You better start begging forgiveness and get couples therapy as soon as possible. I would also get a family law attorney ASP. If you don't mind me asking what tripped you up? If I faced losing my son I don't know what I would do.

...when I told the now -ex-wife that I couldn't do it anymore, she went on the warpath and used every weapon available to her, primarily our two kids. Since California was (and still is) much more biased toward the mother, I wound up with visitation rights -- but exercised at the discretion of my children, then 12 and 7! Since Mom forced them to choose between the two of their parents, they naturally sided with Mom. 17 years later and I've only recently regained contact with my son, and my daughter has pretty much put the entire family in her rear-view mirror. Sadly enough, both of the kids want little or nothing to do with her now, so her plan had unintended consequences.

And all of this without the complication of me being involved in the hobby at the time (early 1991). So I can only see your situation as being potentially much more damaging, depending on the jurisdiction and the depth of anger of your wife. Do what you can to protect the relationship with your children --even "part time Dad" is better than NO time Dad.

The house, the cars, etc. are all stuff that can be replaced -- it's truly difficult to replace your kids.

Never,

saw a provider when i was married.(30 yrs)
Now that i'm single,i don't have to worry about the situation you are in.
IMHO,you were wrong by cheating and now you have to face the consequences.
Not judging you man,just my opinion!
I hope your marriage stays together,good luck to you and your family.

with your children.  It depends what state indeed what county you live in, but you can hang on to your kids.  My first wife and I split in 1984,  I fought like hell and got my kids half time.  They now have great relationships with me and my two kids from my second marriage  and with their mother and her two kids from her second marriage and with both their step parents.

The first order of business is to try to save your marriage (in my case, we both wanted out..)  Hobbying and getting caught is not necessarily fatal to a marriage if you both handle it right.

I wish you the very best for your sake, your wife's, and your kids.  You sound like a really decent person.  She should not lose you.

This is indeed a nightmare & I sincerely wish you well.  Immediate couples counciling, by yourself if need be.   Get the very best...  this is not time to save pennies.   (I wasted valueable time & energy on a budget deal when my first marriage was crumbling...  I never hobbied until many years later.  A competant councilor was a great comfort even though the marriage was over, it was what she wanted and all her acting out bad behavior was a means to that end.  Since with no kids, it was an easy call.)
Yes, get legal council in the mean time...   You have some hard decisions to make & you better make them right.  After that it's up to her...

I do not at all want to appear smug.  I do not log onto ANYTHING adult if there is anyone else in the house.  I always SHUT DOWN the computer when done with setting that erases tracks automatically.  If someone comes in and wants to use my computer (other family members have their own), I accidentally shut it down...  OOops!!   I try to be redundant, etc.   Separate e-mail accounts, user names, passwords...  one can never be too careful.  Paranoia can be a good thing.  There is always the human error possibility.

I wish you well,
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need to get counseling ASAP.  As another poster stated, "better to be a part-time dad" than a no show.

Good luck to you.

I hope things work out for you.

Sorry to hear that, but why are you even posting, esp. w/user name if she found out....

....she can dig deeper to find more, & she will.
Time to turn off TER for now goof ball, yea, you are sloppy.

Start DATY on the wife again ..

And be her sex slave for a while. Do what ever position and stuff she likes.