I would have used all of them.  Seriously, WHAT IS IT with men these days?  Have they ever seen LIVE female?  Real live females get ingrown hair, pimples, menstruate, have on occasion vaginal discharge ...


Some people need to take it easy on blow up dolls


Lina

This thread is an exercise in too much information.

A private discussion which definitely should have remained a private discussion.

There are all types and sooner or later we all meet types we would rather not.

I'm sorry that this got to you and made you feel ill, but put it behind you and realize that in a short time it will mean nothing.

If I suspect there is an STD, I am out of there!
You can't blame the guy for sending you away.
Next time you have a red bump, take a break.

BTW, I have had the ingrown hairs on occasion and would not hobby until they pass.

does not mean other people are not going to get grossed out over them or even leery.

Both providers and hobbyists have a right to protect themselves and be cautious. It's unfortunate that you don't see it that way.

I don't think you should had to go in the door explaining, but some guys are just paranoid and think because of your working status that you must have herpes and few other things. Chalk it up to him having stereotypes about this slice of life and leave it at that. In the meantime, if there is such a problem, have a game plan for how you deal with the next guy. Good for you that most guys don't write reviews.

it is about understanding that women have human bodies with normal bodily functions, something that seems to elude people lately.

Lina

Re: here is a story about people making ASSumptions

Last year on my way back to NYC from Vegas I was so tired that I literally fell off a chair in airport.

Now, if I get a bruise, it takes WEEKS to go away.  I am all black and blue if i simply bump into a chair.  

I had few dates scheduled in NYC withing next two weeks after my arrival.  Those who know me asked "ok .. so what happened this time?"

Those who did not? Immediately asked "so, does your pimp beat u up all the time?"

Lina

think people will assume when you say "down there"?

If it's above your knee, different story, but that's not what you said.

Dear Melody,

I would very much like to see you, but please let it be known that if you have any ingrown hairs I will not book an appointment.

However, if said ingrown hair is positioned slightly above your knee, that will be acceptable. If it is near the kitty, forget it!

Will ya still book me?

I can't even count the number of posts bashing men for bad breath, shitty underwear, Humps on their backs (lol) etc.

So your suggestion is that we email in advance asking if you have any growths we should know about? Oh yeah, that will get a lot of dates.

This thread is so utterly predictable with all the providers and white knights blindly defending a provider "no matter what".

If the shoe was on the other foot and a client was rejected for having a growth "down there" there would be a line a mile long defending the provider for having the right to "protect her health"

next thing she'll be telling us it wasn't really even noticeable.

I don't think the OP is winning any brownie points expect from the usual group of posters that will defend any provider, any time, anywhere, no matter what the circumstances.

funny as hell, but still uncalled for. rofl

Re: its ok .. i can take a joke

Especially if it comes from tall dark handsome stranger who never has to pay to get laid and is not afraid that something stated on sex discussion board will make it hard for him to get laid.  Even in whorehouse with bunch of 100 dollar bills glued to his head.

I am sure that "CC" happens to be such gentleman.



Lina

...free cheeseburger coupons taped to my head walking through your door I would get laid from you!

You had already spent 4 hrs with him?
Was it a dinner date?
Why did it take him so long to figure out he didn't want to proceed mmmmmmmmm sounds off, go to the health dept get checked shove the papers in his face I mean honestly nowadays ya never with some it may have really scared him, but after I would ask him to compensate for your time & the inconvenience/not too mention the horrible experience/ hell gossip he may spread especially if untrue, not cool especially if the ingrown hair was no where near your prize!
Just my thoughts...

There is nothing to be done now.  You & he have had what ever conversation & parted ways.  It's not like you can put a notice up on a bulletin board somewhere.  He may or may not pass on this bit of misinformation.
What you can & should do is be prepared if this comes up again (either from someone he passed the information to or a new guest in a similar circumstance).  The simplest explanation is best.  ANYBODY who shaves (and some whose hair rubs off from clothing friction...  I have hairless shins where my boots rub) know that ingrown hairs are a occupational hazzard.  Certain ethnic groups with curly hair are more prone to this but it can happen to anyone.  

I certainly think he over-reacted...  but people have to go with their feelings.  If he was so concerned, he would not have had a good time, so was right to wrap things up early.  His loss.  

I have to self inject medications daily...  if I have had meetings and know I have bruises or injection marks, I have mentioned it to my providers in the first few minutes of our time.  They have universally stated that they were not concerned, that they knew the difference between medical injections & drug abuse...  but best to have it out in the open.

I am sorry this upset you so much.  Yes, you are very sensitive...  but perhaps that is what makes you a special companion.
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OK so long story...but I had an experience recently with a man who didn't want to be intimate with me because an ingrown hair of mine made him think I have herpes.

