Hello Gents,

In preparation for a Q & A panel I am participating in I am looking for some feedback from you regarding your expectations when you meet with a provider.  This is working on the assumption that you have already done all the preliminary screening work and appointment set up and are about to meet.

What are your top 3 expectations when the door opens and you meet the provider?

This can be a first time meeting or a meeting with a provider you have seen previously.  I am looking for feedback on environment, energy, experience.

Thanks so much for your help.

Jul

Personally, I expect her to be made up as if going on a date, ie hair, make up, showered. I expect a nice pedicure, as I love pretty feet and a good attitude. After all, it is a fantasy Im paying for! I also expect her to deliver as advertised. I in turn, show up freshly showered, treat the lady with respect and respect her boundaries.

For me, expectations fall under two categories:  "must-haves" and "nice-to-haves".

And I guess my 3 Major "Must Haves" are:

1)  I must find her sexy and physically attractive.
2)  She must have good hygiene, and she must expect the same from me.  
3)  She must have at least 1 skill set where she really excels in the bedroom.  So, for example, it might be that she's a good kisser, or that she gives a great BBBJ or that she is good with her hands and knows how to touch me the "right" way or that she is good at fucking.  She must show me that she's really good in at least 1 of these skills for me to be a satisfied customer

1. Quick turnaround on emails. Same day would be nice but at least 48 hrs.. Quick and efficient communication during the day of the appointment.. For e.g. If I have appointment set up at 11:00 A.M, and I send a text at 8.00 A.M. to ensure that I am on schedule, I don't want to sit there an hour or two waiting for a confirmation text back...

2. The emails should be worded properly - in proper English.  

3. Need to know Geography.. If you live in DC area and providing in DC area, then I shouldn't be the one telling you that Dulles International Airport is NOT in downtown D.C.  . You should know this. Read my last review..

4. The appearance should neat, tidy and clean.. Clean breath and nice smelling hair.. Not to mention clean and fresh pussy..  

5. If you are hosting incall, please provide me with ability to take shower when I come.. Please provide with mouthwash and fresh towels..  

6. Offering drink when I come in is nice but not required....

7. No gossiping about other hookers and Johns. I really don't care who said what to you on the boards..

8. Ability to hold pleasant conversation is a must if you are GFE provider..

9. Please don't discuss Religion or Politics on first date..  

10. A Thank you email after I've seen you is nice, but not required..

11. Don't bitch too much after I review you.. Don't threaten to blacklist me.. If you don't want review you should have told me before coming. Review is my megaphone to sound off. But do read..

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The top three for me are:

1) Matches physical information I was able to obtain through research (body type, weight, attractive face).

2) Warm greeting (hug and a kiss usually).

3) Something to drink, usually water for me.  

The environment I just expect to be clean, and have some way to shower at least after if not before

I couldn't have said it any better. I'm not a foot guy, but I do expect that she has make up done. I don't ever attempt to negotiate, the ladies time has already been posted on her site. But in return I expect that she is prepared. If a lady feels that she needs more to be ready then she should post that. I in turn am always freshly showered and shaved including below, I always have minty fresh breath and I take a listerene spritzer in with me.

(All comments based upon the ladies I see being in the $500-$800 per hour range. Some I continue to see often, and others I would have liked to but don't because of the below.)

1. Hygiene:  3 major areas that, if she falls short, I will not see again. First, keep your kitty, and the lingerie you put on it, CLEAN. Ladies, ladies, ladies, you don't think you smell 'off' because you are used to the smell. It takes more than a babywipe to 'become fresh'. Unless you have a line out the door, it doesn't take much showering to make yourself fresh. Once you do that, also put on a fresh pair of panties. Not the ones you had on when the last guy was there and he made you wet. Your wetness on cloth is a breeding ground. Even if you only do wash once a week, having 20 pairs of panties/G-strings takes up so very little space.    

Second for hygiene, please leave enough time in your weekly schedule that you can eliminate nasty stubble around your kitty. If you are going to allow DATY, having stubble down there increases the chance of you, and him, picking something up from the other. If flossing is to be avoided to avoid micro cuts, what do you think is happening to a guy's tongue with vigorous licking that can happen with DATY?

