What's your preference?

 
Do you look for intimacy and connection or simply good physical fucking?

In MY P4P world, GFE means CFS and PSE means BBFS.  I have a feeling you're talking about something else.  

...since I never did BBFS in p4p, I cant relate to your experiences although I feel like I have had many PSE sessions. PSE is more about attitude, less "lady like" behavior, loud, boisterous dirty talk, hard & fast fucking, and maybe cim/swallow, anal. etc.

 
So to address Zen's OP, it really depends on my mood and the type of girl I am with. If a girl bills herself and appears to be more GND/GFE, I generally look forward to more of a typical "date" i.e. drinks, snacks or dinner, and more passionate, slower, longer sex.

 
Some women have more of a slutty look and vibe, e.g. an "alt" girl type or a stereotypical stripper look, and with those dates I look for more of how I would define PSE.

 
I also find I go through stages where I will have a string of GFE dates in a row, get a little bored of that, and switch to PSE types for a bit.

 
Mixing in bdsm dates is always fun as well, but now that that is much more mainstream than just 5 years ago, that can be accomplished with GFE or PSE type girls pretty much interchangeably.

a the feeling of a good connection and intimacy but it can be either sensual or physically passionate. The pure physical get my rocks off and never cared to catch your name is not very satisfying to me any more -- okay when I was much younger but probably after my 30s not so much.

I was intending pretty well.

 
I'm definitely not suggesting BBFS.

As with so many things in life, a little of each suits me. I strongly dislike gagging sounds during a BBBJ and given I'm of average size it's kind of a ridiculous pretense anyway.  And I'm not into the type of fuck that requires either crossfit training or roughing up the lady. For me, if the lady offers anal or CIM or best of all DATY and strap-on play with another lady, that's PSE enough for me. My dilemma is usually making the transition to CIM when I'm on the brink. When the lady is pulling me deeper into her with her legs going East and West and is kissing me, it's extremely difficult to break away, rip off the cover, get in position and deliver the goods. Salute to the guys in porn who can do that on command.

I like it all....usually a mix.