aaaaand then they go back to their wife and kids. No thanks!

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Sincere tank you to those of you ladies and gentlemen who took my question seriously and replied with honest answers. I am passing those legit thought on to the provider I had the cocktails with last night who finds herself seriously so in love with her hobbyist that she is now CANCELING appointments with other fellas because she's so lovestruck,  it's affecting her bottom line, while she's in agony and the client she loves can't deal with it for 1,000 reasons (work, family, etc). Anyway I hear HER pain and I am trying to reach out to folks who can identify with any of her emotions!! To help her.

the connections will always be there..we just have to make sure they do not become permanent..

Thanks for taking this thread seriously sister. I am going to talk to the provider about this!! It's really a serious matter for her.Very. She's cancelled appointments, gotten sick I think from stress, and I told Courtney.Ova in PM that I think she's damn near suicidal cuz she says she can't live without him. She won't post cuz of anonymity.  

... but let's pretend I have.

You're a cool chic, and I mean that most endearingly.

I'm being totally serious here to anyone who gets too attached and it starts to ruin them as a person.

I even married one.

But after nearly forty years of doing this, you learn how to walk the line.  (Knock on wood.)

Love does not stink. Being in love with someone who cannot love you back does. I.e. A married man.

There are other factors that need to be considered as well.  Is this client seeing her off the clock? Is her client using her for booty calls only and no support of her or does he help her?  

It is too bad that your son's biological father took off, but it does NOT mean all men are like that.  There are plenty of men out there that take responsibility for their own actions.    

Now if you'll all excuse me I wanna practice for my appointment today  --Hear This!!  I've learned to work the deepest muscles in my throat getting ready for hobbyists!! Yes, I jamm bananas down my throat, holding my breath, then working techniques to breath through my nostrils, using suck muscles to salivate, with deep muscles in my throat, strengthening those muscles, & moaning all at the same time!! Hehe. Isn't that what we are all out here for really??  Read my last review in June 2014 (90 minutes of that action!!) I'm a Pro.

Here's the thing, if a married man is seeing another woman romantically it means that he is betraying someone that he professed love to. So if he's betrayed someone he's professed love to in order to see someone he know's very little (because the first time you see eachother there aren't any real feelings), if he's done that to see you, then why would you think he wouldn't do that to you?

Thank you my friend, it means a lot to have you say that.  And if it helps,all the better.

I understand you people who post here many times a day, week, month, year. I will refrain from joining your GD board. I used to post a lot. I won't do that for you anymore don't worry.   But I have been on TER since 2002 which is longer than 45 minutes and I thought I'd earned the right to participate on the GD board. Don't worry/ Your point is clear. For those of you who slammed me here this morning please do not ask me for PM dates. I find it unfair and wrong of you to think you can hang me out to dry on GD board and then PM for a date. Thanks.  

I have some experience with that.  If the woman deep down really doesn't want to commit herself, a married guy is safer, because he's probably going to go back to his spouse.

Isn't it something of a survival ploy, conscious or unconscious?

I PMd you but I don't think you can(?) see PM.  Thnx.  
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perhaps you may want to re read my post, and others and determine who you angry with.

I never said you insulted me, I actually hit reply to the last post on the board which was yours at the time, and I sent my response to everyone who happened to PM me for a date, including some people who posted, lurkers, and people who said they're too afraid to post for fear of being dragged through the mud as I was - etc.  

Thank you Silver Fox.  I truly appreciate your saying what you did

OTOH, if a man or woman with a few years behind them is unmarried when you meet them, doesn't your first impression tell you that obviously nobody wants them?

But now I'd call them smart.

We have our hands full picking our bourbon.

Arguably because unless the parties are comatose, all relationships have countless moments of drama and impossibility.  It's all about the tipping point; how much can the partners stand before screaming uncle.

It’s simple economy imo.  Women actually able to support themselves (and kids if needed) nowadays just fine, a few generations ago that was not an option

I think this makes all the sense in the world....  just another way the man (ok, pun intended) kept everyone down

Usually it's a guy falling in love with a lady, and 99.9% of the time, it is unrequited love, which causes a problem.  When the feeling is mutual, the majority of the time it will end in disaster, due to the lack of trust going into the relationship.  It does work sometimes, but it's rare.  But none of that matters, because people will continue going down that path again and again.  The heart wants what the heart wants, and once the emotion is there, it takes an extremely strong person not to pursue it.

I want to thank the good people for the responses to this question I posed saturday. My provider friend and I read all the responses in PM and in my email from you guys and gals, which I showed her. We talked a lot of things through and she's agreed to go into an in-patient depression clinic, she's arranging tomorrow, cuz she admitted she is depressed like addiction. Please let's have no more laughs at her heart's expense. Thanks for listening and sharing. This was a serious thread. Thanks to you all who reached her through me. (Haters, it's not me, cuz I'm working many days in July! Trust me on that, I've got BIG plans out here in July to rock the world! )

I hate to see a story end without knowing how it really ends.

Really like what you wrote, especially the part about love being like a shooting star.  The problem is that our language has just this one word "love" that's supposed to cover so many different experiences.  The shooting stars I enjoy with my favorite providers are wonderful.  But the incredible and still sexy relationship I have with my wife of 43 years is also wonderful.  Both are kinds of love, but so different.

Stay tuned!!! This is gonna be good………