Third for hygiene, avoid odiferous foods an hour or two prior to a date showing up. Really crimps the desire for DFK when you taste like lunch.  

2. Connection - Use the name I gave you in screening emails, during the date, and mention some things from the emails we shared ahead of time. It shows interest (even if fake). Shows you spent a few moments thinking about me before I showed up. If doing an incall, show me where to put my stuff, where you would like us to sit, etc.  As we do the initial chat, stay close and use your hands in a caring manner (touch my leg, hang up clothes I take of, etc.)   And once I cum, don't act like a switch is thrown and become all business-like. The best ladies keep a consistent demeanor during the date. Finally, if you'd really like to see me again, send me a 'hey I had a great time' email within 24 hours afterwards. In it mention something specific about the date or things we chatted about, not just a "Hey baby, I had an awesome time" cookie-cutter line. My ATF's have mastered this Courtesan behavior and get repeat business from me.  

3. Atmosphere - Have enough light on so that I can see my way around, and see you. If you have a two-room hotel suite or apartment, have the first room be brighter. Save the candles for the bedroom area.  Make sure the bathroom vanity area is orderly. Have a fresh soap and towel all ready for me. Added plus, that always, for me, has led to a future return visit, is coming into the bathroom as I shower (let me know you've come in) and offer to soap my back. Very erotic. (Again not something a "line-em up at the door" woman will want to do for obvious reasons, but if you advertise as a 1 or 2 guy a day type, figure out a way to make this work.)

For the above, I have found the below age 30 ladies to be less aware/less concerned with these things.    

Ladies looking to always improve their encounters are becoming more rare in this industry. Each one of the above by themselves may not keep a guy away, but added up, it reduces the chance for a return in the long run. I've seen a number of ladies resort to the perpetual 'new special' to entice return visits. The irony is that when all the little things are done well, the need for 'specials' become rare.

Thank you very much for your detailed response.  Your feedback is very much appreciated.

Look like your photos
Have fun and act like you enjoy your work
Treat me like you want me to retur

I expect her to look like she does in her pictures.

I expect her to be freshly showered and "ready to go"-by this I mean alert, awake and sober.

I expect an out-going personality and a willingness to spend our  time together "in the moment" The biggest problem I've encountered over the years has been being with some very beautiful women who just were NOT into being there.

Beyond those three things it's all up for grabs. Neither of us can control the "connection" factor.  That's either there or it's not.  If it is I'll be back, if not then it will probably be a one time only appointment.  That's not always a bad thing in my book.

Proper presentation. Don't dress like a buck-n-a-quarter whore.
Clean
Smile and a kiss

Hi Juliet,

My expectations are:

1. Be playful in our email exchanges. Seduce me before I am even at your door.

2. Be punctual. Please don't tell me you need another 15 minutes to get ready.  

3. Wow me when you open the door. A pretty dress, lingerie, stockings and garter belt....make me weak in the knees before you have even closed the door.

Per your request for feedback, I will group my comments into the three areas (environment, energy, and experience) of your concern.

Environment:  Within the last year, I have seen a dramatic decrease in the quality of the environment within an in-call location. I had a provider bring her small pet dog to a session earlier this year. I have had providers leave the television on during the meeting. The beeping from a cellular telephone is also a constant issue. I generally do not enjoy being engaged in conversations about the provider's personal life. A discussion of a provider's boyfriend (or ex-boyfriend) is not appreciated. A provider recently pulled me into a discussion about her recent abortion procedure.

In any event, other responders have mentioned the correct touches (i.e., beverages, candles, music) that are generally appreciated by hobbyists. The gold standard for provider behavior regarding desired in-call amenities was supplied to me in an encounter with a Boston-area provider (Ally Moore).

Energy:  I believe this category can also be referred to as "effort." The two key factors that I believe providers should focus on are (1) making a legitimate effort at intercourse, and (2) making a legitimate effort at multiple orgasms.

