I think I am unusual here b/c I go through phases where I see escorts (it isn't a steady hobby for me and I always have verification issues as a result).  I've generally been a long-term relationship guy, my first escort was around the time I was breaking up with a girlfriend of many years in my mid-twenties.

Time for you to cut the cord, take a break, then see someone else.  I had to stop seeing one that I had a dream getting married and having 3 triplet daughters with.  I woke up and said oh no.

First of all, plan on hearing the advise that you don’t want to hear.  Possibly some light slapping around via written words here.

One other suggestion. Talk to your wife about your desire to have sex with her more frequently. Visit some websites on how to respark sexuality in your marriage. Unless your wife is menopausal or has physical issues that make sex uncomfortable to her, focus on pleasuring her once a week. Get a hotel room and a babysitter for your kids.

I will admit I do have a hard time relating to your situation. Honestly I can't imagine having sex only "a few times a year" especially if you indeed did marry "out of your league", But then again I don't like porn either so I have to conclude we are just very different people where it comes to our sexual appetites.

I'm almost 60, never married, no kids and I have a consistently high rate of failure in 'traditional' relationships. So I'm not the guy to advise you on your marriage or kids. Except to ask you to consider this: If the marriage is no longer working for you, why are you still married?

At the moment, she’s your ideal sex partner. Don’t overthink the feelings that come with that.

If you keep seeing just one person, you will either become attached to them or begin to hate them.
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The solution in either case is always the same ... spin more plates.  

Well, what are you gonna do? Give up your wife and kids for a hooker?

best way to get over a girl .... is to get over another      theres lots of super hot pussy out there.   check out a 10/10  $800 girl and you will realize there's better out there    

You're in lust, not in love.  You haven't stated how the provider feels about you, and that makes me wonder If it's just a one-sided infatuation.  

Very spot on narrative.  One thing to remember, above all, the lawyers are the ones who make out in the short run, and you get stuck with the financial support of your spouse and kids in the long run.

Although it may seem a little brutal, Snake has done you a favor by laying out precisely how this will most likely play out.  For married guys, considering a provider of any age to be more than a one-night stand can only lead to trouble.  If you're single, have some money you can afford to burn, and you will not cause collateral damage to other people that you care about, then go for it.  It might be a wild, albeit an expensive, ride you will never forget.  As a married guy, considering all the factors you laid out, if you do this, its like walking up to the roulette table, putting ALL of your chips on "0" and getting ONE spin of the wheel at 35-1 odds. If you wouldn't do that, then don't do this.  

Really? It would have been easier for me to fall for somebody when young. Now I don't feel anything for anybody.

have a Corvette AND a Harley?  

No  
A bus pass and a bicycle

midlife crisis was not as intense as some of the other guys here.  Lol

This is obviously a girl's bike, so it couldn't be the one that Tini has.   The wheels are pink and there is no actual seat, just a rod that slides into her pussy.  

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The original, undecorated bike was ridden by Lance Armstrong in the Le Tour de France. The top tube is horizontal (men's bike), not at an angle (woman's bike). A REAL man doesn't worry about the pink butterfly wing decorations on his $500,000 bike.

I bet you they'd be fighting over a bike like that in places like SF, W Hollywood and Key West to name a few. lol

the Queer de France, I bet he has a lifetime of hemorrhoids.  Real men ride a bike that has an actual seat, not just a pole to sit on.  I'm surprised you don't know that already.  But hey, if its comfortable for you, go ahead and ride it.  Its a pass for me, no matter how much it cost.  Lol

you'll see there's probably a seat there but it was cropped out, just like the tops of the handle bars. So you'll have to get your hemorrhoids somewhere else.

is like some I've seen, it would be testicular or prostate cancer.  Hemorrhoids don't look so bad after all?   Lol

about testicular cancer. Bike riding is my preferred form of exercise and I've done thousands of miles on bikes. Yet my prostate is fine and so is my PSA. Last time it was only 1.6.

Only a few people will get that joke, and that’s ok. It’s only meant for them. I’m not going to explain it. 🤣

but half of them are already on this thread at least. lol

and told her to go pedal her ass on the street.  

She doesn't even like you enough to date you.  

From experience you are better off just cutting it.  Best case scenario you will be dissappointed worst case she may try taking advantage of that & your feelings.

....and realize she has the same relationship with you as she does with others.  It is totally deflating but helpful for perspective.  

I sniffed HER seat, but not the one on the bike.  Lol

Twoon we need your take on this!

Early in my hobby career I fell hard for a girl 15 years younger than me.  I was mid 40s, she was around 30 with long slender legs...I will never forget.  My daughters were in elementary school at the time and I thought about just walking away to be with this escort I had just met.  She was perfect for me.  I was upset that I had gotten married before finding her...why did I get married?...I should have waited.  

I know where you're coming from, I've met a few providers that I desired, and I could not get them off my mind, saw them whenever I could, and the mind wanders and the fantasies proliferate.   But the women come and go.   To make a break from your life as it is for a provider, you've got a hard choice to make.   I know there is a hard pull from this voice in your head that saying to you, "this is the only life I will ever have, carpe diem, just do it, you only live once."        

All good advice here Dude. Probably the most over discussed subject in hobby forum history. My very first provider sat at my kitchen table and being a stone newbie she gave me a tutorial with plenty of do`s and don`ts to guide me in my journey. She wagged her finger at me and said "The biggest mistake that guys make in the hobby is falling in love with a provider, don`t do it, it`s a one way ticket to hell!!" And I never forgot her words and neither should you.