YES HERPES!!  

Him:  "Is there anything you want to tell me about your heath?"

Me: "Ummmm I have ulcerative colitis"

Him: "Well you have a bump down there"

Me:  "You mean this ingrown hair?"

Him:  "It looks like more than that to me."

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Okay, I'll spare the details of the rest of the conversation but basically he accused me of having herpes or warts or SOMETHING other than an ingrown hair.

I am a runner.  I run 5 miles a day minimum, 14-18 on my long runs and INGROWN HAIRS HAPPEN.  

I was disgusted and insulted and even vomited when I left the room after his accusation.

Now I realize I am a very sensitive person.  I could have told him off, told him to bugger off, etc but I did not.  I simply packed my purse and left.  

But now I feel so insulted, humiliated, manipulated and USED for spending 4 hours with him just to be turned away and accused of having herpes or whatever.

I know, I know....I am rambling but I've NEVER had anything like this happen to me before and I'm still crying today about it.  

To the providers out there:  what would you have done?

To the men:  What do you think about a situation like this?

Thanks in advance.

Oh, sure you have an ingrown hair.  *wink, wink*

There are people that are STD crazy.  Not much you can do but laugh.  They provide a form of entertainment.  

I would have told them I have super AIDS.  Just being in close proximity will kill.  In fact, I would get checked right away if you are reading this.  Sorry, but I'm writing without the three layers of rubbers expected by the community.  I guess the condom police are going to need to call the SWAT team on me.

You always make me smile.  You're the best.

I will always have a bump here or there.  You run 15-20 miles every four days and see what happens.  

It is above my knee, not on my labia.

It is a tough call but it is not just my health but every person I see. Being to careful is a laughable situation until it happens to you but it isn't a real laughing matter. If I have anything that doesn't look right I take time for it to be in order. I had over 50 tick bites from my knees down. No sexual problem there but I took 4 months off to let them heal. Why ? I felt that a stranger meeting me for the first time would not feel comfortable seeing them or getting close.

I'm sorry for the way you felt over this gentleman's reaction but i'm sure you have felt in some way the same at one time. It's a learning curve that only you can grade. Was it helpful to your future and has it enlightened you to the other person's safety and comfort.

There's a product called seabreeze that will work to keep ingrown hairs in check. It's made for the face but I use it every time my pussy is waxed.

Kisses Haley

You got them from his Mom.

Yes, because the few engagements I have are 6+hours in length, the gents I see aren't much in to reviewing.  They simply buy me properties, vehicles, etc...  

I'm so thankful for the wonderful patrons I have met.  Yes, all seven of you.  

It's speculated that about 1 in 5 people in America have Herpes - an estimated 60 million people. World wide; a study conducted by the Kaiser Family Foundation concluded there are more than 15 million new cases of sexually transmitted infections each year (this doesn't even include the speculated 80 percent of people who have the oral form of the virus - HSV1.) That’s 41,095 newly infected people every day.  

With odds like that, chances are that everyone on this board has been with somone who has it, it's practically a given. That doesn't mean it's been transmitted, but it's always a risk you take when having sex with anyone.

Many people never even have symptoms. You may have herpes and not know it. HE may already have herpes and not know it. I could have it, and not know it.

Knowing how common it is, and that the presense of the sores or blisters or whatever-the-fuck-they-are greatly increases the likelyhood of transmission - only brief contact is needed to pass it on - the guy did what he thought was best for him.

Not saying you're lying, not saying that he isn't completely clueless, but as always people will look out for numero uno first and formost. He did what he thought he had to do, and you need to dust it off your shoulders and forget about it, because that's all you CAN do.

I know.  Oopsie.  He's the one who said "down there."  "Down there" means any area between a knee and a pubic bone.  I didn't intend for it to be interpreted as "down there" meaning crotch/labia etc..  Sorry for any confusion.

This is one guy.  Why does his concern matter to you that much?  If you don't have a disease, and apparently you don't, just chalk it up to a misunderstanding on his part and move on.  Don't let it hurt your feelings.  

Just this week I had a customer service person tell me a man had refused to take a tarnished penny in change because of his AIDS concerns.  Go figure!

Thank you.  I know, logically you are correct.  I'm such a sensitive person that I let things get to me too easily.

Thank you.

on their thigh, talk badly about them in public because they have pimples on their buttcheeks. We don't badmouth them when their mouths still taste like dinner 2 hours ago....