(1) As a hobbyist, it is easy for me to orgasm during oral sex (during the first round of sex play). A provider needs to take the initiative to make certain that some attempt is made at intercourse. If intercourse is not attempted in a session, I will almost never repeat with a provider.
(2) As a hobbyist, it is fairly easy for me to have a second orgasm (even in a one-hour meeting). In my opinion, it takes a small, but dedicated amount of effort to make certain a hobbyist achieves a second orgasm during a meeting. I will rarely repeat with a provider that only offers one opportunity for release.

Experience:  One of the cool things I like about meeting providers with many pages of reviews is when they go out of there way to make a positive comment about their experience with a hobbyist. Some providers have seen hundreds of men during their time in the hobby. If a provider with such a wealth of experience can impress upon me that I am special or unique in some manner, then it really makes the experience with her shine. I am a sucker for compliments. Genuine compliments go a long way in making a visit with a provider worth the price of admission.

I hope that a few of my comments are beneficial. Best of luck with your panel discussion!

Keep in mind that I almost only dabble in FBSM

1. Convenience:  If in-call, have a shower and clean towels available. This could also be clean sheets, having some ambiance setup, offering water  and being on-time.  

2. Quality:  I would prefer to be given the choice of oil vs lotion. Either way, whatever you have make sure its of quality and not strong smelling. This could also be your attire, cleanliness, makeup, ... Etc.

3.  On answering the door, a welcoming smile, maybe a hug and some small talk. Then, taking me by the hand and leading me to wherever we are going really gets me going. Those little things make the world of a difference for me, it's all about the experience. That why its called GF-experience not GF-act, it's the experience that sticks with you, not an individual act.  

 
#3 can make me excuse any deficiencies  in #1 and #2. That first few seconds, for me, set the tone.  I've been setting up this appointment for a while, reading your reviews, looking at your pics, driving in traffic to get you (almost always) and I'm nervous until the door opens. What happens then tells me if my choices up until now have been good and what is about to happen I will enjoy. Granted that isn't always the case, but 99/100 the first 5 seconds indicate how the entire session will be. (Just like my previous post about answering the phone). Maybe its confidence or experience or maturity that know to star off on the right foot. On the negative side, maybe you're having a bad day, your last session was with an a-hole and that experience is still with you or maybe your reviews are over inflated. A experience from start to end mean more to me than the one act of a HJ. I've had great HJ's in a mediocre experience and I'll forget them.  Give me a mediocre HJ in an outstanding experience and I'll keep coming back.  

 
Hope this helps

Greet me warmly with a big hug and kiss (If that's something you do.)

Give me your full attention for the full time that was agreed to.

There are obviously more, but those 3 go about 90% of the way to making a great session.

Nice,
1) face
2) tits
3) ass

i love the CER girls..Clean..Erotic..Ready..

"Did my heart love till now? Forswear it sight!
For I ne'er saw true beauty till this night"

"See, how she leans her cheek upon her hand!
O that I were a glove upon that hand,
that I might touch that cheek!"

"Wisely and slow; they stumble that run fast

1.  Friendly attitude, especially if its GFE.  I absolutely love it when a girl treats me like I'm the only  
     man in the world.  It really melts my heart.  
2.  Be the girl in the pictures.
3.  Perfect hygiene.  
4.  No-rush session.  Don't start rushing me out the door saying "I have another client in the  
     parking lot waiting."  Not something I wanna hear.  
5.  Don't ask about the donation.  The envelope that I dropped on your vanity has the correct  
     money in it.  Don't ask how much is in there.  Had a girl do this and I was scared shitless    
     waiting for the cops to kick the door down.  And don't count the money in front of me the way
     she did.  I felt like a whoremonger and she made herself look like a cheap Motel 6 hooker.
6.  When I knock on your door, after you've given m the green light to come up, be ready.  The  
     girl mentioned in #5 spent 10 minutes in the bathroom still getting ready.   If you're not ready,
     I can wait very patiently

I expect my date to be clean, smelling fresh but no perfume, and dressed neatly for the type of date. If it is incall, then she can wear what she feels comfortable wearing. If outcall, dressed not to attract attention when coming to my hotel. She can change to more provocative attire once in my room.  
   