His reply should be attached automatically every time this subject comes up. Do whatever you have to do to try and rekindle things with your wife. ALWAYS remember these providers are award winning actresses!! You'll wind up being eventually taken to the cleaners by the provider AND your wife if you let yourself get carried away!! Honestly it could ruin you--you're too young to be destroyed over something that you have a chance to rectify.

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My friend# these ladies are in the " Business" of sucking you in!!! Please don't think for one second they like/ love you# Just pay for your mental/physical releases the provider gives you. Don't ruin your life/ marriage/ kids over sexual " healing" . You're better sitting in a bar everyday over a couple beers and venting our frustrations. Its cheaper too $$$.

You are not unique. Sometimes people experience an intangible, inexplicable, chemistry. It transcends looks, social strata, and common sense.  It’s not manufactured or anticipated. It’s just there and extremely powerful.  It controls your mind and emotions. It makes you take ridiculous chances that can ruin your life. You may have a great marriage, family, career, and stable finances yet seriously contemplate throwing it all away. You imagine idyllic scenarios with that person. It continually captivates your thoughts. It’s analogous to what a cocaine or Chrystal meth addiction must be like.  

Well said, articulate and spot on. Pay close attention to this poster who I think has been there, done that.

What he said. Especially the "BE CAREFUL."
Note that doesn't mean run away, avoid, cut it off, etc...
Just be careful. Don't take your home life for granted. Don't assume she feels the same about you and even if she does, that it would stand the test of time.  
Enjoy the experience. Invite her to OTC lunch/dinner after a session some day. Give her the opportunity to open up about her real life. Earn her trust and build trust in her. Maybe you're her favorite client and if wasn't for age, or whatever....That may be all there is and ever will be, but that's not so bad IME.

All of us slobs have met providers who gave us a sense of the butterflies with their charm even outside of the wrestling activities, just in their conversation etc. I’ve had few gals I would consider to have been actual buddies we talked or emailed with no date planned etc. had dinner OTC after most dates. , there was one gal I felt we had such great chemistry with that I told her if I’d have met you 20 years ago, we’d probally be happily divorced lol. But here’s the reality part,  call her and ask if she wants to go out pro Bono, set back and listen to the crickets as the silence on her end brings you back to reality.  Enjoy your time with her, replay her sweet voice in your head on long drives, but remember a good provider is a master illusionist, it’s what keeps us coming back. There’s another fella somewhere having the same thoughts about your provider friend.  Sounds like ya found a fun gal who is a good escape from reality for ya now and then, make sure ya enjoy it for what it is and don’t goof it up.

Just wanted to close the loop here.  Shortly after posting this, the provider I was seeing apparently got into some trouble herself for defrauding other clients (very long story, not worth getting into).  I felt very badly for her, the reality is she was very young and we all make mistakes.
I think this chapter for her is closed and I wish her well!  It was a nice adventure for me, I think I learned something too.

I heard a story where a SP and client got married...SP retired.

Are providers NOT regular women who just have a really odd job?
Can we as providers not be normal everyday gals who, like every other woman, CAN be a regular GF to someone even if it happens to be with a guy we met IN this hobby?

Forget the sex worker part. Leaving your wife for a younger model is likely to lead to regret. And I don't mean because the leaving the wife part. You're just exchanging one headache for the next.

In terms of leaving a younger model for an older model, sometimes it works out and sometimes it doesn't. It's like playing Russian Roulette.

For a reality check we all should watch the Hulu show The Girlfriend Experience.
I've been married for 35 years to a very toned sexy wife who plays with other guys.  She doesn't want me playing but knows I do.  I've fallen for an escort and the show and this thread have brought me mostly back to reality.  If she stays the night with me next weekend I'll know there's something there B/C it would be "on the house".  I'm not expecting her to stay but I'll offer it over dinner.
Just being with her thrills me so no matter what happens I'm following everyone's advice and just keeping her as a play thing as long as she'll let /accept me.

It should read "In terms of leaving an older model for a younger model," LOL. The other way around doesn't make alot of sense.

Just curious, how old is the SP in question? Are the feelings mutual? Do you know her real name, been to her home, etc?

Joedp… you’ve asked an interesting (and somewhat intrusive)  question… so I took the time to go back thru this topic and read all your posts.  After reading all of  them, I don’t understand what you’re trying to find; or more correctly, I don’t think you know what you want.

You must be referring to:

No, I’m not on the wrong thread.  I tried to be polite and suggest your comments were confused about what we’re seeking , but you didn’t get it. So, I’ll be blunt.  You’re a dumbass, which is why you can’t figure out how to have a good relationship with a woman.  
And I don’t give a fuck what you think of me. I have a fantastic relationship with a beautiful, sexy lady.  Unlike you.

very tightly wound today.  Is your retired provider girlfriend still charging you a donation or what?   Lol

Cour-de-lion (lyingass) is quite well known on this board .. and not in a positive way.
You’re both totally clueless 😂😂😂

one review a year since you joined TER we should regard YOU as the expert when it comes to this biz?  Do you realize how  
naive and clueless YOU sound?  BTW, I provide as much informational content here as anyone else, but you just don't like the style in which I do it because oftentimes, the posers are the butt of the humor.