it's the little touches.

I've had mostly good experiences with providers, but every now and then, the way a provider acts on a first visit really kills my hardon, especially when she is distant, reserved, clinical,  mechanical, like it's a job.

I dunno about you, but I think if a provider is going to be in this line of work, she should learn how to fake it a little.  
Fake it till you make it. fake it even after you made it.

My expectations-
* I know that a provider won't be attracted to 99% of her johns, but she should act like she is happy to see me.
* You've just met and don't know each other, but she should feign some interest.  
Smile. Sweet talk; make the man feel happy to be there. and give positive feedback during sex... moan, say it feels good (even if it feels average), but not over-the-top fakery. It's a fantasy, no???
* Have an autopilot mode when the client doesn't specify what he wants. When I say "fuck my brains out," use me as a human dildo and run through your favorite positions, with some passion.  
Doesn't a girl know what she wants when it comes to sex? I'm letting her run the show.

 
or maybe I'm just spoiled.

 

 
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Recently I had my worst session ever with a first visit. It was $600/hr and went against all my above expectations. This was with a relatively new, but highly rated provider with a couple dozen reviews, and a bunch of 10/10 scores. Maybe these johns had a different set of standards, but it fooled me into booking a session with her.  One thing is for sure... most johns are too nice to write a bad review, so cumulative scores get inflated, and the provider thinks there is no need for improvement.

At this price, I expected GFE.  
What I imagined was the total opposite of what actually happened.
The session started with the most platonic hug upon entering the door. Not even a light kiss. Not even a smile. Her reasons were.... "I don't know you." and "some guys are married and don't want to kiss.."  ??!!?? huh wtf?  
I have always gotten at least a light welcome kiss from every provider.

The first 30 seconds are crucial, ladies. It sets the mood.

The reviews sounded GFE to me, but it ended up being sex a-la-carte.
During the session, she asked, in a business-like manner, what I want and like. as if i'm ordering from burger king.
I told her "everything. you take the lead, and I'll try to keep up."  Do anything and everything. Nothing is off limits for me.
She acted like she didn't know what I meant.  
(Fuck me like you're horny. What do you do when you're horny? just lay there?)

During sex, she made ZERO eye contact, and I'm not a fat ugly guy.  
When she was riding me CG, I was looking at her face, and not once did she look at me. Now that's a good way to make a guy feel unwanted.

She couldn't bring herself to provide the fantasy because she said she was unable to fake anything in the slightest way.

It's a paid service. Don't take it so seriously.

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I'm sure that will help you get what you're looking for.

 

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so bad for you. Do you make use of back-channel? Pm the guys who have reviewed someone before you see her, or ask for her 411 on the RO board. Chalk it up to bad luck and a learning experience this time, but next time do your back channel research to find out if someone is really all that. Nonetheless, you're bound to run into someone with whom you just don't click. But with research, that likelihood is significantly reduced.

Best of luck, B!

You're missing out on a lot - in order to learn something you have to do it do it do it. Learn how to find a compatible escort. I believe in you.

except I want her to emulate her reviews. LOL Not blow by blow, but definitely in the ballpark.

I see different woman for different reasons and don't expect a woman who kisses softly and romantically and fucks in a more sensual manner to fail me by not flipping over and saying "fuck my ass, baby. Harder, harder " No, I go see a gal who loves anal for that.

I empathize with you if you expect a gal to perform somewhat like the majority of her reviews and with you she's totally different or even indifferent. You shouldn't blame yourself unless this becomes a recurring issue.. Then I might think one might want to take a look in the mirror. .  

That's why I usually repeat with the same woman. Except for the human element, one of us not bringing their A-game, she has what I want and I do know what to expect. Sometime I can sit back and be seduced and other times, that doesn't work and I need to be more in control. That's the element I enjoy most and the type of sexual entertainment I prefer. Sharing is caring.  

 

OTOH,

Was this a one hour appointment? Harder to get acquainted in that short of a time.  

Imagine yourself out in public and you see a woman walk by that you're not attracted to at all. Ask yourself if you could have sex with her if she paid you or if you could pretend your having a good time with her. Not that easy is it?

What you described has probably happened to everyone. One lady looked bored when I walked in. No greeting, smile etc.. So,  I lowered my expectations and we talked until almost the end of the date. I noticed she had been undressing little by little trying to give me a hint. About 10 minutes left she finally asks me to undress and I told her there wasn't enough time left. I really wasn't in the mood anymore anyway. So I left. Later that night she emails me back and apologizes for being preoccupied since she had another appointment right after mine and had some issues with this client. She didnt go in to details. I email her back and we start an email conversation. She said she would be back in town the next month and we ended up setting an appointment when she returned. The 2nd visit the greeting was totally different. I brought her a gift and she loved it! The sex was pretty good too. lol

you putting up a video of his favorite girl when she's obviously having a bad day!  When she took his $600 she was smiling.