I expect her to be excited to see me- with a smile and a big hello with a kiss--a peck on the check if we haven't met but more if it is a repeat date. The offer of a beverage is a genuine show of class. If I am hosting, accepting one from me, even if only a bottle of water and not wine or other adult beverage. Sharing a beverage is a nice ice-breaker.  
   
And I expect her to be genuinely interested in enjoying me as a complete person, not just a guy to try and get off as fast as she can. I believe in sharing pleasure with each other; pleasing and being pleased. I connect best with ladies who share something about themselves, likes, dislikes, etc.  

After the deed is done, it is nice if the lady gets a warm washcloth to clean any mess from Mr. Happy. At the conclusion of our time together, an opportunity to shower is appreciated.

1. attitude
2. skills
3. looks

Before we meet, be a good communicator. Prompt on email/text and in proper English. There's no sense telling me your classy irregardless of the setting if its not true. (The previous sentence has 3 mistakes. Did you spot all 3?). If/when we speak on the phone, your voice, inflection, and manner are -extremely- important. If I don't know you, and haven't seen you, that's all there is to judge by.

Treat me as you would like me to treat you. I'll be respectful, friendly, happy to see you, and I won't be thinking of anyone or anything else while I'm with you.

Hygiene. OMG. I've been lucky with this, thank God. I arrive showered, shaved, lightly scented, teeth brushed, mouthwash, the whole deal. With dates that include a meal, I bring my own toothbrush and use it before the private fun starts. Please, meet the same standard.

After the sex. Cuddle. Talk. A hot washcloth is nice, or baby wipes. A little pampering goes a long way. Perhaps ironically, _I_ often send thank you emails if I've had a good time, and providers who do that go up on my list as potential repeats.

Unlike many, I don't mind light chitchat about the hobby. I -know- what your business is, so respectful and/or humorous references don't bother me at all. I actually find this intimate and trusting, in an odd sort of way.

In a few words, imagine this to be a civvie date with someone you'd really like to see again. Treat me that way and the least you'll get is a good fair review and I might become a repeat....

1. I expect her to be the person I connected with in the first place.  I make most of my arrangements after meeting a lady at a meet and greet or through an introduction from another provider.  We either hit it off in person or through email and/or phone conversations and that is who I want to meet when we spend quality time together.  If I am paying for her time I expect her to be the charming lady I found her to be in our initial meeting.

2. I expect a safe/discreet environment/vibe.  Seedy hotels or dirty apartments in bad neighborhoods are not comforting and can make the experience uncomfortable.  I don't expect a suite at a five star hotel or a luxury pad in an exclusive community, but something nice, quiet and clean is not too much to ask for.

3.  Finally, I truly expect a GFE.  I want to be treated as if I am the man she has been waiting for all day.  I want to walk in that door and find a sexy lady that wants to make me feel good for the time we are together.

Take him and cut him out in little stars,
And he will make the face of heaven so fine
That all the world will be in love with night
And pay no worship to the garish sun.

If I have never seen her before then my three things I want to see when I open the door are:

1. She look very much like her pictures
2. She is dressed like she wants to see you as much as you want to see her
3. She greets you with a smile and in a way that makes you feel welcome, safe, and wanted

 
If I have seen her before then my three things I want to see when I open the door are:

1. She is dressed in an outfit she knows I would love or in an outfit that she feels the most sexy in
2. She greets me in a way that will make me feel like I am special and not just a steady date
3. After she greets me, she simply smiles and allows me to believe there is no other place she would rather be

Looks like the person in her photos.

Freshly showered, we have a sense of smell too ladies.

Treats me like the man she has been missing, warm washcloth clean up after is VERY nice touch.

That she be beautiful from the inside out...  that's all I need and all I hope for when I meet someone.  The outside in is always nice but this is better.  I can usually tell in the first few minutes; maybe less.