Ladies I have a question:

As it gets to time to retire, would you consider taking two or three private 'sponsors'  instead of a complete withdrawal from the business?    If you would, what would you look for in them and what would you be willing to give them?    What would be a fair amount of money?

I don't want to be in the business any longer, but I don't want to be a receptionist either.   Any suggestions?

Forgive that I am not one of the ladies. My advice is for you to think independence and not depending on a guy or two to support your lifestyle.

Have you considered real estate investing or some other independent profession? Any relations you forge based on using your body to keep the dough rolling will eventually fade. If you are lucky enough to marry rich, then maybe you have a shot. If you are like most of us, you'll have to tough it out. Begin to use what's between your ears and not in between the sheets to plot your course. The only way out of the hobby is out. NO regrets, no pain. Anything less than that is akin to having one foot in the grave and other on a banana peel. Choose FREEDOM matey, not slavery.

I would like to retire in about five years. I'm still going to try and look as good as I can by that time (and past). But that also means investing in my looks a little & still socking away the money. If one or two gentlemen want to continue to see me and I'm okay with it at that time, then so be it. What's one night out of the week or month, especially if he's nice and I enjoy his company. It's no different than dating. You cannot rely on looks as you get older, so I would start putting some serious money aside now. There also are other part-time jobs out there that wouldn't require you becoming a receptionist (if you dislike that occupation). Talk to a financial advisor about having some type of retirement plan for when you decide to give up the business. Make sure it, and he, is legit. Other than that, I cannot give you a definite answer because I'm not ready for that big step just yet. I want to make sure I'm set up in a house that's paid off and still make enough money a month if I need to purchase a new car occasionally or want to take a trip at least once a year.

Hugs & good luck,
Ciara

Pardon me for posting to this, Tall Girl, as I am not one of the ladies, but I wanted to say that the few posts you have made on here have been gentle and intelligent.  I am sure that your retirement will be your clients' loss.  

Ciara's post is a good one, and I encourage you to spend a little money and talk to a career counselor and really think about what you could do that you could enjoy doing as well.  I am 40, and I am still trying to decide what I want to do when I grown up.

Best of luck to you.

I have reviewed the quality of your posts which in a small measure speaks volumes for your character. Knowing that you now reflect on this part of your life and its eventual end (at least in terms of full-time), I hope you call on the tremendous insight that you have gathered in the pursuit of where you are today. If you get into anything less than something that satisfies and fulfills you in a way that you have done the same for others, then shame on you. While being in any job can create its own 'prisons,' you have made the first step and most glorious leap into your new world. Introspection can give enormous insight into yourself while peeking back at the mistakes you've made and the relationships, you passed on... None of us is completely free from the dilemma you face. Now, it's time you find the strength that dwells inside you so that you face tommorow with an empty cup and a heart filled with the warm sunshine of a westcoast afternoon. Go well... be well.

Lots of adults are going back to school to retool their skills, sharpen their mind, rekindle their interest, experience a new environment, and have new goals. Retiring from profession does not mean retiring from life. When one door closes, another window opens ... good thought to consider.

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Your posts reveal a thoughtful, but troubled soul.  
Please consider joining a 12 step program like sex addicts anon.
and get a REAL sponsor.

to.  And as you pointed out, it should be a oneway passage and not an attempt at straddling.

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Sweetie,

I agree with the above posts.  I love cutehunkie's "when one door closes, another window opens."

As a provider, you probably have a great deal of skill in customer service already.  Though you can't put that on your resume, I'm sure it will be recognized and come in handy in whatever new profession you pursue.  

Now, I have found that customers can be very caring to their provider as well.  Perhaps some of yours will help you get through any schooling or job searching you might need help with.  

Now I was drawn to your post because, at the moment I do rely on three private sponsors.  Because I spend a lot of time in school and cannot escort full-time, I rely on these customers who have a certain hour with me each week.  It has worked very well for me.  I am never strapped for cash and get to concentrate on school.  

My advice is just for you to make sure they are professional, reliable, and fully UNDERSTAND THE BOUNDARIES OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP.  Be wary of them falling in love with you.  I am considering dropping one of my clients because he stares at me and tells me he loves me too much, which worries me...

I think that's very good advice.  

Yeah, I agree about that client of yours.  If you don't love him, you need to draw the boundary and if possible cut off the relationship.   When I feel I'm going to fall for a provider (and she with me), it's good to cool down and get a better perspective of things.