I thought I'd post cuz the last couple of bj's I've gotten share this 'over-eager' attitude that makes it less pleasurable.  I think a lot of guys must like it when the girl chokes on your cock, cuz the girl takes my cock deep and then chokes a little.  this choking is repeated.  in some cases, I think its a little made up, so that the guy (not me) can be excited that someone is choking on his cock.

And most guys in US are cut. They get cut in hospital as babies. More cultural thing than religion thing.  Since most ladies rarely see a full cock (that's uncut BTW), they don't know how to handle it.  One bitch pulled back the skin so hard, I was in excruciating pain. I had to apply ice pack on my dick after she left. I understand there is a need to look inside to see if there is some STD shit going on. But do it gently. No need to be violent.  

I agree. It must be the girls watching porn too much. It just seems like they are trying to get you off fast. I don't like it myself ... same goes for the spitting. Kinda gross ... So stop it already ladies ... Please, because if you puke on me ... we're done and you don't get a tip! LOL
 

Spend more time hug, necking, kissing (if the provider allows), sucking her tits. Let her put her hand on your balls and dick. You will be surprised how much harder you get, the bj required won't be that long. You will be ready to go and get that pussy real good.

I don't get the whole gagging thing, but yeah ... I don't want that. Suck, don't gag and choke ... it even sounds gross. To me anyway ...

I'd say a good percent like DT with gagging. (One did a puke fetish with me lol. It was fun, but won't do it again.)

You can find small ounce or two spray bottles of the stuff in many sex shops. They aren't that expensive, and might make an appreciated gift for your ATF.

The lady in question started out well then began making noise like a whale mating call. The dreaded ooohhh, mmmm, ahhhh. Then she starts in jerking me like a dentist pulling a tooth. Like the old joke goes, I guess she was trying to pull a better looking guy out of me.

of different styles to fit different gals and different moods. Sometimes the porn gag bj is great, sometimes the sensual bj is great. As you say, we can always tactfully "coach" as needed.  

...getting hard so you can move to intercourse. Sometimes the BJ is the point. Either way I don't like the gagging.

It can rub off on your dick and numb your knob.

Sometimes a BJ can be the experience a guy is looking for.  If done properly a good long BJ with changes in speed, friction saliva, gentle tooth action and attention to detail a great BJ can last anywhere from a half hour to an hour and make a guy (well me anyway) come as close to multiple orgasm as a guy can get.  Only one woman has ever done this for me properly and I married her for it.  Unfortunately, I only get that action once or twice a year and little other from her which is kinda why I hobby.