I feel like I'm forever learning new things while "on the job".  Things about myself, the opposite sex, this industry, how I run my business... There's always something to discover and improve on.  Even in the short time that I've been publicly listed, I have a handful of genuinely cringe-worthy moments I can think of where I made mistakes that I can't imagine making now. Mixing up clients' names and information, booking hotels before confirming appointments, hell-- I once accidentally referred to myself by my real name with a client!

1) thinking about canceling or rescheduling with a provider the same way I thought about a haircut or dentist appointment. Fortunately I didn't do it too often, being highly motivated to keep said appointments, but I did not give any thought in those early days to incall cost, time and expense to get ready, etc.

Yeah, I actually asked a provider that one time when she said she was "GFE", but she was cool and knew I was a total newb, or nob ... whatever. Oh, and her definition was, I kiss and act just like your girlfriend ... and you can cum in my mouth, just tell me first ... or words to that effect. It was years ago, but yeah. I did.

Or a girl for that matter.

....and I used all of my hard earned mongering skills to work to my advantage.
But I gotta give major kudos to this site for helping me hone those skills and apply them better to this particular hobby.  
Much respect.

What's the difference between the TER sceen, and the other providers who place internet ads elsewhere...  minus the cutrate providers?

you are using TER to its full advantage. That's good work by you!

I would say the difference is one group uses TER and the other doesn't.

Well let me start off with a big EWWWWWWW!  

but yes, your taste in women seems to be right in line with mine.

I was wondering if ladies perform better, if they was found on TER?

First off, my tests came back last week and I was all good. Mostly.  

Maybe the most important thing I've learned from the hobby is the importance of caring for my body.

with feeling "obvious" in hotels sometimes-- the seamed stockings and stilettos definitely don't help lol.

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1. Leaving the TV on in my incall during dates-I didn't do this because I was watching TV during my date's and mine's time together, but because I was nervous about neighboring rooms overhearing us (not that I'm super loud).  

sorry big Paps but that was a f'ng good one!

but I would have been called fat in the process  

1. There is a lot to be learned from this community. I have learned from every provider I have met. I still continue to learn from my favorite provider every time I see her.
2. Manscaping is as  much to my advantage as any provider's.
3. Some providers are the most intelligent and interesting people I can possibly meet.
4. 94% of provider and client concerns seem to be related to risk management.  
5. I knew very little about sex before I met my fist GFE escort.

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Working in a very small collective with a girl who showed signs of bpd. I chose to look past it and to my own regret.  

Dee Dee De-Lish said you had a HUGE
wallet.

I started in this world before I knew of TER .  So most of what I learned was done the hard way (no pun intended).   So I dealt with the bait n switch and the upsell a few times.  

I always go bare and wear flats

Posted By: THEAvaStClaire

with feeling "obvious" in hotels sometimes-- the seamed stockings and stilettos definitely don't help lol.  
   
 Oh, and I'm sure I speak for all of us providers when I say THANK YOU for learning to consider our time and circumstances, too! A little thoughtfulness goes a long way

Some guys, not many, but some, will tell you more than you want to know. Which taught (teaches) me never to say anything you wouldn't want anyone to know.
.  
Never solicit - tell you'll be in town - but if you solicit, they feel you're desperate and start asking for discounts.

It took me too long to fully appreciate the business side of all this.

No matter how many years I have been...

in this business I am always learning new things that I had no clue about before.
I have met quite of few gents who taught me quite a bit of valuable information that can be used in business and everyday life.At first by looking at appearances it did not seem as if these guys would have any kind of info on business/investing.
They shared some great information and insight that I never would have even thought about.
I also like talking to gents that I see I learn different things just from having a simple conversation.
I know if I was not in this business many of these guys I see our paths would never have crossed if we were not a participant in this p4p world we play in.

