You will see many guys respond with "if she wanted you to know, she would have told you" or similar type responses.

Much of the time these ISO posts are stalkers, of course there are legitimate ISO posts as well from guys who are simply asking if she has resurfaced under a new name or number with no such nefarious intentions, but many times these guys are the reason the lady went UTR in the first place.

I have seen repeatedly on several boards gentlemen asking for information on ladies - "she took her site down," "is no longer advertising," "used to be with such and such agency," "where is she now", etc.

Maybe cuz they are drunk?

f you're asking why some guys divulge info,  as long as the info isn't personal info,  I don't see what's wrong with sharing that on a site that is meant to share intel..

Whenever I see those, I give the same basic line as GaG, if she wanted you to find her, she'd let you know how to find her.  
   
Personally, it doesn't matter why someone goes UTR.  Is she paranoid and changes websites weekly?  Is there a legitimate, serious stalker involved?  Legal issues?  Retirement?  Personal or family issues?  I think we can all think of ladies that fit every category.   It doesn't matter.   The "why" is irrelevant, only the fact of she's off the grid is relevant.    

I agree with GaG on this. While some of those posts may be legit and even out of concern for a former favorite or something, most are stalkerish, and most of those posts do get answered with "If she wanted you to know, you would know!"

This happened to me at one time, right after I was outed and had to do damage control.... A very stressful time, to say the least. A client with whom I had been in the planning stages of a date posted a question on the regional board rather than asking me directly. Luckily, I saw it as did one of my (more sensible) clients...post was reported and removed within an hour.

If my ATF were to advertise, if she was back of course, I'd fake a family emergency or something to get out to see her I'm a project lead with a March deadline so I'd only be hurting myself by taking myself away. My ATF was from an agency that was forced to shut down last year, I found out through inquiring that she retired from the life and started her own business outside the life and good for her/bad for me. I am very happy for her and wish her all the best success in this next phase of her life, no doubt she'll succeed in anything she applies herself to, she is that strong of a woman, while being incredibly sweet. But to your question when all of that first went down I was frantically trying to get a hold of her, to no avail of course.  

Some guys want to meet ladies they know are difficult for the masses to find and book. You know...it's about that exclusivity factor.  If they successfully get a date with her, then they've infiltrated that small circle of men, and tons of people feel special when they get to be a part of an exclusive crowd. Or they just want to see that "it girl" that they missed and hope that if they keep emailing her, they'll catch her when she needs money idk. Some ladies pull their site etc and go UTR but still want new clients, they just can't be in the spotlight with photos all over the net. So they may appreciate guys searching for them thru back channel. Idk it's negligent to post about these women on public boards through, b/c they may be dealing with a privacy issue. In some cases it's dangerous to back channel UTR whereabout's too. If a guy is a current client, it's best he ask her permission before passing on her info or confirming she still provides.  Not all guys are discreet though, which is why you see tons of the posts you refer to on these boards.  

So perhaps she didn't have my personal information. The reason why I would persue her is she was the best I've ever had looks and performance so if she was still out there but did not have the marketing talents (this was taken care of for her by the agency) perhaps she was still available. I found out she retired, and as I said good for her I wish her all the best in her next phase of her life.

She tried to make it on TER....but too many nasty posters drove her away.  

I think, if a provider is good in bed, i mean ( A GREAT LOVER), guys will want to keep a tab on her lol. I love getting those emails that reads..

If she has no recent reviews, I just send the girl an email or PM asking her if she's still around.  ISO posts seem stupid, IMO cuz it's much better to contact her directly and just leave it at that.  No need to dig further especially when there are plenty of others to see.  

You are normally fun, lighthearted and yet your response today seems...I don't know how to describe it. You asked a question, I answered honestly as I always do and always will regardless of whether anyone thinks I'm a mangina (I actually like being called that based upon the descriptions of what that means

And delist from TER you'll still find it exhilarating that some dude(s) are trying to find you?

Because I've been wanting to be a smart ass to those posts, for sheer fun.

My comment to you came out dry, sorry sorry

Weird last couple of days....

I always got her personal number for subsequent trysts.

Perhaps, the guy wasn't sure if she really left the business in the case of leaving an agency. The agency has all the client information, perhaps the lady doesn't have the marketing skills that have been taken care of the entire time she's been in the business. There are a thousand different scenarios other than what you posed, and of course yours too. I wasn't stalking, as soon as I found out she retired and moved on I was happy for her, honestly. If she were to resurface I'd find a way to see her as soon as I could. Some people just connect with others, even if it's for only 3 hours at a time, and if she was putting on a show, acting for me, then good for her she was convincing as hell. I would never, ever, cross the line with her or any provider but I enjoyed every moment of every appointment I spent with this amazing woman. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that, after all isn't that what I'm making a donation for, her companionship?

I just added a few to show there can be different reasons a man reaches out to someone UTR or retired. Or tries to find her..... Then, I put "idk" to indicate "I don't know" as if there's no one size fits all, so you know, idk why some pursue a UTR girl b/c there can be lots of reasons.  

but the agency closing was, well as most of you may know a LE bust to some extent, I suspect at first she was spooked that she could get dragged into it to some extent. I never saw her other than through the agency, she was loyal to them, and this speaks volumes to her integrity. She could have asked me to see her away from the agency at anytime and I would have been there, and she knew it. We communicated other than through the agency, I was always traveling to see her and I would ask which hotel she was staying at so that I could stay at the same place, after she took my legs away from me rocking my world I did not want to have to drive. But she respected her agency, and so did I, as I wouldn't have never met this amazing woman had it not been for them. Also, it kept the line real and tangible. I'm not a fool, she's hot and young, and I'm neither. But spending time with her was precious and I cherished every moment, and wow, she rocked. But all good things come to an end. I feel I'm a better man for having known her, if only for a short time. And, honestly, I'm very happy for her. She's moved on to a new phase of her life, she's such a strong and yet sweet woman she deserves every good thing that could happen to her and she really will succeed at anything she applies herself to.

