I understand from a client perspective why it isn't as engaging to date civies but have seen many women lamenting the bore that is dating a civie.  

For most hookers, coming right out and telling a prospective date she's a hooker is kind of a non starter in most cases, just like a man telling a girl on the first date (or even the fiftieth date) that he fucks hookers.  

I have a double life, and it's extremely hard to balance. Cus if I'm trying to hang out with My personal life people, then randomly get an appointment at the same time , I wanna take that appointment lol... So it's hard to manage most times. That's why a lot of us do try to book appointments way in advance because I personally need time to plan what I'm gonna lie about for that block of time to people In my civvie life.  

Angst in dating? Whats the big deal? I'm currently single but don't find dating nervewracking. Just a different mating ritual one to the other. I guess the p4p angle takes the fear of rejection away (or more accurately shifts it around) but the possibility of rejection in the civvie dating world never really bothered me.  

Dating a civilian not in the hobby is a thousand times harder than winning a million bucks out of a slot machine.  It's even tougher to get the 2nd or 3rd date in the real world. The women who is allowing you to take her out wants you to be open and honest from the start. They want to see you have money and they are very picky in most aspects of what they are looking for. They don't settle and they are looking for that one in a million guy. They want an instant connection which is based on truth and respect. They would rather be single than date the wrong guy. I'm looking for the same thing in the real world. Until I find it I am here playing with you. Your right the pro is more fun.  

"others are simply too socially inept or downright repulsive to date civvies"

that dating civvies is a bore.

Your right.  

If I was single I would not tell a girl I was a monger. I don't think you owe it to a new girl you met to tell every aspect of your life.  

Trust me I don't bring it up. My life experiences usually scare them away.  
Im looking for someone specific.  

You made a blanket statement "you don't sleep with these girls on a first or second date"  

1.   Never kiss on the first date.
2.   No sex until at least the fourth date.

I find that it's the clients who have unrealistic expectations... at least, emotionally. Some of them are incredibly vulnerable to the love rush - or, even seek it outright. They lose sight of the fact that it's not real with me... that the emotions they feel are a product of their OWN needs - that if they feel infatuated with me, it's actually just some desire they are projecting, or something that has arisen from their imagination, rather than a genuine reaction to me (the actual me, not the escort)

You nailed it again.

Is that if I have any desire to be with a hooker beyond the physical, I rarely if ever shower her with gifts, flowers or more importantly "Platitudes about her appearance" and the hotter she is, the less likely I am to make a big deal about her looks.  

provider or not, dating has challenges
my sister who is beautiful,athletic, senior in college and has a job at a reputable financial firm still has heart breaks in her dating life

Yup, I agree.  
I've never had a problem moving between civie and provider worlds.  
Sometimes I think I'm not sure the fairy tale is there anything r isn't.  
Yesterday I met someone thru a friend.  
Very pretty, way too young for me but nice. About thirty minutes into our wine she told me she had to tell me something.  
Turns out she was a dancer, paid for her education and now is top paralegal in a fancy firm in the area.  
She waited for my answer which was " I was a door bouncer in a topless bar when I was a cop. Lived with the bartender for a few years, our house and pool had more strippers in it than I could count. They got treated as normal people because they were"  
End of subject. We had a great afternoon.

If someone is constantly adoring and admiring toward me, it's exactly as you said - it's annoying, and not only that, it's objectifying. It's not real, and has nothing to do with me. It's just another way of using someone else as a means to gratification.

Once I have an "empty sack" any clinginess I might have had goes right out the door and I too want some alone time. Unless of course we fall asleep together, that about the only thing I want to do together after sex most of the time when in a "real" relationship.

The only thing i will agree with is that i can see how being in a relationship with a provider can have its challenges.Now i cannot speak for anyone but myself.

Lie or find a guy who is very non judgmental.  

Well said.  
I correspond to,the same belief: we all have pasts when we meet someone.  
I'm not about to,explain or apologize for mine nor do I feel I need to know her's.  
And she damn sure doesn't owe me a reason for supporting herself and her kids.

I don't like to sleep together. Eat, drink, fuck, and maybe hike or sightsee or something (although I mostly prefer to hike and sightsee alone, so that I can follow my own whims. I went sightseeing w/a friend last weekend, and got stuck in an Ugg store for 45 minutes).  

At least "not yet" or if I have fucked her, it's very new relationship because after the first week or two, the only way I am taking a woman to the shopping mall is at gunpoint. lol

If somebody WANTS to take me shopping, that's a strong and showy statement. It's like saying... 'See what I can give you if you are MINE? See how rich and happy I can make you?' He wants me to see him as a benefactor of some sort. He wants me to feel grateful.  

It's probably impossible to date and provide on the side at the same time-- for scheduling reasons -- especially if you are trying to keep it secret from your date.

When I was young it was all about meeting a girl in a bar and seducing her THAT night.  I still pick up MILF's at the gym and have sex on the first date (I'm 56), but generally only if they show an interest in me first, because I don't have time for a bunch of "courting" BS.  I prefer hobbying, because I can have sex on my own schedule, often morning sessions, and don't have to cater to someone else's availability, but its always fun to see if you still have the skills you had when you were younger to seduce a woman in a few hours.

Everyone has a past, but its irrelevant unless you plan to live there.  I have had discussions with some of the providers I have been especially close to about whether they would ever tell their SO about their past as a working girl.  The majority gave the same answer as you; that every time they got in an argument, the man would be throwing her past up to her, so they would never have a boyfriend or husband that knew.

I would hate to think that I had become one of those guys who HAS TO fuck hookers because he can't get laid any other way.  

When really, you're dry as a desert and totally turned off by their tit-for-tat attitude.

who likes a lot of compliments? I've seen some pretty gorgeous as fuck women in marriages with men who never compliment them. They lose their glow.

and that doesn't go just for dating, or even only with the opposite sex. I just almost never split a check, unless it's a whopper, like one I split with a fellow monger a few years ago that was well over a grand. But for a normal tab, either I pick up the tab or someone else does, splitting up a fifty dollar lunch tab just seems so cheap and petty to me. My default answer to "do you want to split this?" is "No, I'll get it" Actually most of my friends will fight you for the privilege of picking up the check, and that's the way I like it.