Do people on this forum know each other IRL? Because the banter has me absolutely dying.

If you mean are some of us cyber friends, the answer is a resounding yes. If you are asking if some of us get together, that would be a much smaller number, but still a yes. Nicky and Mr Fisher have mentioned meeting people from the board in person so maybe they can expand on that if they so chose.

Too many stalkers.

Robert isn’t wrong, but I think the first half of his answer missed the IRL - in real life - tag that suggests this means seeing each other in the real world. It happens, but it’s rare. I know there are some clients/providers here who have met. I have met one person in the real world as well. That said, that person is not a regular on this board. They’re more of a lurker who has posted a few times. We have a common interest so we decided to meet. I have heard about meet ups that happened in the past, but don’t think any have occurred recently.

Do you mean there are clients and providers who post on this board that have met each other?  Who would have guessed?  Thanks for the insightful info.  

Much of the reason I come to these boards is to find someone that sounds like the type of person I wouldn't mind meeting up with, and when such a person becomes available, and all the right circumstances exists, I'll reach out and try and hook up.  I've experienced just this numerous time lo these many years of being on here.

And you question the value of what I post. Meanwhile, half of what you contribute is literally trolling. See you later, gurrrrl.

For you and a handful of others, not so much. I guess the illegality of it all makes people afraid or they just look at this little world as their secret and meeting up would make it too real? Not sure. I have met up with providers OTC a number of times but never any guys. That doesn't mean I never would. It just hasn't happened yet. To each his own.

I have met some cocksuckers.... One guy I was friends with used to go to eat at Hooters and watch baseball.. Wonder what happened to him. Things kinda fizzled out during COVID. Hopefully, COVID didn't kill him.. He was kinda feeble. I hope he is OK.  

I think most guys here guard their privacy and like keeping these activities a secret. I have a few friends IRL that see escorts but we never talk about it. Mostly because I don't want my social circle to know about what I do. If people found out, it could cause issues. Forging friendships with other clients increases that risk. Some clients want to protect their reputations and don't feel comfortable trusting random strangers from the internet with potentially damaging personal information.

Has robert resepectfully given cour lion a handie from behind an alias? Id guess the answer is yes!!

It's not like the old days where 80% of the guys were cool and had loads of experience that proved they were legit.  

Have never met anyone (guy wise) from here to have a drink or just to meet up. In my world I have no desire to meet anyone from here. I've received a lot in invites from the years from guys to have a drink with them next time I'm in Vegas or if I'm ever is so and so city. I just tell them, that this is this and that is that.
I'm a very private person, in a way. I have my inner circles of friends who know what I/we do, Sad is slowly they're kicking the bucket, one by one.
Shit, I won't even go to a Meet and Greet when they had them.

all hairy and smelly, really now.  (not you Inicky, at least you don't smell.  8o)

But he was drunk. Ask me how I know this. LOL.

Very interesting and tough nut to crack. This realm is called a demimonde for a reason - many of us hold our fantasy world dear and a key element of it is the unusual control over our little world that we think we have.  Outsiders might threaten that.

I had thought about it.  And I think I would enjoy hanging out and swapping stories with someone who gets the culture.  But, I have trust issues.

I never have attended a Meet & Greet.  Although 95 per cent of my dates and meetings with providers have gone well, I would be uncomfortable if a Provider I have had issues with attended a Meet & Greet.  There are a few gentlemen I have conversed with over the years, and I am sure it would be cool to meet them, I honestly am too busy and have enough friends and social contacts in my life. I am sure one of my closest friends spends time with Providers,  but he never brings it up and I don’t ask too many questions anymore!  I close. With the cliche you probably have heard before:  The Best kept Secrets among 3 are when 2 are dead!

....and we meet up occasionally. But meeting a fellow stripclub monger is very different than meeting a fellow escort monger. The logistics of a stripclub and the "merchandise" being right there with us lends to a different shared real time dynamic. It also involves meeting local mongers who share the same experiences with the same girls. There have been a few guys here (like CDL and GG) that I share(d) similar experiences, locale, and sometimes even the same women, but we never discussed ever meeting IRL. I think it would just be too weird and we like keeping the fantasy and illusion of each other just as it is - fantasy and illusion 😉

This. I have buddies that monger and we chat about it once in a while, but I have never understood the desire of complete strangers to meet up and bond over fucking hookers.  I guess they're just lonely.

Many people, me included, spend more time discussing things than actually seeing the providers.  

I absolutely love going to a strip club with a woman that loves women.  When the right dancer comes along, it's fucking magical, lol!

I'm much the same and it's part of the daily routine.  First check the local ads, then local board and followed by the regional and then new reviews.  

Keyboard warriors all bark no bite

before I will meet with one of the insane people on this board.  And a condom, even if we are just talking.  

years ago, where we would have breakfast together a few times a month and then go to the same AAMP incall and each see one of the girls there.  (Agency bookers love it because they get two booking fees from one phone call.)  However, there is often some confusion when the girl opens the door and there are two guys standing there instead of one.  A quick explanation, the other girl appears, and we are off to separate bedrooms.   If you book at least 90 minutes, some girls will let you trade after the first pop.  It's a great way to burn off a hearty breakfast.  

If you two were that much of a close friend then you should have said to him "This is our secret". And known how some would reply "I don't keep secrets"

There was some pretty comical comments that were going on!  Was it too much guys having some "locker room" time?

Knew a guy, likable fellow,  acquaintance for yrs and he had a somewhat of a high visibility position in the hospitality business   and he got busted in a sting and there was a newspaper article about his arrest. Lost his job, not sure what hes doing now . Never knew he was seeing hookers but I figured out his handle and hes still active on TER.  And no, I never contacted him to say we had similar interests.

It was a circle jerk by children who should be put in timeout

Problem is when keyboard warriors take beefs offline it can  get ugly. Then they're labeled stalkers and bad actors.

Saw a few people I knew (inadvertently) IRL at M+G's in NYC.  Figured it wasn't horrible as it was MAD if someone spoke.  But I didn't really hang with them at the M+G's except for one person I WORKED with.  That was sort of odd/uncomfortable but I got used to it.  We never talked about the hobby outside of a M+G.

Wasnt that way when we had them. Folks were respectful and otherwise well behaved. No one was dressed oddly or anything like that.  

I recall one guy with a huge boil in the middle of his forehead. Another guy who used to host occasionally always wore shorts because he was so proud of his muscular legs. He even wore shorts in the winter. He had no clue how ridiculous he looked.

I went to Octavia's -- she is long retired.  She may have vetted whom she let in.

And you can bet you ass she vetted people. She was a total pro. After she retired some friends of mine took on running the NYC M&Gs. It was a great scene. for several years. All gone now.
But if you go to the NY Board you'll see a post from vadhaman about another one coming up. He was a big figure in that scene so whoever he's backing I would trust.

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