I have only been in this hobby for about three years. I was lucky that the first lady I saw clued me into TER, P411 and Date Check. What I have learned is  that if I am considerate, respectful , and treat them like a human being rather than an orgasm provider, I am rewarded with a very pleasant relationship. So---if I'm classified as a White Knight by some... So what, I don't a shit what other clients think, although I respect many who speak the truth and don't clutter the discussion groups with egotistical and irrelevant bull shit

#1 bbfs is great until you wish you didn't
#2 3-4x a week for 5 years is a lot of cash
#3 always maintain your privacy  
#4 few providers are your friends and cherish
the rare few you see countless times and thru the years
#5 try to be first of the day I was naïve when a pro
told me she saw 10 people AFTER me until 2 am.
#6 P4p is less risky than SBs or arrangements.
#7 Never see a provider who's ads do NOT display her
face or frontal view. It WILL be a disappointment or
a non repeater.
#8 Never pay for an overnight. Encourage them but  
don't do it. They lead to harder drugs as does bbfs.

$$$ comes first; oxxo comes second, and Reviews come III’rd.

If it doesn't feel right, don't do it. Never compromise yourself.

...no matter how much you hope it does.  

It's so easy to just ignore, ignore, ignore!

So I'm embarrassed to admit this, but I only JUST checked the Newbies board to find out how the ignore feature actually works lol.  

Unimportant and insignificant but can't bare to be ignored.

Anonymity is paramount.  

The part about treating a hooker like a human being. Such a simple thing but so many guys just don't. Same goes with the hookers...treat the guy how you would want to be treated.

When I first started, I had EVERYTHING to learn.  The two most important lessons are to relax, not to worry so much and treat others well.  A little kindness and respect go a long way.

Lol.....yes, yes, & yes! I STILL will leave the TV on during incalls because I fear housekeeping will hear something! I didn't even find out that screening, references, verification, existed, until about 5 years back when I visited Des Moines for the 1st time- the gents and ladies down there alerted me, and showed me the ropes, lol. And while I DO have phone numbers in my ads, I never answer the phone (except to confirm an appt), and am text or e-mail only.....cuts down on time wasters greatly!

Posted By: blondeandbusty83

1. Leaving the TV on in my incall during dates-I didn't do this because I was watching TV during my date's and mine's time together, but because I was nervous about neighboring rooms overhearing us (not that I'm super loud).  
   
 2. Not screening as carefully as I should-this was when I was brand new and had no reviews. I thought I had to take whoever I could get in order to get reviews because I didn't have any. Luckily I didn't run into anyone who was awful, but I definitely had guys try to take advantage of me-trying to bargain over the price, trying to overstay time without paying extra, etc. Almost everyone I see now is a complete gentleman and I'm a lot pickier about who I see now.  
   
 3. Putting my phone number in my ads-I would never do that now. It's a lady's personal choice if she wants to or not, and it works out well for some women. But I don't even like talking on the phone in my everyday life and I got so many more time wasters over the phone than I do now.  
   

Posted By: THEAvaStClaire

I feel like I'm forever learning new things while "on the job".  Things about myself, the opposite sex, this industry, how I run my business... There's always something to discover and improve on.  Even in the short time that I've been publicly listed, I have a handful of genuinely cringe-worthy moments I can think of where I made mistakes that I can't imagine making now. Mixing up clients' names and information, booking hotels before confirming appointments, hell-- I once accidentally referred to myself by my real name with a client!  
     
  Providers:  What are some things you've learned since you first started out? Did you do anything as a newbie that you'd never do now?    
     
  Hobbyists:  Have you learned any valuable lessons since you started hobbying?  What kind of newbie mistakes are you willing to admit to?

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still need to do work to find someone worthwhile. providers are not all good at sex

Which has given me confidence I never had.  I wish I did this years ago (though I really couldn't have afforded to).  Hard to say definitively if I am an ex-hobbiest or not, but at minimum I am on a pause, and having fun developing civvie relationships.

Yes, she does have a nice brain.lol