I am relatively new to this hobby,(I saw my first NON-MP provider in 1999). I think I a well above average in the way I treat women and above average in looks. Anyway in the course of this hobby I have had conversations with providers that inevitably leds to the qusetion...Do you have a wife/girlfriend?
When I  ask the same question, more often than not I get the I dont have a boyfriend but I could never date a guy who participates in this hobby.  
What gives, what could possibly be wrong with the men in this hobby?

. . . we're sneaky bastards who can't be trusted to keep it in our pants!  They might figure we probably already have a wife or girlfriend anyway, and if we're cheating now, why not later too?

On the other hand, not all providers feel that way.

Many women have double standards as well.  We/they'll do this for a living, but we/they don't like to get involved with the guys who get involved!

Polyamory is probably the best way to go!  Then there's less possessiveness and ownership in the relationship, and more likelihood of understanding exploring one's sexuality doesn't necessarily mean lack of love or abandonment!  xo Faye Desiree

Reouble Standard????????????

I think that this response is oftentimes a sort of defense mechanism for a provider, a way to let the providee know that this is just a business transaction and to nip any ideas he might have of asking the provider out on a real date, etc.  Or perhaps it's just a somewhat hypocritcal prejudice.  But I wouldn't sweat it.  I mean, really ask yourself, would you really even want to date a provider in the first place?  Don't get me wrong, this is not a dis on providers at all, some of the more intelligent, interesting women I've ever had the pleasure of meeting have been providers.  But I certainly wouldn't seriously get involved with one, at least not while she was still active.  Friendship, yes (and I have).  But it just wouldn't be worth the stress of the potential dangers these ladies are subjected to.  Ironically, It'd be like being involved with a cop, worrying about their well-being every day on the job (aside from the obvious fidelity issues).

Reouble Standard????????????

As Papercup says one factor may be trust.  Also some providers view anyone who sees them as a person that can't get it any other way. Also I have also heard providers say that they wouldn't want to be involved with any man who would allow them to continue in this line of work.  Some of the above may say more about the provider than the people that see them.  In any event I do not believe these views are shared by every provider but do reflect the views of some.

Reouble Standard????????????

I have only met three providers who I would like to see outsie the hobby, and I maintain close personal relationships with 2 of them(the 3rd lives in another town.  We have broached the subject of being exclusive on several occasions but a requirement is they quit the buisiness.....and we all know the answer to that question. So I thought at the very least now that we are "dating" I can save money and retire from the hobby!!
WRONG it seemed like the minute I got the green light to call and come over and get "pro bono" therapy the excitement was gone.
I guess the old saying its true.....