Humans are humans. He obviously was chicken shit to begin with, and was looking for a reason out.
Ingrowns happen, he should have emailed her beforehand stating that those freak him out.

if I seen a man whith a bump I would think about doing him, it depends on what the bump looked like.
I'm sure men have at times experienced ingrown hairs , when they shave thier faces (or other areas)
and they can look inflamed and resemble a pimple.
if it was picked at it and it was scabbed or open then I would not do him and you should not be doing people if you have a open wound of any kind!
it is inviting anything that he has that you can't see to invade your system, so maybe be happy about it.
I can't blame him for being safe but he could of handled it differently and been open minded, but we do judge by just looking at someone without asking or any openess about it.
We are very judg"mental". lol

When you admit you're "a sensitive person" and that you actually wanted to vomit because you were so upset, it does make me wonder if you're too sensitve for the profession.  People being people, upsetting things will happen occasionally. My take is, I understand it's upsetting, but not to that degree.  I know from your other posts you really love it most of the time, but you really need to work on this aspect because, while I do understand some level of upset is appropriate, the level you describe is over the top.  Something to work on, I suppose.

From the ads, I'm often expecting photoshopped perfection but I know I won't always get it. The worst thing I've ever encountered was cellulite that had been p'shopped to smoothness, but at least I know what cellulite is. During some intro DFK, I was kind of feeling around her legs and ass, like Sylvester the Cat slowly and deliberately squeezing the features of the snarling Bulldog before a beatdown, while my Big Brain was screaming "Run away! Run away!" But I didn't feel anything weird and she soon made me forget about everything else in the world and it was great. (Soon after, she more than doubled her rates so I never did repeat.)

I've also seen some of the most beautiful perfect real pussies, as perfect as photoshopped men's mags, I can ever hope to see.

But if I saw something I hadn't seen before and I wasn't sure of, I think I'd ask and, if necessary, work out an exit strategy.

Should pimples and other features NOT be photoshopped so us guys know what to expect?

Can be, but far less likely. In such cases it is said that can be avoided effectively with use of protection. Skin to skin contact with actual sores is most likely way to transmit and in such a case it transmits very easily. Even sharing a towel could spread it.

I'm not sure I could identify the sores if I saw them; I have seen pictures where they look like pimples, other pics where they look like blisters, some pics where it looks like a cigarrette burn - and what you are looking at could just be - a pimple - razor bump - an ingrown hair - but how do you tell with an untrained eye? If something doesn't look right, you gotta make up your mind...

lol near the kitty

Talking bad about other people makes some people feel like they are "in" with the program. No excuse though. Risk factor is rather low when one see only providers with class and care for themselves. Don't believe they will put themselves in risk.

Then again, there are lot of paranoid people around who should not in the hobby. Trust is required for anything to work and your job is to figure who to trust and who not trust. It can only be done using the big head but, paranoia doesn't help in that situation though.

I wouldn't take one mans opinion to affect me or define me.

Well, you can kick my ass!  About 50 years ago I could run a 5:20 mile.  Now I don't run at all (a bunion and nearly 65 years of wear and tear).  But I can bike 20 hilly miles in less than 90 minutes, so come east (and about 30 miles north of NYC).  I'll provide the bike and we'll see whose ass gets kicked! (I know, I know, it's not really fair because legs trained to run don't bike very well, and vice versa, which is why triathalons are such a bitch).

It's midway between my knee and my crotch, on my inner thigh.  

I have no reason to lie--why else would I even bring up this topic in the first place, silly goose?  

I understand that anything located on the inner part of a thigh may be frightening.  I get it and I respect his decision to back out now that I've had time to examine what happened.  I guess the most hurtful aspect was spending 2 hours dining at a ***** star restaurant, then having everything fall to pieces.  Ok, also being accused of having an STD hurt my feelings.  I get tested every 3 months for EVERYthing, I treat my body as a temple and I am even considered to be a UTR escort because....well...nobody even knows I exist LOL  Thankfully, my day jobs keep me busy and I have no financial struggles in life.  Praise Jesus.

Oh and no, LOL, the ingrown hair WAS and still IS noticeable.  I take immaculate care of my skin and know better than to pop pimples.  I will likely see me dermatologist next week to give me a cortisone shot to shrink it.  

Also keep in mind that herpes simplex II (or I) can be passed on even when no symptons (i.e. , blisters or tingling, etc.) are present.

Oh, thanks for the input but I'm perfectly fine doing everything I choose to do in life.  I'm an empathic, sensitive artist type.  No, I don't have thick skin as I'm a cupcake through and through (so I've been told by others--I'd never say that about myself!  

I am very fortunate to attract the exact type of gentleman who appreciates a courtesan experience.  Even the gent who freaked out about the ingrown hair was amazing--fine dining at a top restaurant at Bellagio, he bought me very well thought out presents in addition to a cute, romantic card.

