I think it was just one of those things.  Not everything is gonna be right 100% of the time.  If the talk is something you've been doing in other sessions and it hasn't been a issue before, I would not worry about it.

Maybe I should do my own research and let you try it on me.

Everyday there are posts about how gross the men are, how a woman could never actually cum with us, and how the envelope is all that matters. And we've all heard the same about how we could never know if a woman is faking or not. Admittedly, we also hear about great dates and how the same women are really into it.

What to believe?

Yeah, I know that in some respects it is really both - two sides of the same coin. It changes from man to man or day to day, based upon a certain mood and all that is going on in life at the moment,...  

Ultimately, we never know for certain how it is for you... and you don't know how it is for us. Unless the communication is very, very, good.  

It's a shame that a careless comment ruined a good moment for you. I wouldn't worry too much about it. It seems exactly the same as what can happen in civvie dates!

.. and a bit of dirty talk is great, although I tend to get into it more if it slowly builds. Too much too fast tends to raise my "skeptic" eyebrow

You can make some  guys happy some of the time but not all of the guys happy all the time.

In a later scene in that same Seinfeld that BP posted, George is tossed out on his ear when he told the gal he just had great sex with that he was so impressed with her "show" of dirty talk.  "You really had me going.", quoth the prince of idiots.

So it is with this guy. Sheesh!

Some gals do a better job of it than others, and I'm sure some gals are genuine, but no one in their right minds ever says anything to acknowledge that it could be faked unless they want a kick in the balls.

In any case, I always appreciate it whether genuine or not.  It's good either way, usually.

And he was looking at his watch too?

Seems it is a case of one-way chemistry - a sad but not unheard of facet of this hobby.

Don't give him another thought.

Especially when it seems real.  But you need to understand that many guys are understandably skeptical.  They want to believe it's real but have a hard time accepting it.  Re the watch, perhaps he was just pacing himself and being respectful of your time, taking nothing for granted?

not worth one more minute of your time if 'he' thinks you were faking it. Only you know how you were feeling at the time...HIS loss. Unfortunately most men question everything no matter how genuine it is in this business, and those who do are the ones who miss out on truly genuine experiences.

Let it be and don't bat one more eyelash at it for one more sec.  

Clearly he's not worth your time or your genuine appeal. Let it go.  

Guys will always believe what they want to believe...par for the course and out of our control unfortunately.

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From what I read, you were really into it and being yourself, that's awesome and never change that.

Is it possible that you read more into what he said than you should have? Maybe it really turned him on and he didn't want to pop too soon with 2.5 hours left to the date.  

I know how it can be difficult to regain your composure and remain turned on, but I don't think he meant to hurt your feelings. I think you should be in touch with him and try to get an answer, because it might not be what you are thinking but if it is then as you know you can't please everybody. Dirty talk is a huge turn on for me as long as it does not sound like a 1975 porno, lol

MM

I've had guys that I literally thought were sleeping because they were so freaking quiet, then a minute after thinking that, I had cum on my face lol. He is obviously just one of those who has not had much experience with women who are vocal in bed, and thinks all of them must be faking it because he is not accustomed to it. How a guy who pays for ass can be so sheltered, is beyond me.

a lady i saw, with whom i thought i had good chemistry, emailed me cancelling our second date, saying she didn't like the dirty talk i was doing during the session.  which was mostly just "oh you nasty girl, you bad girl, i'm f*king you" etc etc etc.

i thought we really connected, and i had scored a major find with this gal.  imagine my surprise to find out she didn't like it at all!  oh well, i moved on and found some great ladies who really seem to enjoy their time with me, and even if they don't, they are damn fine actesses!  lol!

You said it was a longer session and you dug him.  If you would like him to come back, you might send him an email and explain you weren't faking a reaction and the dirty talk was natural to you.  

He might have just been having an off day himself.  He might have had a meeting later with a client or customer in his own business who is a consummate bullshitter and that was on his mind.

I haven't had many dirty-talkers as civilian lovers, so it is unusual when I hear it from providers.  But it's rarely over the top and I assume it's either what they like or more probable what they think I would like.  Either way it's not a turn-off.  I don't think "fake" immediately unless her reactions are out of proportion to what's happening.  The possibility of faking it is always there, but I try to maintain the fantasy that her enjoyment and orgasms are real.  I've only had one provider who was over-reacting--within 15 seconds of my going down on her she was moaning loudly.  Like most guys, I'm proud of my skills in that area but I was tempted to say, "Slow down baby, I'm not THAT good."

Don't tell me in the middle of intercourse that I'm "so big" and I'm going "so deep", though, because I'd know you were lying.  I'm no micro-dick, but I am decidedly average in size.

This guy sounds a bit like a putz. I know it's impossible to forget on command so might be most productive to do whatever helps you clear your head and then focus your positive energy on the next session.

I certainly wouldn't worry about it although I can see exactly why it bothered you. Maybe yu should let him know that it was not an act the next time you talk to him. And like someone else mentioned...I don't think he intended it as a negative remark, most likely just assuming that because you are a provider that you probably aren't enjoying yourself.
 Speaking for myself: if I wasn't enjoying what I'm doing then I would most certainly NOT be doing this. I enjoy men and I enjoy sex so it's just natural for me. Don't get me wrong there are times when I meet someone and things just don't click as well as I would like (or they would like) but then those are usually the clients that are one and gone. Can't please everyone all the time...right.
 But it sure sounds like you have your act together and that you are in this for so much more than making a living. (almost wish I were a male hobbyist so I could experience a session).  Stay safe and ENJOY!

You know you read alot of shit on the Internet.
It can cloud judgement.
Example....
My shoulder was hurting the other day. A little numb.
I knew it was because I turned my head just right, and pulled a muscle.
I decided to go online and check it out anyway.
According to Dr. Google I had a stroke, a heart attack, and I should be dead.

The same type of thing is happening to me regarding escorting.
If you look.. you read some fucking horror stories!
I don't want to be any part of that...
So you get it in your head that what you are doing is wrong...
And the possibility that you (the escort) are actually enjoying yourself becomes remote.
So when you giggle or gasp.. It is perceived as fake.
I am ashamed to admit I am becoming guilty of that same thing.
Fucking Gambler got me thinking. He is right. Again.  
I hate that.

I've found that it takes time for a lady to get comfortable enough to let go and really get into the dirty talk. That would've turned me on, even if it was being faked, which you've assured us it wasn't. As with anything though, everyone is different, thank goodness.