Do any of your immediate or extended family or friends know what you do, either as a working girl, or as a hobbyist?  

Everybody I know is aware of my habits. I am not ashamed.

They have judged me.  Meaning they accept me at a minimum.  The rest of them envy me. It's really quite liberating.

I have a few friends who know I dabble in this world. They are just as free thinking as I am, so it's all good. I don't share hardly anything with ppl anyhow mostly. Some people like to mouth off about their lives and such. Lol. Not me.

But then again, I'm not married so I don't really care if people did find out. It's my life and I'll do as I please

but if they did I'm sure of two things: 1) they would, with one or two exceptions, condemn and ostracize me; and 2) the men, while condemning publicly and harrumphing in front of their wives, would be secretly wondering how hot they all were and wishing they had the balls. In fact, were I ever to be found out, it woud be my fervent wish that all those hypocrites would be able to read my reviews, particularly the ones covering the duos they've always fantasized about but were unable to make happen...they could merrily suck on that, so to speak.

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I'm pretty transparent. Lost what I considered to be a good friend when I first moved out here because she was not pleased one bit with my choice, but when I really thought about it she wasn't a friend at all.

Wrong in that you might not be condemned as much as you think.  Right in that you would be envied.

I am kind of dealing with similar situation,
& was wondering how others dealt with it & this really puts me at ease ..  

or maybe paradox is a more appropriate term. I've occasionally seen women become fierce friends, but more often than not female friendships are at best superficial and at worst downright toxic. Men, by and large, don't bother with other men unless the friendship is genuine, and if it's superficial we don't call them friends. These are, of course, stereotypical characterizations and bordering on hyperbole, but, in my experience at least, it is more true than not.

Ooooooouuuu! Got emmm! Lol

but rarely have so many people stated that they share what they do with anybody, much less everybody. I may have to take back what I said yesterday about how cowardly most hookers and johns are.

but I'll bet you're right. Probably a lot of "don't tell anyone I said this, but..." :-

Some of my best female friends are ones I've met in this game.  But I also have a few who are civvies and they know what I do.  They think I'm a pig (or a dog) but they love me.  I value my female friends as much as my male friends. It's just different.  But the same.

They like me for other reasons so they're cool with my whoremongering ways.  They treat me like their bad boy.  I don't rub their faces in it.  I just don't avoid the question.

you hedonistic free living fucker...here's an RT smiley just for you, ya bastid

....but hobbying is private and for me only.
I tell my female friends NOTHING. They would never understand and frankly I don't want to hear it from them. It's not a fear of judgement.....it's a fear of having them yammer & scream in my face about how I'm exploiting women, how I'm worse than a man, blah blah blah BLAH.
I prefer it this way - They don't ask, and I don't tell.

likes their own post, so tell me what does that say about you? Lol

God forbid they had to find out with a call from jail or the hospital; much better they heard it from me. My folks are not totally on board but all my friends are very supportive.

What other moron would? Well there is one but he's gone. Allegedly.

Only my fellow hobbyist friends know my secret.  Because of the nature of my work, I'm sure that I would get fired if my employer was to find out about my hobby.

One is also a hobbyist, but plays at the low end of the scale.  His experiences have been Bi-Polar, but he just keeps on trying.  The other friend...he prefers Ourtime, has found a GF that suits him, and thinks I should follow his lead, but I prefer the freedom the hobby provides...

If I tell you then, I become a blabber mouth. There lies the problem.

I am not one to worry about what anyone thinks of what I do. I told my family if they didn't like it, they could pay my bills. They fully support me. I feel truly blessed to have such understanding family and friends
Hugs and kisses
TL

...I am debating whether or not to tell another cousin when he comes for a visit in Sept.

I have an arrangement with my wife. There are some rules. One is that nobody else can know.  The other is that we she doesn't want to know anything about it. I started hobbying a year ago under these rules.

I meant females being friends with each other. I have several great female friends, some I've been intimate with and some just friends from the get go.

Daughter said, "whatever makes you happy Dad"  
FYI I am a widower and only recently started hobbying.

I am not "out". If my family and friends were to find out, I doubt they'd care. They might ask me a million questions and worry about me and my safety but no hating. I still don't want to deal with it. One day I will tell them, long after Alexandra has retired.

Very understanding of her!

By David McRaney. Long story short, it's about all the little ways our brains trick us into seeing the world a completely different way than it actually is. There's this one section that talks about "Pluralistic Ignorance". Basically, we all believe that the majority thinks one thing, even if we ourselves feel very differently and even if that perceived majority view is not really true.

I paid a pretty steep price for my freedom, but it was worth every fucking penny.

The fear comes from finding out we are right and become social lepers. How we view the world is secondary, in this instance. One mans opinion. You are cute as hell, by the way.

But this is definitely one worth answering honestly.