That said, this experience is probably he first experience that didn't flow out beautifully. As my best friend pointed out, my patrons treat me with so much respect and have been so incredibly generous over the years, one little snafu like this shouldn't upset me.

I met her Halloween night in Vegas and I was taken unawares. We had dinner with quite a few other people and I couldn't keep my eyes off her.

Well, inbetween a little 'disruption' on my part, but I digress....

Lynette, I, and a few friends went to my suite later on and needless to say my attention was spent on her the rest of the night into the morning.

The lady is exquisite. From head to toe. She blew my mind with all we talked about that night and since.

She and I are going to meet again. This time for the real deal. I'm going to do unspeakable things to her, and know she'll do the same!

As far as this punk ass bitch that commented on an ingrown hair on her leg? I'll let you know how it goes when I bite it out. Whether it's on her leg, her pussy, whatever. I am SOOO going to fucking eat the holy hell out of her!

The only problem is, will there be anything left when I get done with her!

PEACE FOOL!!!

I should have clarified this....

Yes, 99% of my engagements are dinner dates, and my birthday present is always given to me during the first 20 minutes in a book or casual gift bag.

Honestly, it's more like 2.5 hours spent at dinner enjoying cocktails, conversation and exquisite cuisine.

But I live in suburbia, about 40 minutes from the Strip, not to mention the line at valet...which adds on about another hour.

Then by the time we head up to the room, brush our teeth/freshen up etc...that's about 4 hours of our time together.

The more I keep thinking about this, the more I understand his paranoia and desire for precaution.  But as a woman who gets tested every 3 months for EVERYthing and even works at a Planned Parenthood  center, I can't help but feel insulted.  I do outreach with prostitutes...why in the h* would I ever put a partner at risk as a health advocate?

Namaste

I just ran a marathon three weeks ago, where the ingrown hair/pimply thing occurred.  It will likely go away in 10-15 days, so no reason to do another photo shoot to point it out LOL.

I am beginning to think there aren't many athletes here on TER, otherwise they would understand what happens over 2+hours of cardio 6 days/week.

Agreed.  It sure did hurt my feelings but I know I can run a 7 minute mile and leave him blowing in the dust behind me...then go on to test even more of my cardio skills with a gent who appreciates me.  

Please leave enough for me to ingest if she ever cums east!  But what Halloween costume were you wearing?  The last time I dressed up I was John McCain and my SO was Sarah Palin!  She carried a Cabbage Patch doll she called Trig.  We are badd peeple!
PS: Not sure which of that duo I hate worse.  Ugh!

It will never work  I can't ride a bike anymore.  Whoever said a person never forgets how to ride a bike was mistaken!  :P

Ingrown hair creates a small bump.  It disappeared after a while.  I had one of those too.

One time I was ask by a girl if the mole on the base on my cock was inborn.  I said yes of course.
The girl was new to the game.  I didn't take it personally.

Look. The guy is a fucking idiot. He lost out. His loss is my gain.

I met you. You're soooo fucking out there!

The guy's a fucking dumbass!

You want, I can go on...

you don't have an STD right? So you did the best thing. It didn't hurt that he asked, but if he didn't believe you or made you feel uncomfortable after, then you did the best thing. You left...bravo. Can't please everyone and some people really just shouldn't be in this hobby. Seriously a person can have an STd an show NO signs so he is taking risks anyways. We all are. Do wht you do, the guys seem to love it an sty safe and who cares about that guy? I mean really do you???? What's hid name again? LOL.

Happy New Years!

You are so cute I will buy you some training wheels!

... is contrary to board rules and could get you flipped.

Furthermore, it makes the availability of aliases harder to support.

But can't always say that about those without aliases.

My personal definition of a personal attack is when person #1 says something nasty towards person #2 AND person #2 complains about it.  Many of you seem to feel badly for person #2 and want to argue on their behalf, but that doesn't hold much water with me.  While that may seem lazy or callous, what you cannot possibly know is that I often get PM's from the person #1 begging me not to take action.  Often they are in on the joke, or find it amusing or whatever.  I further don't differentiate between offensive posting from aliases vs. non-aliases.  An asshole is an asshole regardless of his hat.  On the rarest of occasions, a post will be offensive enough to me that I'll pull it without prompting by the offended party.  Since this comes up repeatedly, I went and tallied up the denied posts on my boards.  At this time, it's a mere 18,466.  So, if you think the board isn't being policed, I can assure you that your head would spin clean off if we allowed every post for just one day.

Though I'll add for the record that I have NO problem with posts that are "offensive."

What I dislike is aliases being used in the sense they are being used in this case.

But you know what? The world is full of things I dislike and in reality, that's okay; because if the whole world and everyone in it conformed to whatever I like, it would be a pretty boring place.