Howdy,

I am a relativly shy guy by nature and pretty easy going.  I have scheduled my first meeting ever with a Provider and have no idea how to approach the whole thing.  I am looking for some tips.

I am pretty sure things will start out with a massage and go on from there.  I am not really sure how to talk about what I want, I am kind of shy to begin with which makes it extra difficult.  I don't have much in the way of experiance so I don't even have a good idea about what is normal vs a little more "out there".

I have always been interested in DATY, but I have never thought of any methods to bring it up.  I can see it now "excuse me miss, would you mind if I go muff diving?".  I really want to avoid something lame like that.  That said, I do want to at least see if she is into it, but I don't want to put either of us in an uncomfortable position.  

I have a few other things I would like to try.  I have not spent much time around naked women so looking at the naked female body really turns me on.  I really want to get a good and close up look at her body, particularly the interesting parts. hehe.  I also want to run my hands all over her body, again particularly the interesting parts. I don't really know how to put that into words that I can manage to spit out when she is here.

The other thing has facinated me is the whole concept of rim jobs.  I have no idea why but the idea of giving and/or receiving a rim job has always lurked around in my fantasies.  I don't expect to ever realize that particular fantasy, I figure if I can't think of a non-offensive way to bring up DATY, there is no WAY I am going to figure out a nice way to bring up a rim job.  I think that by definition there is not a nice way to bring that up.

I think a large part of my problem comes down to communication skills.  I have a tendancy to be kind of quiet when I am uncomfortable or nervous.  I know that she is going to try and help me relax, but I don't predict much success in that area.

I would appreciate any suggestions anyone has about any of this, I am super nervous about the whole thing especially since she is going to show up later tonight.  Wish me luck!

Thanks

FSD, since the magic hour approaches and nobody has responded yet, let me offer just a few quick guidelines.

First, relax.  You sound kind of inexperienced and are letting the anticipation of what is about to happen get you all nervous.  You're worried about what ifs, and they most likely won't be issues.

Second, go with the flow.  Even for the most experienced hobbiest you just can't predict what will happen.  That's one of the things that makes it exciting.  You also can't force things to happen.  It's your first time with this woman, you aren't going to have to worry about rim jobs- that isn't going to happen, not now, probably not ever.  Whether it's your fantasy or not, she isn't coming over to fulfill everything on your all-time wish list.  All escorts have limitations and comfort zones, you must respect them.  For first time clients, she probably has a fairly standard set of things she's willing to do.  Let her take the lead and sit back and enjoy the ride.  

Third, be careful.  If you are a beginner, understand that you have to make sure she's legit before you begin.  Don't be discussing all the things you want and how much it's going to cost, unless you want your big night to end with a booking for solicitation.  I hope you've been following what's been previously written on this subject because I can't duplicate it here.  If she starts talking in that manner, use your head and graciously decline, tell her there must be a misunderstanding or something, but don't get lured into a conversation about sex for money.  Assume the worst and be careful.  In that same vein, if she's from an agency, don't let her take the money outside to her driver- you will never see her or your money again.  

Also, it goes without saying that you should be clean and presentable and condom usage is an absolute must.  Be respectful, don't worry about being akward (she knows what she's doing) and be careful.  

G2

PS- Remeber to have fun!

Let's assume that you've followed everyone's advice about
avoiding LE, and that you're with the provider, and the
provider is confortable that you're not LE either.

I'd be right up front and say that it's your first time
with a provider. Admit that you're nervous. Admit that you're
not sure how to ask for things without offending, etc.

Any good provider will help you through that first
experience and educate you. Some will even be flattered
that you chose them for your first experience.

Hope this helps.

I was retired from this hobby for over a decade and celibate for 3 years prior to my return to the active duty in February.
For me it was just like riding a bicycle... just think of it in those terms... LET IT HAPPEN... if you work to hard at it
you will fall! (eh?)

Remember this is your time to enjoy and a professional escort
will make certain you enjoy do!  It's not a first date you are
hoping to score with, it's a sure thing!!!!

My too scents...

LM

ps- Get relaxed at this and soon you will have your pick of
favorite providers... Mine is spending the night!!!
LM

The toughest part is trying not to blunder into a situation with LE.  Pick a provider with ALOT of great reviews by guys that are writing multiple reviews themselves and are clearly legit.  Once I'm comfortable that she's for real, (and I just go by feel, body language, the girls demeanor, it's not an exact science), I always say, "let's talk for a minute before we get started." Before the money changes hands if I have any questions about what's on the menu I ask very nicely, "are we gonna' be able to do...oral sex, kissing, french kissing, if not on the mouth is it OK everywhere else...etc..."  I get very specific, I'm about to drop a few hundred bucks and I want to know what I'm buying.  The info you see on the reviews is usually a pretty accurate picture of what a girl is gonna do, although YMMV and extra's are sometimes available. There's nothing to be embarrassed about, this is what these girls do for a living, you aren't going to be offending anyone as long as you're not an asshole about it.  But if you don't ask, you might be disappointed later.  

As for laying back and letting the provider lead the way, that's great if you get a real sweethearted GFE type, but I had a chick out here tonight who didn't speak much English and was a follower as opposed to a leader, we had a great time but if I hadn't been running the show it would have been very pedestrian.  Initiate once you get started, if you want something, go for it, don't assume because she's a pro she knows best.  (I failed to ask if the girl I had out tonite if she provided multiple pops and it ended up costing me a few extra bucks.  Damn it all to hell.)

How did the experience go???

FSD,

First: I envy you, there is nothing like the anticipation of the "first time" (ahhh! Candy @ SUN where are you now?)

Second (and more to your question), what I do when seeing a lady that I never seen before, I let her control the initial part of the session, massage, etc. Then when we are both comfortable with the setting, I politely ask if I can massage her. If she says yes, I proceed with tenderness, and when she is comfortable, I ask (maybe whisper into her ear) if it's okay to kiss her (fill in YOUR favorite part here...)

This has worked every time so far (maybe I've just been really lucky)

Remember: Be polite, be VERY clean (shower at her place before the session if possible), and always respect HER wishes. Just because we are paying clients does not invalidate her feelings.

And above all - HAVE FUN... you seem thoughtful enough to even have asked for the advice.


Play hard...

Mannray

Are you still trying to catch your breath or did you get ripped-off on your first encounter?  You can't just go away quietly after everyone helped out.

I appreciate all the tips, I am definately much less nervous now. She had to postpone the meeting so we rescheduled for later in the week.  Still looking forward to the meeting.

Thanks!

Hi FSD,


I joined onto this thread a bit late ... a little behind in my reading here.

Might I suggest reading this?  (In conjunction, of course,  with everything else that you have previously noted.)

http://www.bigdoggie.net/guides

In my emails to new patrons I always ask them to make sure they have read this.  Of course this is not the only guide available.  I believe TER may also have something on this site, I just have not really looked for it yet, but I think GND mentioned it once.

And have some lovely times.

FF




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I agree with Felicia. FSD, there are many sites out there educating people like yourself on the first encounter with a woman you have never seen before.  I would take the advices of the above posts seriously, like do not let the woman leave with the money prior to the end of the session, and above all else be polite, sober, and freshly showered.  
Another site with threads for beginners, http://www/bigdoggie.net

Hope you have fun your first time around, and it is a good  thing to be nervous.  I was the first time around too.

Neutrogena

Just ask.  We are pros and can help the situation not be uncomfortable.  Chances are, she has been asked that before.  I am sure you will be at ease as soon as you see your beautiful lady.

Have fun and stay safe.

xxxooofanny