I'm not in the "hip and with it" crowd, I don't always know the abbreviations. And besides, this must have been your honest opinion, which I respect. It's just not everyone's experience, and that's what I was attempting to convey. Clearly, I am not as articulate as I'd like to be when writing in here as it seems I've been misinterpreted many times. I wear my heart on a sleeve as it were and give my responses honestly and freely, I'm not concerned about being labeled as a mangina, in fact I'm proud of that designation.

So you didn't call her private number...or text her..or email her?

He's been posting photos of some hideous women lately so I assumed this was another, no I'm convinced she is hideous.

Ran an inn...took in poor Cosette...fucked up Eponine...rolled over on valJean...

If she liked you one tenth as much as you liked her, she would have found a way to reach out to you. Actions speak a lot louder than words and you were a client to her and nothing more. She chose to disappear, and if you care for her even a fraction as much as you claim to, you will put her wishes first and allow her to disappear into the night.

to find out what hotel she was going to be at on tour so that I could get a room there too, the whole not having to drive after she rocked my world thing. Although I had a cell number of hers I didn't call her, we saw each other for 3 hours at a time, and just because I had her number doesn't mean I should misuse that trust. As a matter of fact, she called me once, to let me know she had a cancellation so if I wanted to start our appointment early and thus end early so she could get more sleep before her flight in the morning. Of course I said yes and we did. so, when it all went down I emailed her, the email account was closed, I tried texting her to find out if she was OK, no response. I posted discretely on her a couple of times and because of a vague description of her another hobbyist PM'd me to ask me if it was her I was asking about, after I told him yes, he told me that he had seen her at a M&G and another agency was trying to enlist her for lack of a better word. But she told the agency owner she was going into her own business, which she had told me she was working toward while I was seeing her. It was that moment that I was happy for her, and I discontinued all further attempts to contact her.

Again.. I don't think I am allowed to have a say in this shit.
I am not rich. So I still see the girls here as women.... Peers?  
You know??? Regular friends you could talk to???
Where the fuck did they go?
I need a teacher dammit

An example on the nyc board tonight.
The OP was looking for one of the girls from a high profile agency in ny that was recently busted in a similar high profile fashion. The girls all scattered and most went Indy.
Many threads have been started on multiple boards in the region, looking for these girls.  
The OP didn't flag it as such because agency is obviously delisted.
I mean that they're entitled to ask about the public knowledge of such displaced providers, not to stalk them.  

The agency was suddenly shut down, approximately a month after I had last saw her. We had talked many times during our appointments and she told me she was working towards and saving for her business outside the hobby. There was never any indication that she was uncomfortable with me nor any reason for her to be. I'm an easy client, I don't ask for anything outside of what a lady provides, I never try to negotiate, I give exactly what is asked and I am the clock watcher, she doesn't have to be, I respect her time. Being that we had just seen each other a month prior to the unexpected agency closing and things were as great as they always were I'm convinced she didn't stage the agency bust and have the news post stories that the agency was busted and have the agency close the site (but just for me). Do I think I was anything more than a client to her? Hell no, I'm not a fool. I would be invisible to a woman like her if it weren't for the arrangement, no fucking doubt. I did try to find out if she was still active for a short time, found out she retired and I did move on and there wasn't any need for me to "allow" her to disappear into the night, she did.  

that Jennifer Connelly is an incredibly beautiful woman

I'd FEEL a sense of loss. I'd WISH she was still around. I wouldn't dwell on it (for any longer than was the kind of bittersweet pining you hear about in Country songs), and I'm pretty sure I wouldn't ACT on those feelings. Believe me, if I acted on some of the feelings I had a few years ago I'd be famous-- and history-- and not in a good way. Having nothing to with women.

People who have invested in me. A couple girls, and a couple guys.

If you you have to ask where I am, there's a reason why you don't know. Of course, I'd keep my regulars in the know.

As are CPA and GaG.  Women have a right to turn the page and guys who can't let it go should examine why they can't.  To me, these are the guys who've bought into the whole GFE thing and bought the fantasy that she really gave a shit about them
Two examples.  One of my favorite gals has dropped out of my world with no explanation.  I have made no effort to contact her.  If she wants to get in touch, she knows how.
Another favorite (and well known gal here) moved on and we said our goodbyes.  She just got in touch yesterday with a few close friends to let us know she's making a brief return.  I told her I 'd be out of town but to please let me know the next time she returns.  If she does, I'll try to see her.  If not....

ask about delisted providers by name. It had over 50 likes last time I checked. If a woman goes through hell and back to remove every shred of evidence regarding her hooker persona from the net, it's a pain in the ass when guys are out there blabbing about her old name, email and phone number. What some of you don't realize is that it pops up n google. There are threads here that if you google a provider's name, that thread is already in the search engines with her name in it.  

Jennifer Connelly is gorgeous, so is Megan Fox as well as Sophia Bush.

Your subject line should read "ladies WHO can't be found."  The word "that" is reserved for objects, not people.  Conan is certain Cosette would no want to "objectify" a fellow provider.
Thus endeth the lesson.

I'm very happy to know all is well for her

To read every post on that thread, freaking shocking and frustrating. On local boards it's every day or every couple of days. I don't get it, there's ads every day, women being available, you'd think that be enough without trying to get someone who isn't advertising. Human nature.

Touche, yes you are correct, I would not want to objectify.

that Miss Cosette is technically correct, according to a Q&A on the Chicago Manual of Style.

Good job.