Only if I had reviews. But it's not about me today.  
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     When I first started out. I was completely nervous during my first encounter with a hobbyist. I had something to prove, I didn't want to let the person down. With the pressure of knowing, I was going to be reviewed for the first time afterwards. It was nerve wrecking. I was feeling insecure in my abilities to put on a great show. I do believe some women should not being doing this. The service should be a mirror reflection of the providers reputation and reviews. I have heard stories. However, that is why it is up to the hobbyist to be honest as much as possible for others."Everything ain't for everybody."

Good points. There's nothing worse that reading that a provider performs CIM(or some other item) in multiple reviews and then the provider saying she Doesn't do that anymore, or that she dosent read her reviews, but they are all lying. Granted some guys will lie about doing things with providers such as Greek or BBBJNQNS and receiving rimming. I toss out things that I don't see in most reviews because guys lie like they are still in high school for some odd reason. However, I remember a provider saying that bbbjCim wasn't an option for her anymore and that she was going to stop offering it and have her profile changed. Great, but her last 10 reviews highlighted her skill in that area and she advertised "full GFE" and a "Open Menu" I know... I know It was me that caused her menu to close down, but I wish providers would come up with new stories that are a little more believable and change your profile if it wrong! I know it's a pain dealing with TER, but it needs to be done because some of us book with you based on you reviews.  

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I obviously don't draw enough ...lol

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I look at the pics on her site or in her ad, I read her "About Me" file (yes, I actually read everything written on her site), and I get some kind of picture of her and an idea of what she might be like. I expect a certain personality and attitude, a certain look. Even if I try to have no expectations, I can't help it; some idea forms even if I know it probably won't be completely accurate.

So when I walk in, or when she shows up at the door, there's always a little bit of a jolt because she's never exactly what I expected.

The pussy aroma still lingers and killed my boner....bye

nothing turns me off more than walking into a woman's place and it's a mess.  once i cut a session short (there were other problems, too, no chemistry) b/c a lady had dirty dishes in the sink, garbage spilling out over her trash can, and i had to wait while she made the bed.  damn girls, this is a business, have everything ready before i get there!!

(conversely, i am impressed when the lady has condoms & lube ready & waiting by the bedside.)

maybe i'm picky, but even walking in and finding dirty clothes spread on the floor irks me.  

another thing: if you gotta use 420 to get the nerve to meet me, at least get rid of the smell before i come in.

and then the usual stuff of not looking like your pix, etc.

i look only for kisses with tongue and bbbj.  i don't care if i cim, cof, cot, or just cwjo (while jacking off).

as i've stated elsewhere, old reviews are not goal posts for me.  i take my experience w/a lady as mine, and don't hold it up to what other guys say, mainly because a) other guys lie and b) what i like may not be covered in the reviews.  i look to reveiws for more overall attitude and atmospheric qualities.

had a girl jump up between every act in bed and start texting.  she wanted to cut the visit shorter than i booked b/c she "had a friend to meet" (yeah right), but apparently she got a text that told her he flaked and she said we could do the full visit.   i told her no thanks, took the difference in rate between what i booked and what i spent, and left, never to see her again.

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""Doesn't a girl know what she wants when it comes to sex? I'm letting her run the show. ""
No, bingbingbongbongbing,
a LOT of girls DO NOT Learn their bodies and what THEY WANT FOR THEIR PLEASURE!
This is the challenge.

It is Way Easier for her to lay there, spread the legs, and receive the dick. Easy.
This is a girl that will get with a Dominant guy, and be Happy, because at least he's getting what he wants.
She doesn't have to do anything but Show Up.
A lot of times they (Dominant guys) do not care about the girl's pleasure, so she doesn't have to go deeper and get Real.

She will not be able to participate in the Sex , because she is not "horny",  
she probably has a boyfriend on her mind and feeling guilty,  
and she knows she's pretty so she can get away with the lack-luster performance.

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In it, two waiters at a very posh restaurant look out over the sea of diners and one says to the other:

Why can't they just eat at home and mail in their tips?

 
I think the gal you mention falls under the category:  Unclear on the concept

One man's weed is another's bush.

One thing I know for sure:  The worst odor from a vagina I've ever experienced was better than what ever the hell comes out of an aerosol can.   That stuff ought to be banned by the Geneva Accords as chemical warfare

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Yes,
the Hormones are Up....

Time to Make a Baby

Lol...

Forgive me for speaking up, but baby making occurs during ovulation, not menstruation.

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and I have heard you can't get preggo on your "first time" either. lol

Oh, God. I thought you were serious Gambler. All of your credibility almost flew out the window just now.

😂😂😂

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...i expect my date to understand issues we talk about b4 we meet..erections dies when i discover my date is a liar...

haha.

I can totally understand them not being in the mood or excited about getting naked with a middle aged somewhat overweight man.    I wouldn't be excited about jumping in bed with the 'female version' of myself lol.   but this job isn't for everyone, no doubt.  and remember they are making about a week's worth of paycheck (at a job which is also boring and dehumanizing) in an hour or two.   Some of them just can't pull it off.  Others are simply amazing and jumping in the role.

So leave your shoes on!!! ;