I know there's a split between those here who genuinely believe that clients are paying for providers' "time and companionship only" (with sex being a lucky bonus) and those who think that's just a cute euphemism for "sex".  

but they are not intentional, and I certainly don't pay for them. lol

I had a playdate with a sensational gal that I already knew, but not from this hobby world. I was supposed to be back in town the day before our session but wound up flying in the morning of, and landed an hour or so before our date. Severe jet lag along with some nervous anxiety had our date being an hour long chat instead of a hot frenzied sex romp. She was so accommodating and understanding about everything. Of course she received her full donation. I plan on trying again with her one day.

I no longer play the OTC/social game with providers much simply because I realized it usually is like asking a waitress to sit at the table and visit with me while I eat - it is possible that she will find me fascinating, we will hit it off and have a grand old time, but most likely she will only sit there because she expects a big tip in return. OTOH, as someone who tends to see the same lady for years, I have had provider friends and there are times we do stuff together, but it is not something I pursue (any more).

but on a couple of past occasions I have had pretty limited action during a date due to the conversation which often consisted of listening to their problems.  I tried to be polite and transition to more play with various degrees of success.

Or perhaps the word is naive!

the other way just creeps me out. I am not a shrink, not a priest and sure as fk not a mentor. At least let me blow you lol.

Guilty confession

I sometimes don't bed my dates. I tend to book at least a week or so in advance and things have to be right for me to perform. So I will keep a date even if I know sex isn't happening as I am kinda broken because it is rude to cancel out on her after she set aside the time. Sometimes I feed her, sometimes we exchange massages, and sometimes we just talk but when I know it isn't happening I do other thing. Please note most of the time I do bed my paid date, but sometimes it is literally time and companionship only.

Usually it is the context of her Q&A session with me about her personal, civie business or p4p business life but not exclusively.

Well okay fine. if you simply have to suck my dick to make the evening complete, I suppose I can suffer through it. lol

You wouldn't happily take some guys money just to talk.

1. The first was on a business trip to DC and I used the Yellow Pages to find an escort.  She arrived, took the envelope then asked what I had in mind.  I made an indecent proposal and she said she can't trade sex for money, that would be illegal.  Sigh.

As long as you get me Vodka lol. Oh, and Beef Jerky. Must have Jerky.  

Vodka and beef jerky. Yes, with enough of both, I can make an evening out of that. lol

When I first walked in, I was invited to sit on the couch for a little pre session conversation. The lady kept talking and talking. I hardly said a thing. I kept thinking things were going to heat up any minute. Usually, when a lady wants to go off the clock, I have the time to do so. However, this time I was limited. When she finally said let's get started, it had been an hour, and I told her I had to go. She really thought she'd blown it, but on my way out I placed the full donation on the mantle. She started crying saying that none of her other gentlemen friends would have left a donation without sex. I gave her a hug and kiss, and said goodbye. I was hoping to get an email saying my next session would be at a discount due to my generosity, but it never came. Ironically, life intervened, and I never went back to see her.  

Not greedy at all. In fact the first lady was fully expecting an hours worth of sex after her hour talk. Two hours for the price of one with a beautiful lady is generous in my book. The second lady did indeed give me that free session. In fact, her hour rate, which always lasts in the neighborhood of 90 minutes, hasn't changed once over all these years. Not just for me, but for every gentleman. How many of the ladies who used to charge the old rates, are now charging 500-1000. If I were going to throw down a greedy label, I'd send it in their direction. And of course, the last lady offers lunch+ after every session. Nothing but generosity there.  

Believe it or not, I would kinda feel bad lol... kinda.

As for the rest, if you'd included all that info in your OP I would not have commented.

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Yes, we all sometimes just want to spend time together, providers and clients both have emotional needs in certain circumstances. And just like GaGambler said, I follow the same rule of not to pay for the "time and companionship". I have had dates with providers where we went out and spent time together without having an actual session.

When I first read your post I was wondering WTF you were talking about. I figured you were posting in the wrong thread again, because your post certainly made no sense as a reply to mojojo's post.

If they are crazy hot then i would prefer sex but most are not but still pretty enough to be comfortable around. I just cant help but talk to the girl during the appointment for a good solid 20-30 min or so. I know how stressful this job can be for them and being a guy thats too nice i want them to be comfortable with me. Why cant i just talk to civvie girls then? Because civvies girls need you to invest a lot of time into them before they let you cuddle with them naked and talk about life. I dont know if its only me but cuddling in bed with a naked girl and talking about whatever is on our minds is close to the best thing ever.The therapeutic value is unmatched. Their skin is soooo soft.